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Mary0826

Date Posted:07/12/2017 05:11:01

I have read many reports where people say "I was going to go thonging, but couldn't since a friend came with me" or whatever.  I have a simple question.  If a person is really a friend, would they really mind you wearing a thong?  Maybe men are different, but I have had very little flack form women friends, and male friends seem to love it when I wear a thong.  I have also gone to beaches, etc. with men who dared to wear their thongs and while their friends may have teased them a little, in 10 or 15 minutes, thongs were no longer an issue or something to laugh and heckle about.

One of the best ways to go thonging is with friends -- even if they don't thong.  I used to have a rule that I wouldn't thong unless the men I went with also wore a Speedo or smaller style suit.  I missed a lot of times when I could have built up my friendships because of this rule.  While I would prefer people to wear thongs when I do, I no longer push the issue beyond mentioning that it is legal wherever we are at, and to report if thongs are common wherever we go or not.  I will also ask "have you even worn a thong to the beach?" and if they have not, suggest they should try it and give them all the good reasons why they should wear a thong.  I have had both men and women come around to thonging, at least when they go places with me.

The most fun you can have is with friends.  If they wear thongs or other minimal swimwear, that is just that much better.  People seeing a group of men and women thonging together, or even a thonger with non-thongers having fun and being no different than other beach goers are more likely to accept thongs than when they see a single person, hiding by themselves.

My friend Brad has dared other men to wear thongs -- it could be from a bet (Cincinnati will win the game) or some other thing, but if the other person looses, he provides them with a thong, and a day that man can join us.  More than once, these men, who start the day shy and scared, soon become more comfortable and by the time we leave, admit they actually enjoyed themselves.  Many use the thong for sunning at their homes, some start using thongs when they go with us to the beach or boating or whatever, and a few even venture out on their own in thongs.  Women, at least the younger ones I know, seem more at ease in thongs, and while everyone seems uncomfortable at first, the women generally are faster and more likely to join the other thongers.  Topfree is a style I promote and participate in whenever I can, but women are stubborn about taking their tops off, like men are scared to show off their buns.   Still, the same things are true.  Once they try it in a friendly group, they are more likely to go topfree in the future, and I also notice that they are more likely to forego the bra and wear T-shirts and the like braless after going topfree at the beach.  Again, acceptance seems to be more likely when there are groups, even when some in the group do not participate in the thonging or topfreedom.

Mary 
kiyoothong #1

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/12/2017 09:00:32

 I guess it depends on your environment and the group of friends you hang out with. I grew up in the Middle East, so I couldn't openly thong in front of my muslim friends. Also, I have a lot of friends from church, so I don't know if I can just strip down to a thong when I am with them. 
Now in general (my views are based on gender stereotypes), I find that women try to be nice to each other. So they may appear nice and say good things about each other. I guess women are expected to be nice and gentle. Whereas, guys can be dicks, and they want to have an edge over you. So if you wear a thong in front of your friends, that could be your weakness and they could take the piss out of you. So I think guys are just wary of other guys. It's in our insticts. 
The Swan #2

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/13/2017 03:56:40

I think it's fear. I've become a little more bold as I get older. Example? A friend of both my landlady and I, stopped by the house to check the landlady's outdoor plants, while the landlady was out of town for awhile. I'm a pretty good cook and I had just finished making squash soup and eating a bowl of it, when my friend arrived. The living arrangements provided me, afford me no kitchen so I cook outside. I had brought all the cooking items inside, except for the folding table I cook on. I needed to clean the table and put it away. When she arrived I said, "I just made squash soup. I just put it away, it's still warm. How about I fix you a bowl." Knowing I'm good cook and I know she is a good cook. She said, "She would have one."

I layout in the sun on some cushions on the ground with some picnic benches placed in an L shape to keep the neighbors from seeing me.  I call it the "tanning fort". While the soup was cooking I had set up the "tanning fort" for tanning after eating. While she was eating the soup I saw her looking over at the tanning fort and "I said was going to layout in the sun after eating. If you'd have come 10 minutes later you would have caught me."
She said as she took a spoonful of soup, "Nude?"
I said, "You wish!"  She almost choked on her soup while laughing. I said, "Not nude but my tanning suits are pretty skimpy."
I said, "Let me go get one on so I can tan while we talk." She said "Go for it.". So I went inside and  I put on maybe the sheerest, skimpiest g-string I own, wrapped a towel around waist, grabbed some crackers for her soup and walked back out to the "kitchen". This g-string only covers but about halve of what I have to cover. She was shocked and surprised and I think quite pleased with the suit as I sat on a chair facing her while she ate the soup. We chatted for a while catching up on her grandkids and such. She definitely had to keep looking at the suit. When she left she said liked the soup and the suit and had no idea I wore things like that.
Just an example of friends who wouldn't mind.

bmicro #3

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/13/2017 05:44:14

 As the cliche goes "it depends". Swimwear tolerance is not a criteria for friendship. I have friends who are rather diverse. This ranges from some that agree with me on most everything to some who are of a different political and social mind set. I respect those who are different from me in beliefs and behaviors and they respect me. As kiyoothone alluded to, I have friends that I know would be offended by my wearing the same type of swimwear in their presence as I regularly wear on South Beach. My respect for them dictates that I not wear that type of swimwear in their presence. I call it simple courtesy. I see it as no different from my not wearing a g-string (only) to a memorial service. 
Grabeach #4

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/13/2017 09:36:09

I think many here, like bmicro, act more along the lines of, "Real Friends Don't Do Things That Annoy Their Friends."

As an example, I have a friend who is mad keen on rap music, but doesn't play it when I'm in the car with him because he knows I dislike it. He knows I really wouldn't mind him playing it, but is courteous enough not to. Along the same line, I have friends who wouldn't want to see me or any other guy in a thong, so I make sure they don't! I'm sure they wouldn't renounce our friendship if they did, but why would I do something that they don't like, especially when it is so easily avoidable?
beachlion #5

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/13/2017 11:58:13

 In the Netherlands, I went to the beach with some female friends. They had no problems with my thonging. But when a new friend was to join the little group, they asked me to put on something more conservative. They thought the new friend was not as broad minded. I just ignored it and the new addition liked it. The nexr time she had a moderate thong and went even topless.It is just a piece of clothing so why is it such a big thing in the mind of somebody?

modelnude4u #6

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/14/2017 02:18:14

 That tolerance and courtesy thing should go both ways.  No need to push buttons on purpose, but others should also be tolerant and courteous of your swimwear choices.
reficul2 #7

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/14/2017 08:50:15

 During my life I had different friends (not very many, but some people will come and go) and I think it depends of your personality and maturity. The average is that men are not very open to talk about intimate things and thats why they do not support each other in situations like this - it is important to be though guy. But during a time, you change (getting older and more mature) and if you have luck you will find a friends who are not only at the same page based on your political views and philosophy, but they will share more intimate views related to sexuality and being a human in general. After that they will find common interests and start supporting each other.


-Sorry about language, I'm not native English speaker.
BorisVI #8

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/14/2017 10:55:29

Your English is fine and I agree with you. As people evolve over time they, more often than not, become more accepting of other people's differences. You should have some kind of read on how broad minded or how judgemental your friend is. With that in mind, the more you are able to share your interests with a friend, the closer the two of you will become.
Incognito69 #9

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/17/2017 05:27:48

Mary, while I would most welcome a group that open minded, I just dont have that kind of group around. Otherwise, I would be all for it! Therefore, its the backyard or some beaches for me
jn9195 #10

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:08/28/2017 12:46:34

 If real friends wouldn't mind, then I don't have any friends.  :)

Also, I wouldn't want to thong in front of my friends.  I'm originally from the extremely prudish and backwards midwest.  Unable to find work in Florida, I had to settle on Las Vegas.   Florida is more fun, but I can enjoy almost every single day at Lake Mead; in a thong, g-string, or even nude is certain areas for 9 months or so.
NE_OH_thonger #11

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:08/28/2017 01:50:58

 I've told the story elsewhere on the board, but I have a friend who said he'd like to come with me to the beach several years ago. I told him in advance of my intention to wear a thong swimsuit. He didn't seem fazed at the time, but when we got to the beach and I actually was wearing the thong, he was totally appalled. He apparently thought I was joking. He didn't look in my direction the whole time. For a while afterwards, he always specified that he wanted me to wear an "appropriate" swimsuit (that is to say, no speedos or thongs) when I was on the beach with him. So I simply went to the beach on my own. Last year, he asked about going to the beach without the caveat about what I could wear, so I took him, and I wore a thong again. This time, he acted normally, and made no comments about the appropriateness of my swimsuit. It's progress
Reznor7 #12

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:08/28/2017 03:18:50

 I live by a woman my age who I know from my gym who we have a ton of mutual crossfit friends. She is very very fit and so am I and my girlfriend is a 10. Total knockout. I recently started wearing thongs at my community pool and I txt my fit 34 yo female neighbor and warned her. She wears a very cheeky almost thong to the pool anyway. She responded on txt and laughed and said she can't wait to see us out there in our thongs. What a relief to know she's ok with it.
nospam_TN1 #13

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:10/14/2017 02:58:26

 There are many reasons why that doesn't happen as one would think it should, one of them is how much time one spends actually wearing swimwear.  For me, in probably the most conservative part of the US, it's probably no more than 8 hours per week, which would include time on the paddle board and in my pool.  Here, thongs are technically illegal, although I have seen plenty of women wearing the newer "cheeky" styles of bikinis with no problems.  For any man to wear a regular swim brief is pushing the boundaries here, although in the summer, it is occasionally seen, but almost always has something to do with swimming laps, open water swimming, or someone from another country.  I do both of those things, and for a while, one of my 3 male friends who are triathletes of similar age was doing the same.  He'd swim laps in the large outdoor pool in speedos.  I sometimes see my older co-workers at the larger pools swimming laps in speedo briefs.  That said, the place I work is large and those I work with on a daily basis aren't in that group.  My immediate co-workers know of my swimwear habit, but that's not to say I'd feel comfortable coming to their social event that involved swimming and slipping into a speedo there.  It would just feel extremely awkward.

I've never worn my actual thongs except with my wife or in far away places, like Miami and the Keys, where they are legal.  That said, I find that far too often, it just feels awkward interacting with other guys while wearing a speedo type brief when their preference is clearly at the opposite end of the spectrum.  There is this general unease with any other male who approaches because there is a very good chance he's either cruising or seeking to harass or do harm.  I can see how very much of this issue is self-reinforcing and self-perpetuating.  I know that some small percentage of those guys out there fishing from boats might actually prefer to wear a bit less and get better tanlines, but don't for fear of the same issues I just mentioned. 

Back in the 1990's, I owned a jet ski and often wore swim briefs while on it, and even then I'd always wait until I was a few hundred yards away from the boat ramp to strip down from shorts to briefs.  However, I once did encounter and ended up towing some guys in a small, stalled boat while wearing just the briefs and the mandatory life jacket that you must have on when the motor is running.  Needless to say, nothing negative was said to me.
kiyoothong #14

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:10/15/2017 11:47:09

I guess you should ask your friends before you go thonging with them. I am planning to go to Cuba with some church friends and I have to warn them that I'm going to thong at the resort and at the beach. If they're like WTF, then I'm probably gonna go to the beach on my own. We're thinking of staying there for a week and I don't want things to get awkward because of my choice of swimwear.
Glasgow_Thong_Boy #15

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:10/16/2017 07:37:58

 I think it just depends on your friend's outlook on guys wearing thongs. I have some good friends that just wouldn't accept/be comfortable with me in a thong around them. I have other friends who would be indifferent to it. I have friends who would love to see me in a thong, either for the visuals or because they know what it means for my confidence etc. That doesn't mean I like the first type any less as friends than the ones who'd encourage me. It's just who they are.
richard12181970 #16

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:01/07/2018 10:52:20

 I have to agree with the general it depends thought, however I have come to realize that wearing thong swimwear is part of who I am and continuing to hide that, hides part of myself.  That said I do not what to make any of my friends too uncomfortable or get myself uninvited due to my thong.  On a positive note, I was wearing a thong under some swim shorts last summer with 2 female friends when 1 of them asked if I had on a thong underneath.  I confidently said yes, and although I did not take off the shorts that day, I did when out of the boat with the other friend later.  This next summer I will be more willing to tell friends I'm wearing a thong underneath, and ask if it's ok to take off my shorts or speedo.  This is because it is important to be able to be who I am.  I like my little black thong.
Thongmad #17

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:01/09/2018 10:21:48

Well it seems that we have come to the regular consensus here that 'it depends' which I also think is appropriate in the given situation.

I would never rock up to one of the surf comps I regularly compete in and wear a thong within a mile of it, but would and have surfed in a thong or briefs many times, and in front of others. Just the same as any other situation, we use our common sense and previous experience to judge any given situation.
I will use the example of my family (well, my wife's family). On our Christmas gathering in 2017, I went in the pool in my Budgy Smugglers. These were a bit outrageous due to the very bright colours. As I walked out, I knew I was going to get comments/jibes for them. Which I did, with my sister-in-law taking photos (she loved them). Her husband then commented "What, no g-string? Aren't we good enough for that?" I just said "Not this time, but hang around." So next time I'm confident I could do a thong. The whole family knows I always wear a thong, so it wouldn't be a surprise. If I was in a plain coloured Speedo, I doubt they would have said anything. That's what my late father-in-law and I have always worn around the family in the pool.

Another example is my neighbours. All but one has a pool. If we were at one of their places and ended up going for a swim, I'm pretty sure I could go in whatever thong I had on at the time under my shorts, and there would not be a problem. They all know I wear them 24/7 and are happy with it. That's because they know me as a person. They know that is who I am and it doesn't alter who I am in any way. If they had other friends there at the time, my decision would probably be different. I would go home and get a brief on, the size depending on what I read of the situation. But a plain Speedo would be the most I would wear, these days probably a Budgy Smuggler or Aussie Bum.

So we all have different groups of friends at different levels. And we all have different comfort/confidence levels depending on where we are and who we are with. Choose yours ;)
briankay #18

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:01/12/2018 09:09:12

bmicro wrote
"As the cliche goes "it depends". Swimwear tolerance is not a criteria for friendship. I have friends who are rather diverse."

Grabeach wrote
"I think many here, like bmicro, act more along the lines of, 'Real Friends Don't Do Things That Annoy Their Friends.'"


Agree 100%. As with bmicro I have diverse friends. Some of them I wouldn't invite to the same activity/event because while all are accepting of me they may not be accepting of each other.
As a emphasis to what Grabeach says, I think some of my friends avoid things they think would annoy me. Two way street.
32189 #19

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:01/14/2018 03:45:42

I ended up telling one of my friends last night and she did not mind.  I even suggested we go thonging together sometime.  We will see if that ever happens.  But she was cool with my thong wearing.  
nude2020 #20

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/15/2018 02:31:53

 I think its all in people head. We have all seen a person glutes before however this acceptance that sometime goes with what we were. I think it should all come down to does it make you happy wearing it. If so forget what others think if your friends don't like it that is there opinion should there opinion ruin your day or cause you to wear something else rather then what you really want. What is the worst thing that could happen.

Wife and I are going away with another couple later this year and I'm planing to wear my thongs, g-string around them because that what makes me comfortable and besides at the end of the day it your holiday - Live Life! 
kiyoothong #21

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/15/2018 09:02:19

 I don't thong with friends because they might  tell their other friends about my underwear and swimwear preference. And they might have a laugh together because of me. Also, when you're in a close-knitted community where everyone knows everyone, you want to be careful so that rumours about you don't spread. I don't want to become 'that thong guy' in my community.
Sarah_Thong #22

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/15/2018 04:29:36

I've been quite lucky in this regard as my group of friends growing up have either worn thongs themselves or accepted my choice. I know I'm female and it is a lot more common but this also goes for my SO.
I've got older posts on here about our younger days etc. for a read if you like but I knew my SO long before we started going out and we were both part of a close knit group that the guys genuinely wore thongs as a choice and not as a dare or a laugh, my hubby, in fact, bought his first thong after seeing and hearing that we found smaller g-strings/thongs were a LOT more comfy under a wetsuit than other choices that rode up and got stuck in all sorts of places lol
modelnude4u #23

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/16/2018 02:39:28

 I think a woman could certainly get away with thonging with friends more easily than men in most cases.  It's just WAY more common for women to wear them at all, and is a long ways off from the most currently common men's suits, so you just know you're going to get some attention, good or bad.
I doubt any of my friends would disown me or anything, but it's not something I have the urge to share with any of them either.  I don't mind sharing in general, in fact it's what drives me, but generally folks I don't know, or don't know from any other setting.
JM_Runs #24

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/16/2018 02:20:09

I was once worried about what people would say. Back in the early 1980's when I was scared about being labeled as gay, because it might harm my dating prospects. Silly me. By thonging on the beach and boat, or bicycling around town in a tiny speedo, I actually met more women, who thought I was brave.

I have to admit it took years before I was fully comfortable being "that thong guy". While a few of my neighbors probably think of me as Thongman, most friends and neighbors just call me by my name, and that includes our newly elected mayor.


Sarah_Thong #25

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/16/2018 04:58:46

I agree with Mary's original post and JM's post just now. If friends are friends then they wont mind, obviously there'll be the making fun part for a short while but after that it settles down. Same as if you wore a pair of shoes thats not within the "norm" you'd get teased and then that would be it. 
I've posted ages ago that I was lucky enough to be amongst a group of friends who wore thongs but a funny story is that one of the guys with us actually started wearing his own thongs after initially putting one of the girls thongs on for a laugh and running through the house wearing it like a banshee lol. This broke the ice and he expected to be teased but then the next time he'd gone and bought himself male thongs and wore those, there was the initial OMG moment as he was a boxers type guy, but a quick "well the girls thong felt ok so I thought I'd give this a go" from him and that was the end of it.
As JM says, obviously you'll draw attention as it's not the norm but what's wrong with that? Just be confident and get out there :) no different being the "thong guy" or "the guy that drives the mercedes" lol. True friends or good people who know you as a person wont take the p1ss out of any decision you make, and the opinions of the haters don't count in my book 
bbyrne78 #26

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/18/2018 04:45:49

A few years ago Andrew and I went on a surfing holiday in Bali. We were lucky enough to stay at a really nice spot where the owner was a Australian ex-pat and his Balinese wife. They took us around all the best and secret surf spots away from the tourists and it was one of the best surfing experiences I've ever had.

Since then, every time they visit Australia, Andrew and I invite them to stay at our place. I'd say that they are friends who are now close friends. The first time I saw Kadek (our Balinese friend) she was wearing a really conservative two piece which really didn't do her physique any favors. I ended up giving her a few of my bikinis (one of the best parts of microkinis is that a small fits anyone from 6ft to 5'4''ft) and she shyly wore them for the first time.

Now she's a convert, I make sure to buy her something every couple of months and send them off and she gets her hubby all hot and bothered. I guess the take away from this is she felt comfortable enough to rock something totally out of character for her because when she was with me and Andrew, she wasn't going to get judged harshly and she was going to be supported no matter what (even if she had politely declined my suits, which is no biggie). Now her hubby tells me that she is super keen to wear the latest styles I send her and she'll rock them everywhere even in front of her old friends.

She and her hubby are in town next week and her timing couldn't be better with the new WW releases out I am sure her hubby isn't going to mind smashing his visa card.
Love Bren 

 
stringueur #27

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/18/2018 10:13:16

 I agree with what is written.
Friends don't mind, but they can make fun of your swimsuit sometimes.

I swim with some friends (3 times a week, a little more than 2 miles each time).
I wear a skimpy swimwear (a little skimpier than a brief swimwear) or a cheeky swimwear (which is almost a thong).
My swimmer friends say nothing.
One time, we had a lunch (we lunch together 2 or 3 times each year) with our spouses. One of my friend (male) said that my "littles swimwears" offer a perfect view of my mole on my buttock.
An other of my friend (female) said that i am always complaining about mature women who swim on my lanes and that they don't swim fast, but my friend said i attract them with my swimwear.
My other friends said nothing.



nude2020 #28

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:03/31/2018 01:41:19

  Thonging with friends shouldn’t be a problem. True friends really don’t care on what you wear. Wife and I are at a resort with another couple who have been friends for some time now. We have been wearing our thongs we nothing really being said. However day to my wife friend buys a thong and joins in. Coming back to an important point don’t act odd wearing something different that’s when you stick out.
NudeNArizona #29

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/04/2018 08:52:08

For us it really depends on the friends: Some friends we have thonged with, and even went nude wit,h others not. Depends on the situation.  

One funny story happened when we were visiting friends who had a birthday party for their young son who payed with our girls.  After the majority of the people left we were still hanging out when they suggested we all go for a swim. We had not planned on swimming and neither of us brought swimsuits. So they said we could wear our underwear or go nude, they didn’t care either way.

Initially I wore a cotton thong and my wife had a mesh G-string, but after getting wet and tired of pulling it up I just removed mine  and swam nude.
briankay #30

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/07/2018 02:22:06

"Thonging with friends shouldn’t be a problem. True friends really don’t care on what you wear."

Depends on how diverse your friends are. In my case, some would care.
Plus the reverse applies to some. True friends wouldn't wear something that makes friends uncomfortable.
nude2020 #31

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/12/2018 04:09:32

 Getting back to the point why do we have to be cautious not to offend anyone. We should all live the way we want if it brings pleasure sun tanning in a thong go for it. If friends make fun down deep inside I think the would like to try however they lack the confidence.
briankay #32

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/12/2018 04:53:59

 I don't think approval/disapproval or comfort/discomfort with thong wearers should be criteria for friendship.
matchingthongs #33

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/13/2018 11:53:55

 briankay: bang on."Depends on how diverse your friends are. In my case, some would care. Plus the reverse applies to some. True friends wouldn't wear something that makes friends uncomfortable."
" I don't think approval/disapproval or comfort/discomfort with thong wearers should be criteria for friendship."
 So right.
briankay #34

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/14/2018 04:53:31

 Thank you matchingthongs
Napoleon44 #35

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/20/2018 05:19:37

 I agree with matching thongs ( but it is a matter for debate) personally I would not be comfortable wearing a thong or tiny swimwear round my existing friends because it would come from nowhere . Maybe if I lived in a hot climate where I was in the pool everyday or at the beach then it would be more important to me and more of an issue . But my friends are generally quite conservative and they would think it a bit strange if I suddenly turned up ....I think it would be different if I moved elsewhere and made new friends and started again or of course if I have made friends through thingboard or similar .  But as in most things it is a personality issue . 
matchingthongs #36

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/24/2018 12:45:52

 I've just been discovered as a thong wearer by an old friend who saw a photo of me from a few years ago. I wasn't sure how she would react, but to my surprise, at least in front of me, she was remarkably cool about it and commented on how they nicely outlined my cheeks.It's unlikely that she would ever see me actually wearing them; she isn't a beach person or a swimmer and is very self conscious about even partiality being undressed in public. 
bbyrne78 #37

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/26/2018 01:29:26

I was at a farewell party for some folks from work over the weekend and being coastal Australia, it was a pool party. My hubby surprised me with a suit by one of my favorite labels and at first I was a little concerned that I would be showing my butt to people at work, so I packed a spare suit just in case.

I shouldn't have worried because not only was I one of many girls wearing a thong or cheeky bikini but there was three guys who were rocking tiny square cut trunks and one wearing an Aussiebum swimbrief. 
Totally normal and other than a few bits of good natured ribbing (you're too old to be showing your @ss) from the younger crowd it was fun and inclusive.
The Misha Collection black thong bikini was a huge hit with everyone asking me where I got it and I was happy to see one of the administrators wearing a very racy g string thong. She and her partner were definitely the stars of the party. Who would have thought that?
Love Bren
Grabeach #38

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/26/2018 10:13:59

Always interesting in deciding what to wear when somewhere that requires a swimsuit, but is not with people you would normally be wearing swimwear. As can be gathered from numerous posts I've made on this board, I'm comfortable in a g-string when I go to the beach or public pool and would actually feel a bit odd if I had to sun in anything more. However there are other situations where I had to give more thought to what is 'appropriate'.

The most common one was at family get-togethers with in-laws. When my son, daughter and the nephews (no nieces) were younger these events were sometimes by the local river or at somebodies house with a pool. Swimwear for all the other adults were one-pieces for the woman and boardies for the men. A g-string here, even on one of the woman, would have been a marriage destroying action. The most coverage swimwear I own are Aussuiebum 1.5s, so that had to be it. The first time, my wife gave me a raised eyebrow and then a shrug of the shoulders. One of the brother-in-laws couldn't resist making a smart comment, but his wife light-heartedly came to my defence. After that things proceeded normally. At subsequent swimming outings nothing more was ever said, though I sensed the other guys still thought my choice of swimwear a bit odd.
NudeNArizona #39

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:04/27/2018 02:27:57

Last summer my wife had a friend come visit us. On the day of her arrival my wife went to pick her up at the airport. I stayed home to clean the pool and yard. I asked my wife to call before getting to the house because I would most likely be naked while doing these chores.

I was cleaning the pool and never heard my wife pull into the driveway or go into the house. So I’m outback cleaning the pool when her friend comes walking out our sliding glass door. I immediately went to grab a towel to cover myself, but I forgot to bring a towel out to the pool. I apologized. She said there was no need.

Then my wife walked out of the house, nude, and introduced us. She said she was sorry for not calling, as promised, but they were busy talking and she forgot to call. Then her friend comments that she had never been to a clothing optional pool before but had always been curious. My wife said  “it’s more like a nudist resort”.

Her friend laughed and said she thought my wife was just joking, when in the car she had told her she didn’t need to worry about bringing a swimsuit with her.
CKWonderer #40

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:05/19/2018 01:26:34

I’m going on a trip with a group of longtime family friends. We’ve known them for years and get together at least once a year for an extended time or week. This year we’re going to a lake house and it has a boat dock and a lot of private backyard space. There is one couple that I thought would be a little bit more open to the suggestion of having some thonging time, so I emailed them and prompted the opportunity and the question if that is of interest. They had both been around me a couple years ago when I was wearing my Muscleskins bikini back suits and the wife really boosted my ego say that s liked what I was wearing.       
The response to my email from the husband was “LOL” . He said he wasn’t quite ready for that one but he had been in Brazil and had some pretty skimpy suits provided for him that he wore. So I just emailed him back that I sometimes have to laugh at myself when I’m wearing thongs, but that it is an exhilarating experience once you get over that initial first time.  I left the offer open for them to join me and I would lead the way. We’ll see what happens! 

If nothing else I hope to find a couple hours to thong by myself or with any one who is still around at the house. 
JM_Runs #41

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:05/19/2018 03:35:51

Most of the time people are not going to pre-approve novel things they have not seen, and that might sound slightly scary.

I think you just have to do it.  Maybe not everyone will approve, but most will quickly adjust to the new reality.  It helps if they already know you.

It is much easier to ask for forgiveness than get everyone's approval beforehand.
Mary0826 #42

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:05/19/2018 07:33:22

 CK -- I never know what will happen, but if you take an early lead, wear your thong (unless there is a really strong opposition) as soon as possible, you might be surprised at the response.  Both me and my men have done this type thing, and were surprised at how quickly we were accepted.  That is not to say that others always followed our lead, but they quickly forgot about what we had on and after the initial experience, further discussions were not needed.  In a private setting (even on a private section of a public beach) many friends will let you do your own thing.  At first and even later, they might not understand why you want to wear a thong, but they also see your confidence and quickly realize that with the exception of showing a little more skin than other people, you are just the same person you always were.

Age issues may also enter into your situation and might control who will accept you at all, just in private, or in more public places.  Many younger people today think of male thongs as sort of kinky.  (This is because of the sexual connotations of male strippers, etc.)  Men also worry sometimes about the fact that thongs on men are often portrayed as being comical and they don't want to be laughed at, or be in a group that includes someone who is being laughed at.  If anything, being laughed at is worse than having angry hate responses.  This may tie in to school bullying and the belittling of people who are different.  This is something confidence and having non-sexual interactions with your friends are beneficial will help.  At the same time, many people in this generation see little or nothing wrong with skinny dipping or laying out nude.  Nudity is okay in their mind.  Thong swimwear on men is not.


JM_Runs #43

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:05/20/2018 06:07:08

 CKWonderer, I think you're going about it the right way.  You gave them a heads up by inviting them to join you in your practice of wearing thongs.  Seems like you didn't ask if it was OK for you to do so, but more of an invite.  This is what I did recently with some longtime friends who I had not yet thonged with.  Of course, I eased them into it...I didn't wear the tiny G-string that I normally tan in. I wore a thong that looked like a small Speedo from the front and was not see thru when wet. 

When we met as usual, clothed. Then, everyone went to change into their swimsuits but I had mine on underneath my shorts. So, I just stripped down to the thong while they were away and drew no attention to myself when they returned. 

The two male friends each gave me a long glance and a side - eye when they thought I wasn't looking. The three female friends went to chat to my wife. Her eye-rolling expression told them it was my idea and she both tolerates my choices and supports my tanning, which, she said, she would expect from me in return for her swimwear choices. Just as there are some days she feels like going topless with a g-string and some days she feels like wearing a thong-back 1-piece or a basic speedo.  

Later in the evening, one of the females was overheard saying to her boyfriend, "If you decided to start wearing a thong, I would support that." His reply was, "Maybe, just around the house first." Which is a start, right?
tobias5711 #44

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:05/20/2018 09:17:42

 I have two very distinct and very different set of friends. The first group is very religious and very closed minded. I am very spiritual and enjoy being around spiritual people and know they will never share my feeling for nudity and the joy of being outside in a tiny g-string in public. They are in the same camp as my mother and immediate family. I do not wish to shock or offend them or lose them as friends family. They will never accept nudity or ever want to see me in a thong or g-string or join me.

The other set of friends are my nudist brethren. When I am around them and wear a thong, they laugh and tell me to remove it. Some have even come up and tried to help. I love both sets of friends. Neither are apart of each others world.

When I can't be nude with my nudist friends, I choose to wear a thong or g-string to local lake or on my deck in backyard or even in my front yard for short periods of time- like taking trash to road, getting things out of car, watering plants,  feeding the cat, checking the mail and when returning from lake when I am still only in my g-string. More and more of my neighbors have seen me in a thong or g-string and I love the freedom I now feel.

The trick is feeling confident and comfortable when in a thong or g-string. Confidence translates to sexy to many people. Which is an odd feeling since I am 67 and in okay shape, but don't have the looks or body I once  had.
matchingthongs #45

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/10/2018 07:12:48

In this recent hot spell, my group of artist friends decided, uncharacteristically, to hit one of our local beaches, during a school day, without our kids and partners. Slightly decadent and bizarre when we thought about it. Unfortunately, I failed by the standards of this board!

Let me set the scene and context. Only 3 out of the 7 of us could make it. I was the only male. We’ve known each other for years and get along really well. Hanging out with them is the best thing. Our partners were absolutely fine about this and are totally trusting and were left at home or work with other duties; their husbands hate beaches and heat and my wife was with her girlfriends but would have come along otherwise. It was hot inland but much cooler on the coast, with a sea breeze making it harder to be undressed all the time. Our driver for the day has had a hard few years and has put on a lot of weight which she’d love to shift. She used to be super fit from martial arts and other sports, but comfort eating from dealing with a lot of crap in her life and bad food has taken its toll. She knows it and is open about it. However, I did think she might still bring her swimsuit and go in the sea (the sea is as warm here this year as I’ve ever known). The other friend I’ve known for about 15 years and we’ve become closer. She’s recovering from a mental health crisis and we all thought this would be great for her especially. There was never any chance that she would go in the sea nor bring a swimsuit (she doesn’t even own a pair of shorts) as she feels the cold and has real hang ups about being seen wearing anything revealing. However she has seen a picture of me in a thong and even nude from behind after doing an art installation that got in the newspapers. They stayed covered up the whole day whereas I was in shorts and a t-shirt.

Well we set up our spot and got out some paints and pens. Explored the shore a bit and watched the few people walk by on this vast beach. There was a woman in a thong bikini not far away splashing with some friends. I’ve worn a thong on this beach many times as it’s probably the easiest one to do so in the area. I had packed a Joe Snyder swimsuit (not a thong; a cheeky though). I so wanted to go in as the water was lovely (a bit cold compared to some seas, but nice and refreshing). My driver friend was showing no signs of stripping off (I think she regretted not bringing her swimsuit - but was possibly having the same issues as me). They kept asking if I was going in, but I explained that I’d packed my really skimpy briefs by accident (it was true as they’re the same make and colour as my full back ones) and felt embarrassed. As the day wore on I wanted more and more to but we were aware that cloud was building up and it would soon be time to leave. My old friend told me to just go in and they could look away! As she said, “I’ve seen you naked in the papers before anyway, so seeing you in your speedos isn’t a problem.” They didn’t realise that these turn into a thong and aren’t like regular speedos. Given more time I probably would have said, "to hell with it." I didn’t in the end!

So what was my problem? I’m a bit disappointed with myself to be honest, but I think it comes back to what has been said here before, in particular Briankay's comments. I probably was overthinking this, but it's about being accepted and not risking spoiling an important and wonderful friendship by possibly behaving in a weird way. One man with two women in that situation? Old and dear friends whom I’ve built up a great trust. The older friend of the two wouldn’t be that surprised. She knows I like being naked and has seen my naked bum before, but she’s also attracted to me, but that’s the great unspoken because if it went further it would be one massive mess s*** storm. She doesn’t have a problem with other people’s nudity particularly, just her own. The thing is too, she has the sort of figure that most women would die for. I don’t know if she doesn’t know that, or that because it is so striking, it will draw a lot of attention, which she’s uncomfortable with (I sort of get that). She hates exhibitionists and people obsessed with their looks. If the other friend had gone in I would have done it because that would have felt more acceptable and in context, but to be the one person of the opposite sex, walking around wearing something so revealing, out of the blue (to one of them), was a step too far on that occasion. If it had been just me and the older friend then I would have, because she would almost expect it of me and not see anything surprising.

Now, one thing that may happen is that if we ever do that again, and we are hoping to, one or both of us might decide to go in the sea. Would I be able to wear something so skimpy, or would bringing those twice seem like a deliberate mistake? Obviously on a discussion forum like this, I would expect that most people might think I should be “braver,” but it was about acceptance and friendship on that occassion and thong wearing isn’t my criteria for friendship. However, I take on board Jim’s comment that “... most will quickly adjust to the new reality.  It helps if they already know you. It is much easier to ask for forgiveness than get everyone's approval beforehand.”

Any thoughts?
JM_Runs #46

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/10/2018 12:25:56

 Overthinking. These seem like the sort of friends who would support you even if you went naked, especially if you went naked. The sort of friends who would find bail money if you got arrested, which you would not because you thonged there before and know it is not a problem on that beach. The sort of fiends who would be a little proud they had a brave and adventurous friend, even if they were shy themselves. 

Funny thing is, even modist people like to introduce friends who are more accomplished, beautiful, handsome, rich, adventurous, smart or brave. People are proud to be associated with people who have traits they admire. "This is bob who is in the army", "This is Sally who sailed round the world.", "This is my son the doctor." 

When a young man I was worried about what my friends and family might think. Have found my friends to be some of the most supportive and accommodating.

It is only my dear old mother who occasionally suggests I remember to wear something "respectable". However in a phone call this week my mother was complaining that she could not find "proper shorts" for my father in their Spanish seaside town, because the only shorts with pockets she could find in the village stores were too long!  They live on Mallorca, in a part that is popular with English 'Lager Louts', so the local shops tend to sell more conservative seaside wear.  My father, who was on the other extension, chimed in to say they were ridiculous American length, halfway to being trousers. I said for shorter shorts with pockets I often wore ones marketed for women. 

If you are not beautiful, handsome, rich or famous, at least you can be brave. 
matchingthongs #47

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/10/2018 01:52:03

 You know what James, that is a really lovely, encouraging and positive response. I was definitely overthinking it. We were probably not in the right part of the beach for me to be naked, but still. Next time I will thong with them :)
Thanks a million.
The Swan #48

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/12/2018 12:13:09

 First, matchingthongs, thanks for sharing your story. I too struggle with these sorts of dilemmas. I've been invited to a pool party this Friday with my very close friends. One of them  I have known since my biker days.  I know however, no one except me will even bring their bathing suits. This group of friends with the exception of my ex girl friend are obese.  I doubt the host will even go swimming. I'm thinking I'll bring a skimpy bikini and see what happens. I'll keep you guys posted.
John Howard #49

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/13/2018 09:23:03

 I have been involved in this type of dilemmas several times, the latest one was a party at my brother in law's home on a glorious summer day,  and he has a beautiful swimming pool.My nieces who are teenagers wore tiny bikinis, my boys board shorts (they used to be speedo wearers like their old man until peer pressure caught up with them), and a male cousin in law and my BIL who are both well pretty out of shape.Unlike Swan, I didnt even take my speedo with me just in case;   I would have stood up because of being in better shape; my nipple piercing, waxed.... I would not have felt comfortable, the cousin in law had become jealous of me when I could do more pull ups than him days earlier at the park,  I could imagine another negative reaction at the pool.   He grew up in Canada and lives now in Europe, and he commented on the 'ridiculous tiny speedos' our life savers wear on the beach to his nice and super hot wife....he would freak out because my aussiebums and budgy smugglers cover less.

So yeah, I believe I would have done the same thing  aa you Swan, take a pair of speedos just in caae, with mates is not as bad as with family, but I do understand how your friends' out of shape could be the reason nobody would take their swimming suits, but your ex might, or even better a hot friend of a friend might show up in her bikinis, and there you go mate!
The Swan #50

Re:Why can't you thong with friends? Real friends wouldn't mind.

Date Posted:07/14/2018 02:25:31

 Well fellow thongers turns out I did not even get to swim. I was at a seminar out of town over 100miles away and I did not make it back in time to go home and get my swimwear. Too many wrecks on the road slowed us down on the way back. Plus we met a guy at lunch who is connected to the political establishment and got to chat with him for awhile about life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  Until next time.
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