Very rarely do I have to ban users. Normally the ban is because of spam.

However one person kept up a relentless attack on another users credibility, even when asked several times to stop. If you have a concern about a user bring it to my attention. Let me handle it. If you don’t like my decisions just move on. Go talk about something else and if you don't trust that user, just ignore their posts.

This message board is not a social media site for finding potential dates. If someone has not posted in the contact section of the board inviting others to go to the beach with them you can assume they are not interested in meeting others.

Nobody on this message board has the right to demand other users prove their identity. People are entitled to disclose just about as much or as little of their information as they wish. That suits most people, many of whom are worried about the reactions of friends, families, co-workers or employers, should they discover the user is a fan of thongs.

A persistent problem has been men, attempting to contact women, through the message board. I am sure they consider it just an attempt to be “friends” but it drives most women away. Don’t do it. 

Don't try to identify where and when they thong, who they are in real life, or otherwise act as detective. The internet is vast, and you are not the internet identity cop.

Over the years I have heard from a number of women who find this not just creepy, but frightening as strange men from the internet contact them and try to find out more about them. Don’t do it.

If you want more posts from women, and to know more about what they are actually thinking, publicly post a reply thanking them for their posts or opinions, but don’t message them directly.

Nobody owes you pictures. Nobody owes you explanations of where they live, how old they are, their relationship status, sex or sexual orientation. 

If, by chance, you feel dubious about the veracity of someone’s posts, please put on your big boy pants and just ignore that persons posts.
If there really is a problem refer it to me, the moderator, and then just MOVE ON. 

For the most part women can put on a thong and hit the beach with less worry than men. So it tends to be men who come to this board for social and moral support.
We have a problem with a few men who are not comfortable around women, or who have a chip on their shoulder. Some who are angry that women get to wear smaller swimsuits without getting into trouble. A few outright misogynists, and one or two who are just uncomfortable with women, “looking upon them”. This we can deal with.

However we have a few who are stalking women on this board. They may not realize their honest attempts to be “friends” comes off as creepy and stalking.

We have a few who are sore that their “requests” / demands for women to prove their identities have been rebuffed. Some have taken this to extreme, by virtually stalking. Going back to examine the users posts, to point out any discrepancy that for them confirms their suspicions about veracity. This obsession with the veracity of someone’s identity is ALWAYS a man, and is ALWAYS about a women board member.

After repeatedly warning a user, who then said “I didn't know it was possible to harass fake users” I finally banned them. Undaunted they are determined to continue their campaign, saying “I'll just create another user name and come back over and over again.”

Willfully engaging in, malicious, and repeated attacks on someone’s reputation or varsity, without a legally legitimate purpose, to the extent that you cause them emotional distress, is cyberstalking. In most US states it is now a crime.

The Florida the definition of cyberstalking is “engaging in a course of conduct to communicate, or to cause to be communicated, words, images, or language, by and through electronic mail or electronic communication, directed at a specific person, causing substantial emotional distress to that person, and serving no legitimate purpose.”  In Florida this is a felony level crime.

You don’t have to threaten harm to be charged under this law, only cause substantial emotional distress. This is very similar to the law now enacted in most states.

Continued harassment based on suspicions about another users sexual identity or veracity is not a legally legitimate purpose.  I will not tolerate it, even if you think your actions are not serious enough to be criminal. 

The primary reason for the existence of this message board is the exchange of information about makers of thong swimsuits, and where you can wear them in public. Using it to stalk women members is a misuse of the free service.

If you want a service where the identities, pictures and sexual orientations of all the users are verified before you browse for mates, then subscribe to Match.com or similar services.  This message board is not a dating site.

People who harass other users, or aid and abet others in the harassment of users, will be banned. If you suspect someone’s veracity you have two options, contact the moderator, and/or put on your big boy pants and ignore their posts.

Understand that many users are specifically vague about their real life identities and/or favorite beach location, because they don’t want the company of random men from the internet.

I am a little annoyed that I have to take the time, on this wonderful sunny day, to again address this issue, when I could be out in the sunshine, fixing my boat, or on the beach. 

Please, act like gentleman, and don’t stalk the women. If by accident a women takes offense, don’t dig a deeper hole for yourself, just apologize and move on. “A true gentleman is one that apologizes, without trying to explain, even though he did not intentionally offended the lady.” - - This too takes courage.