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luv2werthongs

Date Posted:04/14/2004 07:27:11

When my wife and I were dating I convinced her to wear a thong to the beach. She has a very petite body and looks great in it.

I have always loved thongs, especially on women, and always had the desire to wear them myself. So shortly after that I said that since she was wearing one maybe I should. I had never had the guts to wear one out in public but since I was with her and she was wearing one, I decided to give it a go.

We went to a secluded beach where we did not know anyone and enjoyed it very much. We ended up going to this beach often because we could thong and not worry about people we knew. The occasional person or couple would walk by and see us in our thongs but no one ever said anything.

After a while my wife mentioned that she did not like me wearing thongs and that it did not turn her on. She was not supportive of my exhibitionist tendancies. She would rather see me in short spandex shorts or boy shorts. I began wearing those with my thong underneath to appease her but every now and then took the shorts off to thong.

Nowadays she thinks I am trying to excite myself by wearing thong underwear or swimwear and that it is not sexy to her. I think she thinks that I am being gay cause I wear thongs. What can I do to make her more accepting of my desire to wear thongs? How can I convince her that it is not gay?
JM_Runs #1

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/14/2004 10:05:05

Your wife is probably worried about what other people think.  The problem is that women in the US are brought up to think the opinions of others are more important than their own. So what the teacher, father, priest, mother or aunt thought is important.

She knows you are not gay, but she is worried about what other people think. Both of what they think of you and what they think of her, because you are with her.

Remember, after the stone in her ring, you, her husband are her proof to the world that she is not a little girl. Some women get to think of husbands as ornaments of a successful adult life, like houses. (Actually you come fifth in importance, the stone is first, the house is second, your money and the kids are third and forth, and you are fifth. If you get a divorce you will find that out.  You get you, and maybe a little share of the kids and the money, but only because a mean judge says so.)

You will have to probe gently to find out why it makes her uncomfortable. This is a good test of honesty in the marriage.

Before trying to address an issue, make sure you get not one, but all the reasons why it makes her uncomfortable. This is very inportant.  Don't just ask her but give examples that may be true.  For example ask if ____ were to see us together and I was in a thong, how would that make you feel?.... and why ?   Good car salesman do that.  They make sure they know all the possible objections before they start trying to close, otherwise they are fighting an up hill battle.

Your biggest problem is that you have to show her that you are not trying to attract other men or women to compete with her. You have to find a way to show her that when you are in a thong you are focused on her.

Since you two thong together in an out of the way place..... one idea comes to mind.  How about taking along the suntan lotion that has glitter in it. A bit greasy but fun to put on because you need to rub it in well. Get her to lay out and spend a full hour applying the sun screen. Most people I know like a good massage. Not only that, she will be thinking of other people who see her being pampered by a man in a thong. Every women likes to be pampered.  They also like to have others see them being pampered, it makes them feel like queens. (Other sort)

Can you re-connect her mind so that when she sees the thong she knows she is in for a pleasant massage ?

JM_Runs #2

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/16/2004 01:22:55

Sounds more like thongs on a guy might not be her thing, that's all. If she thought you were gay, I doubt she would suggest the square cuts. Wouldn't she insist on dork-shorts to prove you're like all the other "regular" men? Might just be her taste!

You could always ask her...

Tongaman #3

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/19/2004 01:32:34

My wife has kind of changed her thonging tune over the last 14 years of marriage as well. When were alone she loves me wearing a thong, and usaully leads to sex. But she doesn't like it so much when I wear a thong in public, or around the kids. Yeah she SAYS "I don't mind, wear what ever you feel comfortable wearing"  But I can tell by the tone in her voice what she really means is "I wish you would exercise a little modisty and really don't care to have your butt on display for everyone to see" She stopped wearing thongs (outside of the bedroom) about five years ago with the birth of our second child.

When the new SKINS catelogue comes in the mail, she always tries to encourge me to dispose of it, so the kids don't see "that "gay" looking catelogue" ...(I just put them away somewhere with the rest of my "gay pornography")

luv2werthongs #4

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/26/2004 02:55:30

Update-

So I spoke to my wife about it and she said she would feel more comforatble if I did not walk around in my thong. She said it was OK if I wore it while laying out but If I decided to get up and walk around, I need to put on some shorts. Fortunately my square legs qualify as shorts in her eyes. So the good news is she is not interested in me being an exhibitionist but doesn't mind the tanlines.

Happy Thonging!

JM_Runs #5

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/26/2004 08:08:33

Sounds like a small victory to me! Well done! just make sure you wear thongs every time you lay out, and throw on the square cuts to walk around to keep her happy for a while. She may get used to the thong idea a little more over time, and then relax even more in her attitude, and you'll be in thongs 100% of the time. Patience is a virtue!
Tanned Bum #6

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/26/2004 10:45:03



I guess your on the right track, Would you wife let you wear a speedo or bikini? Maybe start getting skimpier and skimpier. My wife started me with a speedo type and now to a thong. She just brought me a white one which I wore the other day. I actually had to ask her to go a little more conservative for me. I'm not a beach walker in a thong, basically I have my own boundries.( I don't wander to far from my towel) So I was shocked when she suggested we play a game of catch.


Take baby steps with your wife and she will come around.


JM_Runs #7

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/27/2004 12:22:40

Reply to luv2werthongs,

Congratulations on speaking to your wife about it and listening to her point of view. Understanding where your partner is coming from can be a tremendous help. Make sure she understands that you are not wearing thongs to attract other women or men. Make sure that when you are in a thong she is glad to have you around.

I had a recent experience with a women that may help. She is in her 40's with teen age children. She is interested in me and likes the beach. We arranged to have a picnic lunch and some sun time on her day off. 

She does not have a fabulous figure and wore a conservative one piece suit. Not the shape of women I am normally attracted to. She was aware that I used small swim suits but had never seen me in one.

Before we got to the beach I made a deliberate attempt to pay rapped attention to her, to listen, and to value her opinions. On the beach I discarded my shorts and shirt. I think she was more than a little surprised at my thong.

That after noon I made sure she was the center of attention. Took time to make sure all her exposed skin was well coted with sun tan lotion and that it was rubbed in consistently and sensually.  We played in the surf and acted like teens.

One of the ways you can make some one glad they are with you is with displays of affection. On nude beaches any public displays of affection are frowned on. On ordinary beaches they are fine. Your partner may be a little surprised at first. You are bound to get the, "But people are watching."   To which I answer, "We are only kissing, there is no harm in that." And truth be told, people kissing in public is good. Children should know that adults like each other and that kissing is ok.

There was a women near by who kept looking at us. I said that I thought the women was envious of the attention my partner was getting. She looked at the women and then turned back and smiled at me and said "She is jealous because I have a gorgeous man like you."

As we packed up to go I stated to walk off with the cooler. She called for me to wait. She then put an arm around my waist and we setoff together. As we walked in tandem past the women who had been watching she smiled at her. It was a big smug smile to say, this one is mine.

The key is to make sure the beach is a special time that is all about them. It helps if you can follow up the beach by a private romantic evening. Make dinner for the two of you and spend the evening talking over glasses of wine.

75texasthong #8

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:09/12/2004 12:59:05

Reply to : luv2werthongs

I totaly underatand this as i am now going through it.  I have been wearing thongs since me and my wife got married. This week i wore them everyday and she made the comment that i would get more sex if i did not wear them. She says it turns her off because she thinks of a gay stripper. I told her i liked them for the comfort etc, put on another thong and went on. She is 6-months pregnaant so it seems she is commenting negitively on everything. you know nag nag nag.. She isn't always like this but she has mentioned my thongs negitively and ask me  "what's the deal with the thongs" several times before. (not pregnant) She comes from an overly religious family and really has a low sex drive so this may be it. She wears thongs herself everyday. I would like to get her into the swimwear mode but seriously have my doubts.

Anybody else have this scenerio???

Ryan Booth #9

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:09/13/2004 01:19:23

Texas Thong,
 
I think with a successful relationship there has to be a bit of give and take. If your wife wears thongs then I can't honestly see what the problem is with you wearing them. As you've mentioned before she links it to a gay stripper. I don't really comprehend why that comparision should make you stop wearing them. If you said that you didn't like her in thongs, no doubt she would go mad saying that you didn't love her no more etc. The best course of action is to stick to your guns and continue wearing thongs. On the few occasions you will have to relent but she should give you something in return. It's all about give and take.
 
Regards
Ryan
JM_Runs #10

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:09/13/2004 02:39:23

In reply to 'Texas Thong'

You said 'she made the comment that I would get more sex if I did not wear them.'  Sounds a little like emotional blackmail to me, unless you are wearing your thong to bed.  Assuming that you are naked by the time you get to sex, what you were wearing earlier in the day should not matter.

But you are missing the big picture.  What is going on is she is six months pregnant !!

At this time women are often insecure about them selves. That is especially true if some of their self worth is based on how they look. (Almost all women)

It??s natural for a women who is pregnant to want reassurance that her man is faithful and will be around during and after child birth. This is a biological need. There are many ways, big and small, for you to show your faithfulness and continued support. It??s important for your relationship to spend the effort. Think of ways to show you love, care, and emotionally support her. Make sure the message is getting through.

It??s natural for a pregnant women to feel insecure about her attractiveness and self worth during the last months of pregnancy. Other women instinctively understand this and tend to help with friendly comments, lots of hugs and esteem building events like baby showers. You in your turn need to help out two. Forget thonging for a few months, make a sacrifice, the birth of your child is a much bigger event than that.

If you don??t understand the insecurities and difficulties with sex that women have in the later stages of a pregnancy then try doing some web research on the subject.

75texasthong #11

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:09/13/2004 03:39:41

Reply to : JM_Runs

In reply to'Texas Thong'You said'she made the comment that I would get more sex if I did not wear them.' Sounds a little like emotional blackmail to me, unless you are wearing your thong to bed. Assuming that you are naked by the time you get to sex, what you were wearing earlier in the day should not matter.But you are missing the big picture. What is going on is she is six months pregnant !!At this time women are often insecure about them selves. That is especially true if some of their self worth is based on how they look. (Almost all women)It??s natural for a women who is pregnant to want reassurance that her man is faithful and will be around during and afte

JM,

I partially agree with you. I probably need to be more supportive etc for her. I do try but i think her hormones are out of wack because any time she gets the chance it seems she is either telling me i need to do this and that or griping at me for no reason. Maybe her insecurity is resulting in her trying to be the queen of the house. I don't know I am just counting the days till our second child is here (i can't wait to see her.) This (queen syndrome) was present with her first pregancy and it was gone after the birth of our awesome son. I am totally commited to her and she knows it. I am going to do more to show it though.

I also think you got stuck on one sentence about trying to get her in a thong. Sometimes typing a message doesn't come across the same as I intended. Obviously I am not asking her to do this as she is pregnant. I am thinking afterwards. Like a year from now at least. Right now this post is all about her dislike for me wearing thongs.

So many times on this board we talk about how thongs are justr underwear and that's how it is to me.  Is it wrong for me to continue the thong underwear when that's mainly what i wear?

JM_Runs #12

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:09/13/2004 04:04:30

Reply to Texas Thong,

 Re:  "Is it wrong for me to continue the thong underwear when that's mainly what I wear?"   There is no right or wrong, it's just underwear.  If you need to give it up for a few months it's not a tragic loss.  

Maybe she equates wearing a thong with looking atractive and avalible to people of the other sex.  She may therefor see your wearing a thong as 'advertizing' your avalibility, even though it's hiden under cloths.

It's posible that she has been talking about your thong wearing with others.  (Thats fair, you have been talking about it with us.)   It may be that some one else has told her that "I would not let my man do that."   This opinion will pass with time.  Make her feel secure. 

Maybe after the children are old enough to travel you can spend a vacation on an out of the way Carribian island, where the kids can run nude on the beach and you both can thong in daylight. 

Meentime pick your battles carfully. 

75texasthong #13

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:10/16/2004 06:23:47

Just a little update.

I have continued to wear thongs every day after day. My wife might make a little comment here and there but it seems to less of a big deal. She just kids me by asking if i have my panties on. She laughs so i don't thinks it bothers her.

I recently ordered some from Prevail sport. I ordered some north star thongs. They are great --love them but they are a little more risque looking compared to my cotton  international male thongs i have been wearing. Well the day they arrived she got home first. She called me and complained about th $60 i spent on thongs and how i have so many. She remembers some swim thongs i bought this summer. Anyway that was about it. It obviously was about the money. We are starting to get tight with money because of some things comming up medical etc. So it was a reaction of stress i think. I have worn them everyday since and she has only said "do you have your frilly panties on?" SO everything is back to the norm. I little phone call then it was over.

I think a lot of women feel threatened and maybe a little shocked by their man's thonging. Afetr a while if the subject is not pushed too far they seem to start to realise it means nothing. We simply just like to wear thongs.  If a guy doesn't get to defensive they  get numb and live with it. Hopefully being exposed will help encourage their own thonging.

 

HAsta

clubthongs #14

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:10/26/2004 12:18:05

I know this issue has appeared in numerous threads over the years on this board but I recently had a first hand experience as to the "thongs are gay" issue.  My partner and I just returned from an "all gay" cruise to the Mexican Riveria.  There were 2500 passengers on board and about 10% were lesbian which leaves 2250 gay men.  Among the gay men about 50% wore speedo type swimwear and the other 50% board shorts.  My partner and I wore thongs of course and only saw 2 other men in thongs during the entire 8 days of the cruise.  Therefore  .0018% of the gay men wore thongs.  This is just a first hand example of how thongs should certainly not be perceived as "gay"!
Ryan Booth #15

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:10/26/2004 12:32:29

Clubthongs,
 
You've summed it up perfectly. Now all we need is a national television advert explaining the facts and figures and people might stop stereo-typing.
kawasaki #16

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:10/26/2004 04:57:58

Reply to : TexasThong

Hi TexasThong: nuff said man. What you are are describing is exactly the same for me and my friend. His and my wife had exactly the same reactions. But remember (and you know) they getting used to it if they see no threat in it. BTW: the four of us are going for a trip to a hotel in the snowy Alps in january...... with sauna, jacuzzi, swimming pool: happy thonging for the 4 of us! Curious for the reactions of the women when they see the other friend also wearing thongs in the swimming pool

Greetings, Chris

showtime20042005 #17

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:10/27/2004 12:00:59

I hate to say it, but my impression is that most women don't think a guy wearing a thong is sexy, even though many women wear thongs to be sexy. It's a terrible double standard. Why can't a guy be sexy, too?
Corby Killian #18

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:12/14/2004 05:38:06

Tell your wife, Just because a guy is wearing a kilt doesn't always mean he's a Scot. He may look like a Scot because of the kilt, but he might not be a Scot, he might be English! LOL. And, just because a thong on a guy may look gay,  doesn't always he's gay.
jn9195 #19

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:12/14/2004 09:37:23

Just because a guy in board shorts looks like an idiot doesn't mean he is.  
nadathing #20

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:12/30/2004 06:16:08

That's right. The guy in the board shorts simply may be too embarrased to wear anything less. Poor guy.
JM_Runs #21

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/09/2005 08:20:20

I guess I have to consider myself pretty lucky. My wife has always been ok with me wearing thongs as underwear, but I have not worn them as swimwear around her before because she has made some negative comments about people (ok, women) we've seen wearing them at the beach. Well, yesterday we were out enjoying our pool and I'm really determined to have a minimal (i.e. thong) tan line this year so I went ahead and wore a Prevail Sport med thong that I have. She didn't say anything for a while and then started complementing me on how nice it looked and how she liked seeing me in it & asking about how comfortable it was and so on. So that hurdle has been crossed. :-) It will be nice to be able to wear thong swimsuits around now, and who knows, maybe when we go to the beach together too.
sailhoopsbare #22

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/10/2005 09:07:11

Flnkdguy

Have a similar experience. A few months ago, I started wearing thongs or g strings as underware regularly, my wife didn't mind and once even said I looked cute! Two weeks ago we were in Fort Lauderdale and I had on a g string under my bathing suit. I had gone down to the beach ahead of her and didn't take off my bathing suit right away. ONce she got there I asked her if she cared and she said no, so I took it off and enjoyed the rest of the day in a Suit You, g string, I was in heaven. The next day, we went again and I tried it, she didn't mind but there were some adolescent boys there and were making comments aomng themeselves, my wife suggested that I put my shorts back on over my g string. I did, because at that point there were quite a few families around. Nonetheless, she was very cool about it, which surprised me. By the way she will NOT wear a thong or even a 2 piece. Part of the reason is she had surgery about year ago and she has an abdominal scar about which she is very self concious but I don't think she'd wear one anyway, she thinks she's too old.
JM_Runs #23

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/12/2005 03:15:35

Stungun - been there, done that. After years of on and off arguing with my wife about wearing thongs, she's finally come to accept and expect me to wear thong underwear and thong suits, even in front of our 2 young daughters. It's what Dad wears. We've had discussions over the years as to why I wear them: makes me feel sexy, I look good in them, shows off my hard-earned muscles, less drag in the water, etc. I know she thought thongs were gay years ago, but I assured her (nonverbally), after 15 years of marriage (combined with other things) I am not interested in men, just women, and just her (although she will catch me eyeing other women now and then). Had the same issue with body shaving. You can tell her that many straight men wear thongs. You can't make her feel/think a certain way, but after a while she'll realize that thongs aren't gay. I'm an amateur bodybuilder, so for me thongs and shaving are part of such a hobby.

Don't give in. It may take a while, it may result in a few fights, but in the end she'll come around and accept.

75texasthong #24

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/12/2005 12:28:08

WOW,

Sun4bare it seems we are living in a parallel universe. This is the same with my wife, my thonging and shaving. Seems like everything i do she says reminds her of a gay stripper. I work out hard and I am proud of my calves so i shave them to show them off as well as watch their improvement.. I thong because i like them and like to show off the rest of my body.

Your post struck me because i think she is over the thong thing (nevver a really big deal) but i am now catching flack on shaving the legs. I think a male thonger needs to look fit  and smooth. Doesn't mean we are gay. Possible one of those metros... but i don't wax my eyebrows so not quite- ha

imathonglover #25

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/12/2005 01:31:55

Wow sailhoopsbare, are we married to the same woman? My wife also has an abdominal scar from surgery a couple of years ago, but even without it, she was still very self-conscience about being out in a two piece bikini. (BTW, she never wears anything but a solid one piece suit). Fortunately, she has no problem with my wearing a Speedo on a public beach and although I haven't worn a swim thong anywhere but in our own pool, she has never thought it to be gay for me to wear it or any of my thong underwear.
tomthonger #26

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/30/2005 06:13:14

Let's face it guys, our wives, girl friends or partners, do not like us wearing thongs! My wife wouldn't be seen dead on the beach with me wearing my favourite thong and why ... you guessed it ... because it makes me look gay! The weird thing is that she's quite happy to go nude with me on the nudist beach. Thonging in the garden is ok too as long as the kids don't turn up with their friends and then I "must make myself decent quick".
abczyxabczyx #27

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/30/2005 10:07:56

My spouse does not dictate what I wear.  I do.  It is about the attitude.

tomthonger #28

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/30/2005 11:00:47

I agree abczyxabczyx ("My spouse does not dictate what I wear"), mine doesn't either, as long as she's not with me or I'm somewhere where she feels I should spare other people's feelings or not frighten the horses! If we go to the beach together I wear a bikini which is as brief as my thongs without being a thong or go totally nude if it's a nudist area. I prefer the thong because it's neat and I look better. The male genitalia isn't always nice to look at ... a good fitting thong is much more pleasing. I still get to wear a thong on the beach but alone or with my like minded friend ... he's not gay either!
JM_Runs #29

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/01/2005 11:18:03

To begin with, I have been wearing thongs and then g-strings since I was early high school.  That was 25 years ago,  I am about to turn 40 at the end of this summer and I have been married for 17 yrs.  When we first dated I always wore my thong to the beach and my now wife did the same, but even before I met my wife all the women I dated would go to the beach with me and I wore my thong swim suit.  I guess I never gave it a second thought about what I wore to the beach.  I live on the west coast of Florida and love to go to the beach in my thong.  I feel now days that a thong is to much to wear to the beach so I just wear my g-string from skinz.  We have a pool at home and I wear my suit around the house all summer long.  My wife has mixed emotions about my choice of suits. It seems that sometimes she likes them and other times she doesn't . (That's a woman for ya) The other day we were out at the pool and she said why don't  you just lay out nude.  I told her I like the feel of the suite, like most I feel sexy, I am tall and lean in good shape (swimmer body) but what I told  is, the older I get the more my bag is getting longer and when I wear my g-string it keeps everything snug and comfortable.  Besides I like the tan lines.  I also keep a clean and smooth look to my package and have only hair on my arms and legs.  I am lucky that the hair on my legs seems to stop at my thighs so only a little shaving keeps me smooth were I want to be.  Guys, were what you want and your wife will accept your choices.
ButtStrap #30

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/03/2005 10:10:41

Guys, ask your wives or girlfriends when they last saw a gay man in a thong on the beach. That should end the discussion.
imathonglover #31

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/03/2005 02:49:14

That is a good point Buttstrap. I know I probably posted this before, but I had a friend that I later found out was gay. We used to see each other at the gym once in a while and his response to my wearing a thong under my gym shorts was "I wouldn't be caught dead in one of those". I told him that I figured that someone might think of me as being gay for wearing it and he told me "quite the contrary". He said that of all his closest friends, most of them wore boxers, boxerbriefs or just regular briefs. Kinda makes you wonder who is buying up all the thongs in the local stores, doesn't it?
oceanswimmer777 #32

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:07/29/2005 03:48:18

Hi to all my thong, micro, and string friends around this small planet.  I'm nearing 54 years and have worn small bikinis and later thongs for 40 years.  From swimteam Speedos to Parr of Arizona bikinis of the 60's to Dore of the early 21st century.  I've worn my suits with girlfriends and male friends for years. No one sez 'You look gay in that suit".  I used to drive FEDEX in Orange county Calif and would wear a tiny bikini when I sunned next to the Ritz Carlton 5 Star resort in Laguna Nigel and would get very insecure husbands cast our rude comments due to jelousy while there wives would be complimenting me.  Double standard America. I don't care what the sheep think, I will be the individual I was born to be. My current girlfriend designs high fashion womens clothing in Europe. She is very very cool and supportive of what I like to wear. In many countries women go topless or wear thongs and there is never a comment.  She prefers me to wear as daring a suit as I wish to wear for the day. I don't tell her what to think and vise versa.  An insecure person finds fault in anything. I am not insecure and let others look like idiots and sheep if they are slaves to fashion overloads who brainwash them into believing that boardshorts are masculine.  When was the last time a competitor for Mr. Olympic wore "dork shorts".  I can't remember ever seeing the many greatest works in sculptured stone wear "baggies".  Very overweight and insecure people want others to conform to their insecurities by pulling you back into to the fold of sheep where they bury their identities. Individuals are independent things and doers by nature. If God would have wanted you burried under layers of cloth you would have been born a mummy.  Nuf said.  Go think about it and act accordingly. Sheep are followers, even over the edge of the cliff.
skelly24 #33

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:07/29/2005 10:09:20

My girlfriend loves to see me in my thongs.  She got me into thonging securely.  I was always too scared before.  When I dont wear  thong underwear for a couple of days, she asks what has happened and always makes sure to ask if I am going to resume wearing them soon.  She buys me thong lingerie for the bedroom, and loves my Dore thong I just bought.  She likes the more minimal thongs! The less there is to them the more she likes! 

She wears thong underwear exclusively, and will never change. She even thonged in public topless with me last weekend.  I am truly lucky, and I know it... 

ButtStrap #34

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:08/01/2005 03:35:08

Good grief, how unsophisticated can women be on this topic? The fact that male strippers wear thongs has nothing to do with them being gay. It has to do with them being strippers. It's their working uniform, not a declaration of their sexual preferences.

I go to a gay beach. I have not seen a gay man in a thong for at least five years now. Speedos, maybe--thongs, never. It's over, finished, kaput. For gay men who are trendsetters, it's yesterday's fashion, in the same way that wearing a single earring is yesterday's fashion.

At my gym, I have not seen a gay man wearing a thong or spandex or lycra, or anything even remotely revealing for years. Only the straight guys show up in tights to work out.

It's time to put this gay thing to rest. Menswear designers are not stocking Macy's and Bloomingdale's and Target and Wal-Mart with thong underwear because of the stores' gay clientele.
kevinb959 #35

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:08/04/2005 12:06:31

Great point Buttstrap! Distinguishing gay men from any distinctive style is pretty much off the board now. My guess is that gay men do set the style trends. After all they're probably more experienced at it anyway. Gay men have also infiltrated so many looks.Walking through Proviincetown you can see gay guys dressed in biker garb. Does that mean bikers are going to change looks in order to not associated being gay? Of course not. It's a potpouri, when you talk about looks and styles in provincetown.

And the last time I went to Provincetown, I only saw one guy wearing a thong at the beach.

ButtStrap #36

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:08/04/2005 09:27:47

To Kevinb959:

Interesting observation about bikers.

I was in Provincetown about five years ago. At the hotel I stayed at, there was not one gay man in a thong. Most wore Speedo-style suits or square cuts, and a few were in short boxers (no baggies at that time). It appeared to be the same at the beach, at least in the section where I was at.

There is no gay "look" any more. A good example is the TV show "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy." Each man has his own individual style in the choice of clothing and grooming. If you saw one of those guys individually on the street, just casually walking by, would anyone single him out as being gay? With the possible exception of the more flamboyant Carson, I think not.

And I'll bet none of them wear thongs.
75texasthong #37

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/12/2006 12:57:50

some years i tend to wear regular underwear in thw winter months, when spring is around again i start thonging. I guess i don't see myself looking good when white and pastey-ha. Anyway everyttime i go back to thongs it seems to be a big deal to my wife. I get the questions why i wear them etc..all over again.I don't thing a summer has gone by in 7 years where i haven't tanned in the backyard so i don't get why she doesn't just forget all this everytime. After a couple of days she gets over it and everything seems fine. Of course a comment here and there but not anything major. Does anybody else go through this?

just curious.

 

Beachlover492000 #38

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/12/2006 09:20:23

My wife and I have had similar discussions through the years although my situation is a lot more public than yours. I wear g-strings to the beach. In the end she has always allowed me to wear what I wanted so long as she was not with me at beaches where people could make negative comments. That usually means we spend the most time together at Caribbean resorts and not U.S. beaches. Since your a mostly looking to wear thong underwear, and not a g-string to the beach, I don't see where there should be a problem.

Perhaps one of your problem stems from the fact that you go back and forth between regular underwear and thongs. If you wore thongs all year round she might get used to the idea and would not have a chance to object when you switched back.

1Monte #39

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/13/2006 09:34:53

I agree with Beachlover. I used to argue each vacation with the wife and kids, but when I started wearing them year round (especially to work out in the basement in winter) they all got used to them. Now nobody comments when I thong on the beach, and the wife is actually walking with me sometimes while I'm thonging! Stick with it--you'll wear her down!

Monte
scthngbttm #40

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/13/2006 01:33:46

My wife doesnt have a problem with me wearing thong underwear.  I started it as an "accident" we were on way to cruise and i forgot to pack underwear. seriously...I thought she had since she packs for us (i overcomplicate the whole thing with lists and all. she keeps it in her head). she thought i had pack sock and underwear, but I had not. we stopped at target, and i knew they had thongs. I bought one pack of regular string bikini and one of thongs...

later when she found out i claimed an oops and just started wearing them. she thinks it is a little odd, but never says anything. i wear them and put them in the wash with everything else. she washes and dries when i dont get to it. havent tried it out in open. working on body. treadmill, etc. next year (07) hope to go on cruise and thong in public.

ThongLoverOBX #41

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:08/02/2006 11:05:41

Yo Tex ... my girlfriend is the same way. Even though I don't wear thong underwear I love wearing thong swimwear to the beach and pool. She doesn't understand why I enjoy them so much and often makes rude and innappropriate comments about me wearing a thong. Her attitude has been a problem at times because she does not want to go to the beach with me because she knows that I'll be thonging. So this year I went to the beach without her to do some thong bodyboarding, which by the way is awesome! When I came back she had a fit about me going without her. I told her that I thought she didn't want to go because she knew I would be thonging. She fussed and pouted a bit but still brings it up weeks later. She grew up in an extremely conservative (legalistic) environment where just about any type of skin exposue is considered "immodest." We are both Christians and she claims that thongs are "immodest." I tell her that modesty is relative and her definition does not apply in all instances. But of course, she's never wrong (in her own mind). The irony is that I know that she lays out topless every now and then. In fact, I've heard her say a couple of times that if she had the body she would wear thong swimsuits! lol
75texasthong #42

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:08/05/2006 12:35:15

obx are we tied to the same woman? Wierd how it sounds just like my wife. I live at least 500 miles from the coast so it can't be i guess-

I just have gotten into the frame of mind no matter what i do i will hear about it so i do what i think is ok or best. It has calmed down the comments etc. Not just with thongs but other things as well.  I guess if she doesn't get a reaction it is no fun anymore. I haven't been thonging in a while , i have drank way to much cervesa and have a little belly. When i slim down again look out!! She will get over it prettty quick.

wr1944 #43

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:11/23/2006 05:31:15

I had a relation for more than 15 year. She hated strings on men, underwear or swimgear. But from my teens, I was fascinated by small swimgear, so I had to operate in secrecy. There was no way to talk about it and had some understanding. I ordered swimstrings and had it sent to the General Postoffice for pick-up. I had my ocasional day off to the beach (alone) and I had arranged to have two weeks of holiday, to make a bicycletour (also alone and of course to the French beaches). Someday she found out and it started a big row. After a try to come to some sort of a deal, I found it too much a personal limitation so we split up.
I moved to a city at the beach (The Hague, Holland) and enjoy my freedom. When I compare 15 year of relationship against my new freedom, it is slightly in favor of the latter. A relation of that period is nevertheless no peanuts.
Beachlover492000 #44

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:11/23/2006 10:45:02

It's been my experience that hearing adverse comments from other people is what really sets women off. That was what I found from girl friends, and it's been what I've found with my wife. My wife does not care what other people say when we go to beaches outside the U.S. She likes nude beaches and spends her time there when we are on vacation in places like Jamaica. I can wear what I like, and she's happy to join me. But if we are at a U.S. beach, it's another story.

My wife actually likes to see me wearing g-strings in the back yard, and it's OK with her if I wear them at the beach without her. She did get upset when I shaved my body, but now has gotten quite used to it. In fact she has come to like the look and feel fo the smooth look.

It's impossilbe to predict how things come out in relationships. Sometimes the couples can work things out. Other times if thongs are really important to you, splitting up is the only solution. I know that if I had married a few of women I dated that it would not have worked out in the long run.

JM_Runs #45

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:07/03/2007 10:31:54

I found some good advice.  This comes from a nudeist who's wife came around after many years.  >> The Evolution of a Couple
JM_Runs #46

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:07/06/2007 02:33:21

JM, thanks for sharing that inspiring article.  I'm thinking of printing it off and asking my wife to read it.  She might better understand my inclinations, and better accept them.  Having vacationed on Orient Beach last January, we might together see that whole scene in a more healthy perspective than she has cast it up 'til now.  Yes, normal, nice people take their clothes off!  I know she'll never go where the pastor's wife has gone, given her need to avoid the sun, and that's okay with me.  I'd just appreciate a little more open mindedness.

The article was great also in giving me more food for thought in trying to understand myself, such as why I found running Bay to Breakers naked so exilarating and liberating, even though I consider myself neither a nudist nor an exhibitionist.  Athlete, yes, running in a state of nature.  I want to do it again, and I want her to be okay with that.  It's a work in progress.  

thongjake #47

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:07/07/2007 05:27:48

Hi there

My wife doesn't appreciate me wearing thongs in public either.
I've only done it once togther with her. On a beach in Bulgaria. She was not too happy about it but what could she do. I insisted.

She has admitted that the main problem is not that she thinks that men in small under/swimwear look a bit funny. The main problem is that she cares too much about what other people thinks about me. But I do not really care so I continue wearing thongs. Not exactly in public because very few people know I wear thongs. My own closest family know and because my mother-in-law saw our holiday snapshots from our above-mentioned thonging in Bulgaria she also knows.

I continue my 'fight' to make her accept my thonging in public, also by trying to make her do the same.
glutesie #48

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:07/16/2007 05:37:44

Well, wr1944, it's comforting to know I'm not the only one who's had to resort to a PO box rental to get thongs in secrecy. My wife won't thong with me, so I go alone, with just a little regret. She has made some neg comments in the past about wearing a thong, and it's not because of the shape I'm in, she's quite happy with that. I think's it more related to how I will be judged by others (gay, perv, etc.) and thus, that I would be a source of embarrassment to her, should we be seen in public together.

After thinking about this, I don't push her anymore to wear swim thongs or to come with me when I thong. She tolerates me wearing them in the backyard, where she knows no one will see. I just do my own thing now, and she's gotten used to that.
stanpuppy #49

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/18/2009 12:07:15

I have the exact opposite problem, my wife gets upset if i DONT wear a thong, especially if she is.  It happens very very rarely, but it does happen.  Last time i recall, was last labor day weekend in atlantic city.  AC is not thong hostile, but you do not see any men wearing thongs.  I normally do, but on labor day i figured every nj guido thug would be out, and looking to give people hard times (sorry,,,,,just the way it is in NJ).  I just didnt want the hassle, so i put on a micro muscleskins MP bikini.  Truth be told, i probably did leave myself open to any less riducule, as the suit was tiny, and the pouch really put me out there (anybody who knows muscleskins, knows what i am talking about).   Even wife went conservative.  Instead of her WW g-string, which is her standard....she went with an opaque ww thong.  It was funny, when we took off our clothes, she didnt notice, but once i turned over onto my stomach she said.  OMG..what i you wearing?   I asked her why the surprise.  She said, I cant believe you didnt wear a thong!!!

She wasnt really upset, but she did say that she really prefers when i thong along with her.  I guess i am very lucky
sailor25 #50

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/18/2009 12:49:43

My wife got upset today and I was wearing a small bikini.  I just said be happy it's not a thong. Only three people walked by while we where on the beach
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