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JM_Runs #101

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/06/2014 07:44:54

 mello05 - I too would have preferred that all the women in my long term relationships had the confidence to wear thongs like I do.  Early on I would attempt to encourage them to wear thongs, sometimes they did, sometimes they did not. Looking back I think it was unhealthy for me to attempt to change their preference. 

I now love people for who they are, warts and all, and not who I would like them to be. I hope for the same in reverse.
This means I let them wear what they feel comfortable in, what they want to wear, and they in turn allow me the same freedom.

Lead by example.  Real respect is earned, it cannot be demanded or extorted.  If you thong with confidence and joy they may join you, or may not. Either way you should be happy they are following the beat of their own drummer, even if that is out of sync with the dance you are doing.

Thong openly and with confidence. They may follow you, they may not. Hopefully they will be proud of your self-confidence. Being joyful for each others success, achievements and joys does not mean you both need to do them.  If your wife was a chess master or opera singer would you feel obliged to mirror her activity?

Don't worry about "breaking the news to her" that you want to wear a thong on the beach. It is not like you are coming out "gay" or getting a divorce. Either go to the beach and thong, or if you feel there needs to be some form of pre-anouncement so she can brace herself against the cosmic wind - just say "I think, I will wear a thong when we next go to Sandy Hook beach."

Driving along in the car lost in thaught, you say "I think, I will wear a thong when we next go to Sandy Hook beach."  Driving in a car provides time for a good discussion if one is necessary. 

Looking up from the morning news paper just say "I think, I will wear a thong when we next go to Sandy Hook beach."

Just leave it at that. Don't then attempt to coerce her to thong too.  Let her follow her own star.  IF she sees you thong with confidence, then after a few visits she MIGHT thong too. Be realistic, the best way to get people to follow your example is to lead boldly.

Sybok #102

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/06/2014 08:31:35

 Good advice JM
JM_Runs #103

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/11/2014 11:53:15

Thanks for the advice....I will let you know how I make out
mrhb2008 #104

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/13/2014 03:36:41

 Went to the beach a couple of days after Xmas and the GF requested I that I not wear a thong or Gstring. She feels like there is too much attention being paid by the public and it makes her uncomfortable.  I respected her request, but it did feel strange being in the sun in board shorts.  We'll see how it goes this coming summer.
bikinicouple #105

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/13/2014 04:10:44

 In response to mrhb2008 - when I can't or choose not to wear thongs, I wear a bikini.  Have you ever considered that rather than wearing board shorts?
JM_Runs #106

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/13/2014 08:41:46

In the past I was asked to wear something more than a thong, when going with my girlfriend to meet her extended family. Of course I did, but I did not wear board shorts, I wore a brief 'square cut'.  I was happy and she was happy, and when we met them they appeared happy too.
mrhb2008 #107

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/14/2014 04:29:31

 Yes, I have & I suppose she would not mind that, but for that day I chose not to rock the boat.  She doesn't mind the thongs, just the un wanted attention.  If we are at a remote beach, it never poses a problem.
thong1066 #108

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/27/2014 06:40:46

 About 3 years ago, my wife and I went to Mexico and I had told her I was going to wear a thong on the beaches. She was like, whatever. So I did for 5 days on the beach. After the first day I felt so comfortable that I knew I was not going back to board shorts. The last day we went to Playa Del Carmen and there were a lot more thongs on the beach and she was not very happy about the attention I was getting from other women.    That was it for her we have not been to a beach together since.   She had suggested going to Florida for a week since the winter has been so cold. I in a roundabout way I asked her if she minded if I wore a thong, she was like anything but a thong.  So I called Skinz and bought one M54 rio and one M43. The first day there we went to the beach and I stripped off my shorts and she was like what are you doing. I said,it is not a thong,and I turned around. What I got from her was it is close. The beach was not crowded at all. After about an hour of her bitching I gave in and put on my shorts.  The next day I put on the M43 boxer and went to the beach. The sun was really hot so I stripped off the shorts and she did not notice. When she rolled over she was what is this. She had a problem with the front and how my package "as she said" was on display. With that I had enough and took a walk up the beach. The only good day I had was the last day she did not want to go to the beach, so I went alone and wore the new thong I got from Skinz.  I enjoyed the day. Talked to two women that liked my thong. They were wondering were my wife was. So I told them about her, they could not believe she would have a problem with me wearing a thong the way I looked in one.    That really did not help me because I know I will not be going to the beach with my wife anymore. I can not stand to be on the beach in those damn board shorts down to my knees. But it kinda sucks to go on trips by yourself          I think the women were right, they felt that she is just little jealous that I look better in small swimwear than she does. She even has brought up divorce because of me wanting to wear thongs on the beach. Isn't that nice! 
DoreFan #109

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/27/2014 06:47:23

I feel sorry for you thong1066 that your wife is so narrow minded and controlling. Personally, if my wife thought my personal choice of clothing was reason enough for divorce, then so be it. I would not want to be married to someone so petty.
 
tiggerix #110

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/28/2014 11:22:25

@thong1066.  My thinking is there has to be give and take in any relationship - I would hope you can have a conversation with her as to what she likes seeing you in.  If you think you look better in a thong than she does in a bikini, you will probably need a mind shift and start to flatter her (honestly) when you can, like on an ordinary day.  My wife doesn't like them either, but is happy for me to be nude or in a skimpy speedo.  I think if she saw more people in skimpier swimwear she would be more relaxed.  I get freaked when we walk up a beach together and realise we have got to the man zone - where there only seems to be guys.  She is not at all bothered by that.  Basically we are different and when we don't like something we tend to overcompensate, maybe your wife is doing that - hating thongs so much that only board shorts will do.  I would guess she would be ok with something in between.  Hope you can work it out! 
thong_jock #111

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/28/2014 02:11:47

 1066 I would wear what you want to enjoy your vacations. It sounds like you have tried to be flexible and she is not. If your wife is threatening you for divorce because of your swimwear, there's a lot more going on that your skimpy sexy suits. You only live this life once. I for one would rather go to the beach alone and thong than have company and have to wear shorts.
Camloser #112

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/28/2014 03:50:05

 And I disagree, find a suit you and your wife like. If she wants you in board shorts, maybe you can find some looser shorts that aren't so long. Shop together. I would not lose my wife over a thong. I would not go to beach alone either if she thinks your are "sneaking" around in thongs. 
Sybok #113

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:01/28/2014 07:03:16

 I'm forced to agree with DoreFan's post. 
nude2020 #114

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/01/2014 02:48:03

When I started to read all the other posts it seems like our wives have all been talking to easy other on this topic. LOL Anyways I have the same thing. My wife is fine with me wearing a Thong/G-String as long as we are not on a busy beach. Without going into a long story in regards to this. I told my wife I don't stop you from wearing what you would like. All I ask is the same respect. That seemed to work for now until our wives talk again. 
sleazepig2 #115

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/01/2014 10:16:48

 Woman can wear the most skimpiest of gear so why can't guys?
dobbybeach #116

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/04/2014 05:16:27

"don't lose your wife over a thong" sounds like a good comment to me (by Camloser). i never wanted to lose her, but i always stood firm and thongs and g's remain in my drawer. However, i did finally compromise and ask her what she thinks is sexy,which is more of a tight boxer brief. if its comfy and sexy to me then of course i'll wear them for her! Recently, she compromised in my direction and came home with a bunch of see thru bras and panties, which i got to experience for the first time this morning. it was like an early valentines day. hope she makes the sexy underwear an everyday thing
johny_b #117

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/05/2014 02:46:11

 i think everyone, guys and girls need to get over it, thongs are here to stay and there popularity is rising rapidly so if you don't like it simply don't look, they don't complain at nudists camps trust me
thong1066 #118

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/13/2014 04:30:44

   My wifes parents invited us down to Florida since they were going for a month. So we decided to go for 5 days. 2 of the days the weather was not great for the beach. The other 3 days were great 78 to 82 degrees. The second to last day she was going to go with her dad to play golf and everybody else was going to some craft show. I don't golf or care about a craft show. So I stayed and spent the whole day on the beach just wearing a thong. Best day I ever had wearing a thong. I got more compliments on my swimsuit. There were 2 women who were really had an interest in me as I walked past they got up and wanted to know it I was European. I said no, I am from Pennsylvania. They walked with me and we talked and I really enjoyed it. I answered more thong questions that afternoon. We were at the far end of the beach, no one around the one lady asked if that was all me and   I answered yes do you want to feel and she did. As we got back to were they were laying they invited me to  come down and join them so I did. It was nice to have the company I stayed till about 4.  This is were the story gets to the topic. The next and last day we were there we went down to the beach. We took a walk the other way up the beach and she was looking for shark teeth.  We were just about to our towels when I heard I liked yesterday swimsuit a lot better I looked and said  hi and she was like were is your thong. BUSTED  She was so mad she could not even talk. I talked for awhile when the lady  was about to leave she said you look a lot better wearing a thong, and walked away. She would not even talk to me. I said what did it hurt you were not here you did not have to be seen with me. She was like the only reason you like wearing your thong on the beach is to try to attract bimbos like her, you think you look sexy I think you look disgusting, and so does everybody else who walks around wearing a thong. You guys all made very good points since my last post and I read most of them twice. I do not know what I am going to do. I do know I do not go to beaches and wear a thong to look for a women to may be have an affair with. Do I like when I get the attention of a women, yes I do what straight guy wouldn't. I do believe it helps me feel better about myself knowing my wife feels I am disgusting. And I guess maybe the day she was not around I should have not worn a thong on the beach that day. I did not think I would get caught. It was a big beach. I just don't know!
mack_back #119

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/14/2014 12:58:06

thong1066 do you mind if i ask, did you wear a thong before getting together when you meeting your wife? If so, what did she think of you then?

Reminds me of people i see time to time very intolerant about a speedo much less then a thong. The exact words you wrote about your wife saying, is exactly what i hear from others when topic comes up about men in speedo swimwear or any provocative attire .... Have a women that desires me but feel it won't work out because exactly the very thoughts your wife has of you... She has of me... It's so obvious that my lifestyle choices don't equate with her prudish demeanor, or like someone put it, classy lady that is confident, even when she is wrong... What to do...?Even when i show slightist bit of skin she looks shocked like a child... Yet i know she desires me at the same time admiring my body staring upon it gleefully.... She is the first to laugh or be disgusted when the topic of thong wearing for a fit male comes up... Get on her bad side she won't respect you  you simply ignoring me. Then when time passes she becomes polite smiling superficiously as a habit, almost two faced...

I know i look good and my body is excellent when some "bimbo", old or young tells me, wearing  tights or nude...
Suppose it all could be attributed to wanting to cheat on her and she is protective or wants no temptations on your part.... So she overstates the cause making a strong opinion negatively upon your appearance.. Most women in her views would scare males believing they are becoming gay... Thus they threaten divorce if you continue wearing thongs in public... It's probably the women seeking peace of mind knowing her man isn't mocked or cruising for women tempting him, especially at the beach where clothing is at a minimum and sex behind the dunes...or like most put it sex on the beach...
jprob50 #120

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/14/2014 10:23:29

Thong1066,I'm sorry to inform you that you are married to a manipulative, untrusting, insecure and controlling person.
I wish good luck!! We all need to find our partners attractive. If she truly thinks you look disgusting.......It's all over..
Just my humble opinion. Hopefully, I'm wrong

thong_jock #121

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/14/2014 02:37:25

 I would dump that bitch and start living life for YOU first. If you SO says u look disgusting...well those are not words of love.
jprob50 #122

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/14/2014 11:07:56

Thong1066, I just checked out your photos, and you look perfectly acceptable to me.
sleazepig2 #123

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/15/2014 01:55:34

 You look great mate, your wife should be proud you are comfortable wearing them and look great in them.
pkthong #124

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/15/2014 07:05:09

 @thong1066: I feel for you man. It is sad that a small piece of cloth can cause so much grief. My wife is similar to yours. We have come to a compromise, where I can wear a rio in her presence and I can thong on my own. She does like the way I look in them but has reservations about social acceptance, and she does not like dealing with the comments funny and otherwise from our friends. 
 I do think it would be a shame to lose her over this, after all you married her for other redeeming qualities. Maybe approaching it from a different angle would help. My wife did not respond to standoffish confrontation, but a calm and sober discussion is what brought about our compromise. Hope this helps!
JM_Runs #125

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/15/2014 07:36:29

thong1066...you self admitted to seeking AND ACCEPTING attention from other women.  What if you wife did the same thing?  I think you should make more effort to get her to the beach with you.  Clearly she's not quite ready to expose her ass on a crowded beach, but I think ditching her and hanging with other women is a move in the opposite direction.
jprob50 #126

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:02/17/2014 01:58:54

It might be too late, but here is a good article to read. I wish I had seen it two years ago, before meeting my last girlfriend.
Hopefully, it helps some other people out.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/23/11-signs-dating-a-sociopath_n_3780417.html


Baphomet1003 #127

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:04/30/2014 03:52:06

Though my wife likes g-strings on me more than any type of underwear I am pretty sure she will disapprove colorful ones such as pink, purple, multicolor. Most of my g-strings are just plain black and white, and 2 or 3 red/maroon (which she find hot still). I ordered a string that look white on ebay but it was actually some kind of powder blue. I didnt like it but I wore it sometimes, and she actually said the color is too girly. She has not said it directly, but I am also sure she want me to stay fit (not necessarily muscular), fully shaved, and clean, which I have been consistent even before I ment her. *two thumbs up* to those who convinced their wife/gf! =)

OS777 #128

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/31/2014 01:39:49

 This is a very sad link. Sad for the fact that a guy had to ask anyone for permission to wear swimwear. Do your wives  or GFs lay out your next day's clothes?  I find it completely ridiculous to be fettered by any person who dictates mores! Are you a man (individual) or a non-entity?  If you must cower to others why not go to a local animal shelter and live in the cage that you so willingly created?
pkthong #129

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/31/2014 03:37:11

 Kinda OT  but here goes.
Marriage is a 2 way street. As much as I like minimal swimwear, my wife does not understand the fascination that I have with the same.If she was totally unreasonable I would probably be single by now. She has her own social mores and since our friend circle does Not contain any others who are into my choice of swimmers, I need to compromise , but not cave! Therfore I totally understand the theme of this thread.
TennStud #130

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/31/2014 10:00:54

 In her presence, where what is acceptable to her. When on your own, where what you want
Grabeach #131

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/01/2014 12:05:31

I have the opposite experience of the thong / relationship subject.

Just recently, when I finally managed to get my non-communicative wife to seriously discuss our deteriorating marriage, one of the lesser things I mentioned was whether my liberal atitude to what I wore (g-strings at the beach and pools, sunning nude on our balcony, short shorts when working around the house etc) was an issue. She replied, "Of course not", while her facial expression strongly indicated that if we have to have this discussion let's stick to things that matter.

Might have married the wrong woman, but at least she's got her priorities right in this regard.
JM_Runs #132

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/01/2014 07:24:59

 Wife likes me to wear thong underwear but gets very uptight about thong swimwear.  Far more concerned about what others think than I am, yet she gets all nervous and kind of detracts from my own enjoyment ... unless there are others similarly attired, which of course is rare.
showoffmark #133

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/01/2014 01:06:28

 Hey faceless drone. I can relate. My husband is only ok when we are at a gay beach or nude beach. He doesn't like the additional attention. With regard to the underwear, he is indifferent as long as I don't spend too much money. 
bigd9834 #134

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/12/2014 04:51:49

 Men I am glad my wife is ukrainian, she loves me in a thong and doesnt care about what others think, she doesnt even understand why are americans so narrow minded towards the swimwear and wear these long board shorts here. You guys need to get yourselfs more open minded wifes and not some sheeple that follows the crowd.
nospam_TN1 #135

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/14/2014 04:06:46

Here's what this all boils down to:  no one loses their wife or husband over an article of clothing.  If you are doing you duties as reliable, supportive, and faithful partner, and the other one chooses to leave you because they don't like your underwear or swimwear, then your choice of clothing is not the primary cause of the breakup or divorce, but their choice to abandon you is the cause.  If you cheat or become verbally or physically abusive, and your wife or husband leaves you, then it is your fault.  However, if they choose to leave you over some minor disagreement, there are probably bigger issues at play.  It's on them.

A woman who demands her husband to wear board shorts to the beach is no different than a man who makes demands upon his wife.  Both are choosing to make this a make-or-break issue in the relationship, rather than just agree to co-exist with each other's choices.
JM_Runs #136

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/14/2014 04:56:45

I was on a great beach on the island of Corfu a many years ago and was quite taken by the women who were going topless. Being a WASPish guy from NA, I was not offended by this display, particularly given they were mostly younger. There was, however, a presumably middle eastern Muslim couple with the woman virtually fully covered including her head. The guy (who I assumed was her husband,) was overweight and just wearing board shorts. He also had a camera with substantial telephoto lens, and seemed to be shooting (or at least ogling,) the topless girls on the beach.So I ask you, would that man have divorced his wife if she wore less conservative clothes on the beach? Perhaps a thong bottom only?One would be inclined to think yes, he would, and probably be expected to do so, in spite of the double standard associated with the couple's variations in attire at the beach.
I would agree that there are times when a couple should agree to disagree, but there are times when one  must compromise, for example when it makes one's significant other distinctly uncomfortable, for cultural, religious or personal reasons.
My wife is not a fan of thong bottom swimsuits herself, but is perfectly fine with me wearing them at the beach or at crowded pools while on holiday. For that I count myself lucky...Unfortunately, she is less a fan of the beach then I am, so we rarely go places where there are many people - which I must admit is a big thrill when wearing a thong.
I would be curious to know if anyone has had success finding random 'friends with thongs' to accompany them to the beach.I suspect this website alone (predominantly men?) might not be very helpful for matching strangers up...Perhaps there are other social media sites that might help with this task?

J.
Grabeach #137

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/14/2014 11:05:35

I doubt ‘advertising’ for a thong wearing women to take to the beach would be successful, simply because men who like women in thongs would far outnumber women who like men. Hence the odds are against it.

From my experience, going regularly to ones favourite beach and being politely friendly to all women is the best way to find women who are comfortable with your choice of swimwear. Over time, this can lead to a mutual choice to be preferred partners (I like the term beach buddies) when you are both at the beach. While I don’t care what my beach buddies choose to wear, historically there has been an over representation of thong wearers. 
bbyrne78 #138

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/15/2014 03:06:02

@ Grabeach - Thank you for contributing such a sensible response.

I met my husband at the beach when he pulled me out of the surf. He will say it was his job to pull me out, but his buddies will say that not only was he paying close attention to me all day, but because he was the fastest swimmer he got to me before anyone else.

My thong-wearing bestie met her fiance at the beach.

My brother met his thong-wearing wife through work but they got closer by spending time at the beach.

Finally my cousin met her thong-wearing fiance at the beach. She convinced him to wear a thong by telling him that she'd wear one if he did. The rest is history.

The lesson here (I might have said this before) is if you want to meet a girl who wears a thong, you're only going to meet one at the beach, not in front of your computer. If you want one that likes you in a thong, then start wearing one to the beach and those that like a thong-wearing guy, will seek you out. It helps if you're nice, friendly and act like wearing a thong is your natural beach attire. Nothing turns girls off faster than a guy skulking or hiding. It creeps us out.

Love Bren
showoffmark #139

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/15/2014 12:18:42

 Bbyrne78,  great stories and good advise. Confidence is key with relationships. Be who you are and you will be more attractive to whomever you desire. Cheers! 
thong_jock #140

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/15/2014 04:35:27

This topic is fascinating. 
It's one thing to have a partner who doesn't care for thongs, it's another to have one who is intolerant of differences and inflexible in allowing you to be the individual you are and do the things that make you happy. I am gay and came out relatively late in life. When I felt like I was ready to settle down again I sought out another guy who shared my interest in minimal swimwear. Being such a unique fetish, it proved to not be easy, even in the gay world, but I did find a great guy who is OK with it. 
I didn't really get into thongs until a couple years after meeting, even though I always wore posing bikinis. He isn't crazy about them, but he lets me be who I am as he knows he can't change me, just like I can't force him to like to wear thongs. From a sexual perspective, I'm also lucky that we opened up our relationship after a few years since it became apparent that we both had different needs in that department. This poses an additional set of challenges, but at the same time it allows us both to be ourselves without guilt or feelings of animosity toward one another and through this I have developed many great friendships with other thongers who share my fetish. I understand that my situation is unique and not for everyone, but what I wanted to say is finding the right person is about finding someone who loves you for who you are and knowing they will always have your back, thonged or not. It's about knowing you BOTH can be individuals and be completely different, but deep down one a the level of the soul.
Happy Fathers Day to all you Thongin' Dads out there!
Peace out. 
JM_Runs #141

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/15/2014 06:41:11

Many years ago I was married, to a women I met while out sailing in a thong. I was not hiding the fact that all I was wearing was a g-string. A boat load of women who anchored near me made friends. One of them later became my wife.  She kept a picture of me on the boat holding out the jib, in a thong, on her desk at work.  I did not hide my thonging and neither did she.

Today, while I was running down the beach in a g-string, two young women from a central Florida collage came up and introduced themselves. Bbyren is right, thong with confidence, publicly, as if it is the most natural thing in the world. Be friendly while not being furtive or creepy.

Confidence is attractive. A man or women with self-confidence in a thong is attractive to most, but not to everyone. The more self-confidence the more likely it will overcome some peoples preconceived notions. 

The problem for many is their partner does not like them wearing thongs. It can be threatening to a mate, who may see it as advertizing for a replacement. Most people are insecure, so you have to overcome their fear, or perception that you are on the lookout for a trade up and they will be traded in for a newer model. 

This should be a lesson to the young and single - thong openly, publicly with confidence! You will attract the right sort of life partner.
Waiting till later to tell them you like thongs is not going to go down well. You run the risk of your partner thinking you have been hiding your true identity (what else are you hiding?) - or perceived as getting board and branching of in a new direction.
SlimSuit #142

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/17/2014 02:57:08

 JM_Runs said:
"This should be a lesson to the young and single - thong openly, publicly with confidence! You will attract the right sort of life partner."
 
I'm happy that such has been your life experience. But, as the entries in this thread--and indeed all over this board--show, it's not all that simple. If it were we would be reading a lot more entries of like "Wow, I couldn't beleive how I started meeting women when I finally had the confidence to wear skimpy swimwear" or something similar. I would hazard a guess that your experience is part of the 0.01% or less. I have worn minimal swimwear for a loooong time (with confidence), and I can tell you that I've never attracted a woman by that fact.
 
JM_Runs said:
"The problem for many is their partner does not like them wearing thongs. It can be threatening to a mate, who may see it as advertizing for a replacement. Most people are insecure, so you have to overcome their fear, or perception that you are on the lookout for a trade up and they will be traded in for a newer model."
 
This is true. And while insecurity can have a wide scale, it is nice and reassuring to even the most confident person to have their mate demonstrate that they are The One. ;-)
 
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tanlines2thin #143

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/18/2014 01:03:28

 I really don't get what all of the social validation and acceptance is all about.........if your wife disapproves that you wear a G, either divorce her or give up the G's.........being into minimal swimwear is all about personal choice, rather than social approval.......short of being a dictator, life is about compromise, not having your cake and eating it, too.........sometimes, ya just gotta make a choice, so man-up.....I know that in our current politico and corporate culture that sounds like baby-talk, but look at the ditch that our current politico and corporate culture has us in.......yikes......society is a mess......now-a-days, social approval is nothing more than a price tag.........pay up and you can have your way........
thongboy052000 #144

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/18/2014 05:50:48

 We're talking about a current culture that does not encourage males to display their "assets" on the beach. And often in a relationship, it's the female who calls the shot. Peer concerns do extend into adulthood — we should always remember that. In contrast to 30, 40 years ago, many women no longer want their guys even in Speedos  — or skintight swim briefs of any kind, or Skintight Levis. Yet there was a time when most teenage girls wouldn't be seen dead with a bf who didn't wear his jeans tight.
The sad truth is that most women these days are not turned on by the sight of a guy in revealing swimwear. That's because of current social conditioning. I believe the pendulum will swing back — but until that happens it's important that those of us who are thongers continue showing the flag, and continue in our refusal to be ashamed of our choice of swimwear.
I happen to be fortunate. My girlfriend is also a fanatical thonger, and would probably disown me if I wore anything other than a thong on the beach. She's also secure enough about her own sexuality to admit that the sight of me in a Muscleskins, JS or Dore thong does turn her on, just as the sight of her in a WW turns me on.
joad58 #145

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/19/2014 11:44:07

 Sounds llike a typical American woman:bossy,ill at ease with her body,obsessed wth what total strangers think,and with the sexual sophistication of a 10 year old, but if her hairstylist was to wear one, she would be totally OK with it.
OS777 #146

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/21/2014 03:30:02

 Okay!!!  Rather than whine like 99% of the males (not sure if they are men or pre-pubicent boys) tell these female companions of yours that they are fired and they can stay at home or work while you are off to do manly "stuff."  Who really cares what they think any way? Can't you guys see that you married or hooked up with the wrong partner???This situation is like taking NASCAR driving instructions from a drunk blind 3 year old girl who is your backseat instructor that is seated facing backwards. If you are an idiot enough to follow the instructions of a whining companion you deserve what you have bought into and you can continue leading a life of misery or tell your millstone that it is time to part ways and that you are starting to look for a newer companion with less years and miles on her tires. See if this declaration causes her to blow a gasket.  Dump the dead fish and start looking for a new accepting companion.  Maybe you can call a towing company to stop by your place and haul your worn out "other" to the scrap yard so that you can get a few euros back on your bad investment of these prior years? Set the rules before you begin a possible life of unhappiness.
BorisVI #147

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:06/21/2014 10:59:32

Just glancing through these posts, the one thing that will always help these situations is communication. If you look at Tongaman's post, his wife's passive aggressive "wear what you like" indifference and that she stopped wearing thongs after their second child, suggests something has changed for her, either how she feels about her body or her partner showing a lot of his. See if you can determine the real reason she objects and be honest about the reasons you enjoy them (e.g., Are you hoping another woman will admire you?). While it isn't your job to make her happy, you should, at a minimum, show a concern for her feelings. 
mrmoonhead #148

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:12/03/2014 02:02:24

 "Remember, after the stone in her ring, you, her husband are her proof to the world that she is not a little girl. Some women get to think of husbands as ornaments of a successful adult life, like houses. (Actually you come fifth in importance, the stone is first, the house is second, your money and the kids are third and forth, and you are fifth. If you get a divorce you will find that out.  You get you, and maybe a little share of the kids and the money, but only because a mean judge says so.)"Would like to add to this comment made on the 2nd spectacular post.  Remember, wives want you to stay alive, it is easier for them that way, hell they need your money and your $%*( at least once a month.  However, they certainly do not want you to get in too good a shape because when it comes to getting attention, they are number 1.  If you are living the gym 5+-days a week lifestyle, they will hate you for it.  Wearing thongs just enforces the issue and is NOT the issue.  (Note : Reason for my divorce, YEA).Now to be successful with them you must give rise to their unquenchable thirst for attention and having their bodies worshiped.  Like the original post, you are fifth or nearly last.  Now for me, I dumped the damn thong, but I will not dump being a gym-rat for any hoe.MrMoonHead--the head is for brains
DesertThong #149

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:12/22/2014 01:18:09

Yep, wife does not like thongs. But she tolerates them when we are at a beach where its accepted and not near home....like SoBe. I enjoy the all over tan and move the strings around to make sure there is no white skin. Most people in SoBe are very accepting and I've been asked to pose with people for pictures. I occasionally get a thumbs up, a cat call, but it usually is just people admiring or staring and making their own opinion. Like other posts have said, be comfortable in your skin and say hello to people. I've had many nice conversations with other couples, singles, or groups of ladies, while walking the beach. I don't know if it's me, but it seems like SoBe has fewer thongs every year. Topless ladies seem to stay about the same, but fewer thongs.
tiggerix #150

Re:My wife does not like me to wear thongs

Date Posted:05/11/2017 09:16:02

Off to Crete in a few days - weather is looking really good.  Got to the usual discussion over what I will be wearing, with a stern warning not to take those thongs and how much it upsets her.  We had a bit of a tense holiday last year in Sardinia, when I tried all ways to wear a thong and she got increasingly upset.  

Anyway, back to yesterday, she said "all I can think of is a gay H-O-M-O-S-E-X-U-E-L, no I don't mean that (she realised that she couldn't think of ever seeing a gay in a thong),  perv,.... RENT BOY!".  I had to laugh at that last one.  

We had a discussion, of sorts, and she said I could wear speedos or naked,  she had heard that you can get arrested for being naked, so added that "speedos or get arrested naked".  "You can go naked".   

I have some tanga swimwear (cutaway sides) those are ok as it covers the butt, kinda.  She is OK with anything skimpy that doesn't look feminine and doesn't show the butt crease.  Naked is generally fine with her too.

I do get that it distresses her and I don't want to hurt her.  She is now comfortable in a thong bikini and will walk up the beach in it.  So yes, double standards,  She suggested that if I wanted her to wear a thong bikini I would have to leave mine at home.  Caught her by saying that she likes wearing it and without saying anything, she agreed.

Apart from a couple of friends who will strip off, given the chance (so they say), almost everyone we know will be bored shorts on the guy and probably one pieces for the girls.  We wouldn't holiday with friends for that reason.  So she doesn't get get any alternate input.

Spent the nigh wondering how many places I could go naked, including the apartment pool area and regular beaches.  By this morning had lost my nerve a bit, but will give it a go.

Not really looking for advice, unless you are a couple ready to go to Crete with us this week and both into thongs - of all the long shots!

c'est la guerre c'est la vie 
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