A women on this board posted about her experience wearing a thong in public.  A member of this board then asked her for pictures.  I deleted his message and sent him a personal message, a PM, saying:

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Try not to drool or beg for pictures. If people wanted to post them they would. 

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To which the user replied:

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Hello. Don't harp on every and any thing. Life's more relaxed and less tensed than you visualized with your stressed-up mind.

Which exact word did you come across that even remotestly hit that I DROOL or BEG? Enlighten me right here.

I merely ASKED. And only once. In short: I did NOT drool or beg. Period.

Geez...what's wrong wif you? Just because its YOUR forum you practically have to jump into every line and sentence and instruct and direct people, right down to the exact word, phrase and meaning, like you the teacher and all of us your students?

Give everyone a break, including yourself. Your 'advices' really aren't helpful at all, be it to the forum or to anyone here 'cause no one seriously take your 'serious' advices, seriously. At least I know I don't.

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And I replied to him with the following:

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One of the reasons we have so few women posting is because they feel intimidated by the men who want more: More contact, more information, more pictures, more proof that they relay are women. 

We don't ask you for pictures to prove you are a man, or that you wear thongs.  If you post them on your personal profile that is up to you. 

I don't think you realize how impolite it is to ask women for their pictures through the internet.  This is not a dating site. 

I frequently get messages from women who are a little offended at the rather frank way complete strangers want more information and pictures from them.  I would find it offensive if you were to ask me for personal pictures.  I am who I am, and don't have to prove that to you by sending you pictures.  If you meet me in real life you would know that.

You say "Your 'advices' really aren't helpful at all, be it to the forum or to anyone here. 
 'cause no one seriously take your 'serious' advices, seriously. At least I know I don't."

That my be the problem.  You don't read the messages from women who don't want to post or who stop posting becuase of the rather forward way some men act on this board. You don't realize that when you ask a women you don't personally know for her pictures you come over like a begging drooling teenager. 

You seem completly oblivious to the fact that I am trying to protect the few women who do post and at the same time to help you, so that you don't come over as a drooling troll.
JM

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What people don't seem to understand is we have over 17,000 members.  If only 1/2 of them asked for pictures, and only asked once, the flood of requests would still be simply overwhelming.  Asking people for proof, or pictures, or personal information that they have not volunteered is often seen as impolite.  

Asking for more information about a beach or someones experience is fine, that is what we talk about.  That is a normal subject of conversation on this board.  On the other hand, in real life, I don't think you would ask a women you don't know and have never met before to publicly share her thong pictures with you and the rest of the world.  Just becuase it is the internet does not make that any less intrusive and rude.

People need to understand that this is not a dating site.  The women who do post here are often in very comfortable long term relationships and they don't like it when people do the internet version of drooling, "Yeh, baby, send me some hot pictures of you in a thong!". 
That was not exactly what the man said, but that is how it comes out in a women's brain.  I know this because they sometimes take the time to write and tell me.  Sometimes they just get mad and abandon the message board.

While an individual may take offense because they only asked once, and they think there is no harm in asking, this is a bit like waking up to each of the attractive women in the room and saying "Give me pictures of you naked".  It may work as a pickup line for you, and you may get lucky some times, but you are going to leave a string of pissed off women behind and not get invited to the next party.
If a women ever feels a lack attention from adoring men, all they have to do is put on a thong swimsuit and head out to the beach or pool, where they can meet real men, not internet men. 

Maybe I am wrong. Maybe I am too sensitive. Maybe asking complete strangers for pictures of them in a thong is not rude or insensitive.  I would be intrested to hear from some of the women on this subject. 

In the mean time, would the men on this board please refrain from asking the women for pictures, and don't assume the women post here because they want to start a personal relationship. They are probably not looking to meet an exciting young man like you in person, or over the internet. They are not that desperate.

You want pictures of a smiling women in a thong swimsuit?  Get a real girlfriend, go to the beach with both of you in thongs and ask someone to take your picture, together.
Then you can be embarrassed when she frames the picture and keeps it on her desk at work. When you are introduced to her colleagues they smile and go, "Oh, I saw your picture, nice to meet you in person!", and then you are glad she did not share your picture with the entire internet. (Thanks B.W. )