Poster says of a women’s comments:

      “I see your boyfriend has a speedo. Well that's progress, now next a thong.”

Women replies:

      “No, he wouldn’t wear a thong, I already asked him in a joking way.
      He just wants more of his legs to be tanned because he used to wear the long shorts.”

Next poster asks:

      “What's his reason for not wanting to wear a thong ?”

Women replies:

      “I don’t think you really want to know why he wouldn't wear one,
      it would only discourage you from wearing it. 
      He just thinks wearing a speedo is enough, nothing less. A thong isn't something he would wear.”

 Next poster says:

      "We really want to know why he won't wear a thong."

At this point I edited the post so that it reads:

      "We really want to know why he won't wear a thong."

And added the following comment:

      ONE of the RULES on this board is you DON'T bug the few women who post here.
      She declined to answer the question so DO NOT bug her.
      This thread is about xxxxxx location in Florida,  NOT what her boyfriend feels comfortable wearing.

To which the prior poster answers:

      “You know I wasn't bugging her. 
      Today is June 1, 2009.  You edited my post on the 24th of May. 
      I think that if I were trully trying to bug her
      I would have ask the question on several occasions within the above time frame. 
      If she never answers or answers until her hearts content it matters not."
And continued with:
      "please do not accuse me of something I didn't commit."
     
While the poster argued that he had not personally asked the question before but my point is the question had been asked and answered. It does not matter if one guy asks all the questions or each ask a question in turn, the cumulative effect is the same.
 
I think it gets to be pestering when a person wont take no for an answer, and asks again saying “We really want to know”.  

This sort of behavior adds to women feeling overwhelmed and turned off by the men on this board.   Over the years we have had women join and start posting about their experiences only to have them quickly stop posting when men start to ask detailed or personal questions, either in follow up posts or direct PM messages.

Maybe I am wrong about this but I think we will have a better forum if more women participate.  For that to happen the men have to back off a bit an understand that women don’t want to be interrogated. 

In the above case the conversations between a husband and wife, or for that matter boyfriend and girlfriend are private and privileged.  If they want to talk about it fine, but you don't have a right to know and you should not be prying into matters that they chose not to disclose.

For example if a women talks about going to the Beach you should not be asking her exactly where she likes to setup and what time of day she goes: If she thought that was relevant she would have told you. 

If she posts about likening a brand of swimsuit don’t ask if that brand turns her on or if she has tried getting off on single string suits.  Unfortunately some men don’t seem to understand when their actions, either individually or cumulatively with others start to become noisy.

So did I do the right thing by putting an end to that line of questioning at that point?  (Note that I have now, a week later, gone back in and cleaned up the thread by removing the comments and counter comments.)

Which reminds me:  To all the Men, please do not send any PM’s the women on this board.  There are 10,000 men and if just a few of them start to PM a women she quickly feels overwhelmed and never comes back.  Several women users of this board have previously told me of this problem.

As rule I dislike extra rules.  I prefer a live and let live attitude coupled with a respect other peoples choices and space, but maybe we need a new rule.  If what you want to say to a strange women can’t be said publicly as a reply message on this forum you probably should not be saying it at all, so do we need a board rule that men on this board shall not send PM’s to women?