How to tell friends or family

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Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/19/2012 01:41:18Copy HTML

 I just think when we make a big deal others make a bigger deal and it becomes a thing when it doesn't need to be a thing.  It seems almost exhibitionist-y and that turns it from a simple underwear selection to a sexualized thing.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/19/2012 06:23:40Copy HTML

 Would you consider telling your friends or family that you wore boxers or briefs, or that you would be wearing a pink shirt or a tight pair of pants?  I know that thongs are 'weird', but may I suggest that you focus your attention on how you will react when and IF they naturally find out that you are wearing thongs.  

Would you rather have your friends become aware of your thongs by sitting them down and deliberately telling them what kind of underwear you wear, or would you rather have a perfectly natural response to their questions?

It just seems like your asking for trouble.

That's not to say that you cant tell your friends that you wear thongs, it should just come naturally, like you were talking about anything else.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/19/2012 07:48:57Copy HTML

 I have to agree that telling someone out of the blue seems like you feel like you need to 'come out' about it and you feel there's something wring with your choice in swimwear and underwear. I've never done this but have warned buddies who want to hit the beach with me or go on vacations that I wear thongs and I say it in a joking manner. When they see me peel off my shorts , revealing my thong they quickly realize I wasn't joking. :-) Other times, I just strip off the shorts and they're like "WOW!" Have only received positive feedback on my thongs and how I look in them, but then again, I've never thonged with my straight friends and doubt they would be as open to the idea of me in a string swimsuit. I pick and choose where and with whom I wear my favorite swimwear of choice. 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/20/2012 12:41:23Copy HTML

 As others have said, when we don't make a big deal about it, most others won't either. My family found out about my interest in thongs when I was still in high school. I had laundry in the dryer, which my mom needed to move to do her laundry. She found out about my thongs and string bikinis and even folded all of my laundry for me! Of course, there has been a little joking around over the years, but it has all been in good nature.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/22/2012 10:07:10Copy HTML

 Well this dicussion just goes to show that we all handle our choice of underwear differently. Which I guess is fine. For me it felt right to tell my friend about my choice of underwear because I would rather that he knew before I stripped down on the beach. Of course I won't tell everybody about my underwear just out of the blue but in this situation it worked well - because let's face it, wearing a thong is a bit different albeit beeing otally ok. I was on the beach with my friend and my girl friend in a thong today and no comments were made and we just had a good time. 
Happy telling or not-telling out there. Do what suits you.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/23/2012 12:59:44Copy HTML

I naturally tell close friends most things. Especially after a couple of beers or just relaxing, I love trading information and experiences with people especially around slightly taboo subjects that in social settings, you just can't talk about. I'm very open with the way I talk, so yeah, I would spark up a conversation about underwear and, yes, I would (and have) tell people I wore boxer or briefs (of which I do, as well as thongs). discussing the pros and cons of stuff like that, to me is fun and interesting.

I'm very comfortable with my rationale over stuff like this, so explaining to people why I wear them, to me, makes me feel better about it and makes them more open to talk to not only myself, but others about taboo stuff like this. I'm not a fan of conservatism, but I often suffer from it. damn you society!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/23/2012 03:41:33Copy HTML

 What an awesome attitude steampowered. You're obviously a guy who really has his *$%) together and is confident in who he is what's important in life. You're GF is lucky - you're smokin' hot to look at too! WOOF! 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/23/2012 05:12:45Copy HTML

 I don't normally bring up the underwear conversation, but in the past when it has come up I have not denied it either.  I have also had incident where either my mother or mother in law has been visiting and has helped with the laundry and started folding clothes and asked who's G-strings are these and have said either mine or my wife's depending on who's they were. I have also been on vacation with my in-laws and wore a G-string on the beach tanning with my wife with her parents on the beach.  The only comment was that you don't leave much to the imagination, which we said we usually don't wear this much when we tan.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/06/2012 01:30:54Copy HTML

 Like I have said in other post's I have been wearing G-string since the late 80's and back-in-the-day my mother came to visit me, and as mother's do while I was at work she entertained herself and did my laundry, and in my laundry was my G-strings.  So when I got home and saw my laundry washed and folded she asked about my "tiny" underwear, and I said those aren't underwear they are swimsuits! to which she said if you wear one of those you might as well be naked on the beach! I told her that if I could be naked on the beach I wouldn't need swimsuits but until I can be naked on the beach these will have to do!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/11/2012 03:07:15Copy HTML

 I have been wearing thongs now for a little while and have for the most part kept it secret from my parents. I have been more up front with my inlaws. My MiL has become accustomed to it and if she does my wife's and my laundry, she just makes a best guess as to who each thong belongs to. I recently went on a cruise with my wife. I only wore speedos while tanning or in the water during excursions so many of the pictures showed me in a really small muscleskin bikini. So when my parents saw the bikini, they made a comment on how small my swimsuit was. Without thinking I told them I liked the tan and they are bigger than my thong underwear. They had a couple questions about me wearing thong underwear but didn't make any other comments. Now it's not an issue and it feels so much better not having to hide it. 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/16/2012 06:24:46Copy HTML

 Last night I just reveled I wear thongs to some of my friends girlfriends. They all were talking about their leggings. I love those but had never the chance to try some one. They were arguing about the type of underwear to use. I started saying that thongs were so comfortable and looked so nice. One of the girls was like what would you know about it? so I just let them know I was wearing a thong and told them that love to be out in public like that. I hope they keep it to their selfs, non of her boyfriends use thongs. 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/16/2012 10:37:25Copy HTML

  I come from a very conservative and religious home and both mom and dad know that I wear them even my sister. We were in florida on vacations all together and I just told them my grand mother was there and she said that was disgusting for a man to wear it but was fine. Other day we were driving to the mall and I was seating beside my sister and wife and my tee roll over and half of my butt got exposed and my sister was a little nervous and she said that im showing my butt and my wife pull down my tee. But I thing that the best thing is to come straight and tell them just choose the right time to do it and they are going to take it fine. This happens in my early 20 and now my mom jokes sometimes with her friends about my thongs

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/17/2012 02:40:09Copy HTML

 I keep wondering about this.  I have very conservative parents.  They recently mentioned that they would like to tag along with us on a sun trip because they don't feel comfortable travelling by themselves.  They've never done a beach vacation trip.  I'm not sure if I could relax and enjoy a trip in front of them in a thong, and I know my wife would not feel comfortable topless in front of the in laws.  Might have to feel them out and make sure they can accept our swimwear choice before we go on it.  

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/17/2012 08:17:28Copy HTML

I seem to be part of the common story here -
My Mom was visiting with us for a few days and decided to help with the laundry while my wife and I were at work.  Of course, my thong underwear was in the laundry with everything else.  My Mom asked if that "string underwear" was mine.  I told her that it was mine.  Nothing else ever came up about it again.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：11/22/2013 12:21:11Copy HTML

My sister, late fifties like me, lives
about 50km away, so anytime we are in the vicinity of the other we usually meet
somewhere for a meal. Recently she rang and said she would be in Sydney for a
morning appointment and would I like to go somewhere for a swim after that.
Although she knew I liked the beach and pools, this was the first time she had
ever suggested we go for a swim somewhere. Not only that, but as my wife now
has no interest in being in or near the water, yesterday was the first time in about
a decade I have gone to the beach or pool as what I guess could loosely be called a
’couple’.

The beach being out of the question due to
recent heavy rain, I found a public outdoor aquatic centre (they’re not ‘pools’
anymore!) close to where her appointment was. First time there, so I didn’t
know what the centre’s attitude to thongs would be. More importantly, although I would
classify my sister as broad minded (20 years ago she walked in on me sunning
nude at home and it didn’t faze her at all), she is fairly conservative in
attire and not a beach person. In short I really didn’t have a clue what her
attitude would be. Do I simply not sun in my g-string for that day? Do I worn /
ask her before we go? Do I just do what I normally do and strip to my g-string
after doing my laps and wait for her feedback?

Eventually I concluded that if I chose to just forgo my g-string for the day, I would in affect not be trusting her to react in an intelligent manner, no matter what her opinion might be. I know I would far prefer someone to ask me if something was okay, rather than not do it at all because they thought I might not agree. As we lay out our towels on a small grass area by ourselves, I simply mentioned that I usually sun in a g-string and was she okay with that here. Almost straight away she replied, “Of course I don’t mind. Don't know what others may think, just don’t get arrested.” Although the arrested bit was not serious, I could tell that she was just a tad uneasy as to what others' opinion might be. After only a couple of minutes two women and a child set up next to us. After this my sister noticeably relaxed. From then on the subject was a non-issue. When we left, she told me what a nice time she had and that we should do this again soon.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：11/22/2013 01:02:22Copy HTML

 I can't remember really having to tell anyone I wore a thong - i think they just knew it - either from seeing a thong line under my pants or by me laying out in one or from my bf just telling all his friends that I wear a thong.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：11/28/2013 12:29:02Copy HTML

        Today is Thanksgiving and I am sitting here typing this as the turkey is in the oven. I will have 44-46 relatives (ages 5-91) over for lunch and dinner and about half of them know I wear thongs or bikini also know as my "tiny speedo" I have a bunch of drink holders with a male torso in tiny speedo and a couple thong Iphone covers. Not to mention a couple coffee cups with me in a bikini on them to say for warn. Because this year a cousin had a bright idea after dinner to have everyone give a year in photos on the big screen. I have Apple TV where everyone with an Iphone/Itouch/Ipad (90%) is going to airplay their photos on what they did over the last year.  Since I am an avid boat/fisherman, my whole summer I was in a thong so a actually need to post a couple. Otherwise I don't have a picture of me doing any summer activities. The rest of the family will know after dinner.

Happy Thanksgiving

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：11/28/2013 07:29:25Copy HTML

Sharon.....its a bit different for a women.  Being as probably 75% or women own thongs, and probably about half wear them regularly.  Not quite the impact for women as for a guy where the percentages are probably in low single digits

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：12/01/2013 03:23:38Copy HTML

 Like I have said in other post's I have been wearing G-string since the late 80's and back-in-the-day my mother came to visit me, and as mother's do while I was at work she entertained herself and did my laundry, and in my laundry was my G-strings.  So when I got home and saw my laundry washed and folded she asked about my "tiny" underwear, and I said those aren't underwear they are swimsuits! to which she said if you wear one of those you might as well be naked on the beach! I told her that if I could be naked on the beach I wouldn't need swimsuits but until I can be naked on the beach these will have to do!  this was a copy of an old post from a previous account of mine, but the answer still stands, but to add to this now.

My mother was visiting over the holiday and she was looking out into my backyard and asked if I still wore my "tiny" underwear to sunbath in, and if my wife approved of them? I  I told her only when I can't go naked!! and she said aren't you embarrassed wearing them in your backyard where your neighbor's can seeing into it from their 2nd story balcony? I said no We don't wear them in my backyard, and that we go NUDE!! And she said you are kidding right? I told her we have gone nude since we bought our house and have caught by the neighbor's the first time we used our pool.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/05/2014 12:34:03Copy HTML

 If I remember it right the topic of wearing thongs and tanning in them just sort of came up many years ago with my brother's girlfriend (now wife).  My now sister-in-law tanned in a thong and wore thong panties and was always open about things like that.  Later she saw me tanning and really made no big deal about it.

I only have a few other friends that know and these are people I can trust and be more open to.  For me wearing thongs is more of a private thing, and I like it that way.

Like others, my mother most likely knows about my thong underwear because a few pairs got in the laundry last summer when I was visiting.  Oh well, nothing was said.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/15/2014 08:09:51Copy HTML

 I had a pretty good experience while being 'outed' as a thonger on my recent holidays to a group of friends!
Our annual Christmas break is spent at Port Macquarie in the caravan park beside the main beach. Over the last few years, we have made some excellent friends who also return each year. A few of them have seen me on the beach tanning in my thongs, this I know for sure. Many have not, but know I love laying in the sun, and would guess by my absence of tan lines while wearing a brief that I go pretty skimpy.
On New Years Eve (OK, maybe NY Day around 1am) somebody commented on how well one of the lady's legs were tanned. She kicked off her thongs (the foot variety) and you could clearly see how well her legs and feet had tanned but under the thong strap had not. Somebody made the comment that she had a great thong tan! She came straight back with "It's not as good as his!" pointing me out. I kicked of  my thongs (from my feet) and said "No it isn't!" knowing what she really meant. She then said "Not that, show us the other one!" Well, the roar went up from six (slightly?) intoxicated women, and there was no hiding it! They were chanting "Pants off, pants off!"
So in front of twelve or so friends, I sat on her lap and pulled the back of my board shorts down a little (showed her half of my butt) and said "There, is it better than yours?" Because all of the women were sitting together, they all had a good look! Funny as! It actually went down really well, because I took it pretty well I thought!
I took a bit of a ribbing about it for a while, and we all had a bit of a loud conversation about why/where/when I wear them, and who else does/has. No other guys of course! Later in the night, as we all got louder and partied more, one of the girls decided she needed to dance in one of my thongs! I gave her a red DeeJay micro bather, and a pair of socks to put down the front! Hilarity ensued, and photos got taken and posted! She pole-danced for us with the thong over the tights she was wearing. Very funny times had by all!!!
It was all good fun, and she said to me the next day 'Thanks for being a good sport about it'. No harm done, and I don't have to be nervous in the slightest around these guys now!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：02/26/2014 04:46:58Copy HTML

I've noticed a lot of wearers here are proud advertisers of their thong wearing. There's a time and a place for everything I guess. 
I guess deep down we all wear them for different reasons but for me it's a personal thing; it makes me feel sexy, free and sensual. I'm only part-time though. 5 days a week I work construction, and act as manly as anyone else, but I don't mind the odd day where I can just sit back and relax in a pair of delicate thongs or womens panties. I guess the secrecy kind of adds to the pleasure as well. I could never imagine telling anyone in real life. I don't want to tell them, just like I don't want them to tell me what they did with their girlfriend or what they fantasize about. Personal!
But anyway, am I the only one on here? Does anyone else wear them in secrecy for the thrill?  BTW I'm referring to womens thongs/g-strings. Not into men thongs one bit (they kinda creep me out lol :P )

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：03/05/2014 03:53:39Copy HTML

These are all great stories! As an admitted lurker in these forums, I hope one day I too can be brave enough to go public. For now I stick to private wearing because I like the way they make me feel and look. Props to you all!  

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：03/28/2014 03:49:00Copy HTML

This is along the same lines, but instead of friends and family, it's my neighbor. I don't want to tell them to incite a sexual response, but rather to inform them that I want to lay out in the backyard to catch some rays. I want to tell them because they have kids, and I don't want trouble from the parents. Legally, there is nothing wrong with it, but morally, I don't want to cause any neighborhood drama. I was thinking either one of three approaches. First, strike up a conversation, bring up casual questions of how often they go in the back yard, and then just come out with it. Second approach, I would let us get to know each other better, and then bring it up at some point. Third approach, well, it's not an approach, but rather just getting caught. What would you do, or what have you done? Honestly, the exhibitionist in me wants to get caught by the wife; however, I don't know them at all and I don't know how she or they would react. God forbid I get caught by their kids and they say that their is a naked man in the backyard. That will not end well for me, legally, and not well for my wife career wise. I only mention the legal part for me because I wear g-strings, and I may look naked from their house; furthermore, kids, boy and a girl, their age, probably 8 and 10, don't know the difference between a thong or g-string and the thin strings will make me look nude.
I am open to all suggestions, experiences, or opinions.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：03/28/2014 05:28:20Copy HTML

Get to know them as people first.  Create an event. You and your wife can invite them over for a BBQ or just for appetizers and drinks. 
 I find that people who know me as an individual feel less insecure when seeing me in a thong. 

Get to know the kids too, so they know you by first name. That's why a full family event like BBQ is good. 

You never know, it is quite possible they are worried about their kids running around screaming upsetting you.

You have posted elsewhere on this board that your wife has "many thong/g-string bikinis" and likes to wear them.
If the kids from next door see your wife in a thong bikini they are unlikely to pull the fire alarm.  
After a few times seeing your wife then seeing you with her, both in thongs will seem like a natural extention.

I suggest you set your wife out a nice sun bed in full few of the neibours and get her to lay out in a thong bikini any time the sun comes out and it is warm enough.  Get the neighbors to see her more than once. Let that sink in.  Then when you join her in a thong it will seem perfectly natural.  

It is not like the husband or boy can complain much after they have been enjoying the view of your wife. 

- - - - - - -

A good suggestion for anyone is to become a personal friend of your neighbors.  This is social inoculation. 
 
Own a set of tools and be helpful.  
You might take to fixing all the bikes for kids in the neighborhood. If you are not a bicyclist become one. 
You might be seen as a little eccentric, but a friendly and harmless eccentric they personally know. 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：03/28/2014 07:53:36Copy HTML

I would get to know them, tell them that you and your wife like to get sun when you can and like to wear less than most people. That should stand as fair warning. Then, on the next sunny day you can, just let them discovery the pair of you in your back yard. Act casual and be sure to say hello. They will quickly get the idea that this is perfectly normal and that their presence is not going affect your activities. 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：03/31/2014 12:46:24Copy HTML

Hi Krizay!

I can't agree more with JM_Runs! That way of doing seems the more friendly and reasonable to proceed.
Getting to know them first and perhaps if they see your wife wearing skimpy suits will surely pave the way to see you too.

And as jprob50 suggested, if you have the chance to comment you both like to wear skimpy suits, that will surely ease things even more!

Hope it all goes well, and share with us how it turns out!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：04/01/2014 03:47:39Copy HTML

 I will definitely let you all know. I have found it difficult to make friends with them because I have seen them about 4 times since we moved here about a month ago. I'm still working on an angle to go and meet them!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：04/04/2014 02:25:31Copy HTML

 Krizay, I don't think you need too much of an "angle" to meet your neighbors. Bake some cookies or make some rice crispy treats to drop off and say hello. Ask if it's a bad time and come back of ot is. Offer your name and phone numbers so they can call if there is an emergency of some sort. Then follow JM's suggestions. Do not plan to get "caught" by the wife. You are courting trouble. 

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：05/16/2014 04:34:16Copy HTML

 Walking in to work with a friend that I have known for about 10 years & we were planning a day on the beach. He was telling a story about he bought his ex wife a thong to wear to the beach, but she wasn't too keen on the idea.  I resopnded with, "I wear 'em all the time!  Not that big a deal"  He said, "Not with me, yr not!"  Made me laugh!  I'll eventually have to over ride his wishes as boardies are just too much material just to sit on the sand!  He'll have to get used to it!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：06/12/2014 10:36:08Copy HTML

To add to my post above, we've just had four days away camping with the same group of people mentioned in that story, plus a further five more couples who are friends of theirs. They all now know I wear thongs!!!
To cut a long story short, on a lively night around the campfire, the pole-dancer (not really, just in the last story) told all the others about the events on New Year's Eve. So naturally the girls in the group doubted I wore them 100% of the time and asked if I had one on at the time and for me to show them. Same again, I just showed them the back of my thong, then my tan line.
A lively discussion obviously followed...and the pole-dancer ended up with one of my thongs on over her tights again, giving out lap-dances. Very funny, especially to the guy asleep in his chair.

Later in the night when only she and her husband, my wife and I, and two of the other ladies were left, the conversation again turned to my thong wearing. At this stage, let's just say all of our inhibitions were much freer ;)
For whatever reason, he ended up shirtless and only in his trunks. The girls all left for a ladies room visit, so for a laugh I dashed into my van, stripped to my thong, and joined him around the fire. He thought that was just great! Then he asked me for a thong to put on, and said we should just stand there waiting for the girls to return. Their reaction was hilarious. All taken in good fun! I actually got compliments from them about how I looked in mine. My companion and I stood around like that for the next half hour, talking thongs with the girls.

Yes, the stories and the pictures came out around breakfast the next day! Everyone treated it as the good fun it was. Got some genuine questions about thongs, and some genuine compliments from the girls once more. I was pretty happy with that!

As an aside, the campsite has a tree that people have taken to nailing their thongs to (the flip-flop variety) for whatever reason. There are dozens. Now it also has one of my thongs, right at the top!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：06/12/2014 03:20:33Copy HTML

 It's stories like this which keep me interested in this board! Good on you Thongmad, party on!!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：07/14/2014 08:47:07Copy HTML

Although most of us don't give a rat's ass what others think about our thonging ways, I always ask people what do there family and friends think about them wearing a thong. Just curiosity because most of the responds I get are usually positive or non-minding.

In my experience my mom knows because she directly discovered them drying in one of my bedroom windows and ask my in a joking matter what are those thongs about, I told them that I like them, there the most comfortable underwear I've had and they look cool. She was ok with it. Once I even showed her me wearing a thong and she said that they look good on me and humorously said that I was probably a stripper or gold digging a rich old lady.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：02/26/2019 06:08:11Copy HTML

So I had a really good few experiences recently telling my friends . To note, I am an Indian guy who has been following this forum for 8-10 years now . I started thongs as a gag gift for my 16th birthday whereby a bunch of my friends knew about it. I continued and it was quite fun but then I stopped in my UG. 

About 4 years back I shifted to Singapore and began wearing thongs again especially around the pool and in changing rooms without much negative comments . Being that India is a conservative country , it was difficult for me to try them there . 

Most recently, I went to the beach in Singapore and thonged in a public place for the first time (placed a separate post on my experience there in the Singapore section - it was awesome) . 

The reason I decided to bite the bullet was because I was really stressed out due to lot of personal and professional issues and I badly needed a break. This context is really important because all of my other friends here look out for each other since we have no other family members, especially in times of stress . 

So when I ended up telling them they absolutely encouraged me for it. The first friend I told was ecstatic since I used to be way more conservatively dressed around them in the beach . She asked for a pic and told me that she wants to push me to wear a thong with the rest of my group for a beach party we will have when she visits us in July. She couldn't stop expressing her happiness seeing how open I was to this now. 

The second friend was equally impressed and especially cos we blow a lot of steam together by gymming , he considered it awesome. Though I don't think he will try it. 

I also told my best friend about it and she told me she was speechless . But we then had a good conversation about how liberating it is . Plus again she was super happy that I thonged and destressed so much .I  thought she had the most potential to poke fun of me but she was just taken aback. She even told me about how people did wear thongs for tanning etc and how she dint find it weird that it men wore them . 

One other friends even told me that she wished she could do the same but it was difficult to even wear bikinis cos she was in Qatar and it was super conservative. 

I guess as long as I didn't pose it as sexual fantasy or anything creepy it was well accepted and spawned interesting discussions on norms and roles.  Also note that all these friends of mine were either Indians or Pakistanis with  very liberal  mindsets and up for trying out lots of  different things . 

I must really thank this group for providing so much confidence. Would never have told them otherwise . 
Cheers !

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/11/2020 05:10:54Copy HTML

12 wheels, if the two of you had worn thongs your family might have been surprised at first, but I suspect they would have quickly got over it. -> Then you would be able to wear thongs on Family trips from then on. 

Family adjustments seem to take a day or two: If one of them feels a little uncomfortable their may be indirect comments or jokes, (not trying to start a war), but then once they have discussed it with their significant other, and among themselves as a group, that's normally the end of the issue. 

I have seen this dynamic play out with my own family, my extended family and more distant relatives, and when I worked as a yacht charter skipper with groups of couples or families. 

If the person or couple is asking for approval, then comments tend to be on modifying behavior back to the "normal" or status quo.  However if the individual or couple is strong and confident, and is not asking for approval, then the thought process turns to, do I really care? And if I don't feel fully comfortable will I even make an issue out of it? 

As I mentioned, sometimes, after a few comments to test the reaction of others in the group, it is often a non-issue from day one. With more conservative or reserved groups it may take a couple of days: First day surprise, second day normalizing, third day not an issue any more. 

When a women leads the way, the transition is much shorter, because if a conservative man says something about the guy thonging, the women will jump all over him for a double standard, and in defense of that position argue they like the guy's thong, even if that was not their first reaction.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/11/2020 09:44:27Copy HTML

JM, well said. This weekend, I am taking a trip to a resort in San Diego county with my friend Diane and her 5 girlfriends. Her and I thong together frequently at my backyard pool. We rented a cabana for the day. I know she has told her friends about us. I also booked us a two bedroom suite for the night. I must say I am nervous about how her friends will react too my thong preference. She has assured me that they are cool with it. However I have never met them before. My friend Diane is very non-judgmental and I have bought her many Wicked Weasels which she loves. I hope it is a great two days. What is your advice?

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/12/2020 02:22:29Copy HTML

Tell Diane before hand that you are a little anxious about wearing a thong in front of her friends. (This is true)

Once you meet the women, tell them early on that you will be thonging. Suggest you would like their opinion on which ones to wear. I would try to broach the subject when you first meet, during the excitement of first meeting up with friends, or in the group van going to resort. Before people have made mental pictures of the level of conservationism that might be appropriate for the venue, or selected their swimsuits for the day. 

Or better yet have your friend Diane introduce the subject. Have her say something like:
"I am looking forward to wearing my new thong swimsuits and I have convinced (your name) to wear a thong too, but he is a bit anxious about wearing a thong swimsuit in front of you all."

They are going to turn to you for conformation, to ask if you actually own a thong, and are willing to wear one. 
Maybe say "She thinks I should be more daring? You ladies don't mind?"

I am sure it will go well. I have never had a group of women complain about my thong.  In all my years, not once that I can think off. 

Groups of women tend to like men in thongs just about as much as much as groups of men like the self-confident women at a strip club. Being with a group provides a boldness that they probably would not express individually. 

The only times I have had women say something is if she is with her husband and is just voicing his homophobia, or unless she is some red-neck Karen on the beach with a bunch of rowdy kids. In forty years of thonging I don't think I have ever had a women, who is part of a group of women (without their men), voice anything other than approval. 

I have also had lots of times when groups of women have intervened when someone said something rude, or was otherwise disagreeable.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/12/2020 06:04:54Copy HTML

Thank you JM. I was thinking of letting them pick the one I will wear once we get up to our room. Diane says they are cool with it when I voiced my reservations. She says we will get along great. We shall see. They are all single (a few going through rough divorces and relationship breakup). The weekend is basically to let them blow off some steam and relax and forget about the BS happening. If anything, I get to thong with a bunch a single women, I'm loving that!

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/13/2020 12:43:08Copy HTML

Letting the women choose your thong is a great idea. I’ve done that very thing multiple times with much success. The woman or women I’ve been with find it great fun. A few time they want me to start with one thing then change to another half way through the day.

I’m quite sure you will have a great time with the women. They will love the fact your confident enough to wear a thong.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/20/2020 01:39:25Copy HTML

So the weekend went good. Diane and I arrived early because we had early check-in however, the room was not ready yet. So we went out to the pool and got our cabana reservation. We had our own server Jamee who was very nice. Diane was wondering if thongs were okay so I asked Jamee. She said no problem and many of the women would be wearing them during the day. Of course she had no idea I meant me also.

Diane’s friends arrived. All nice people pretty chill. When I stripped down to my thong there was a lot of hollering and smiles. They were cool with it and a couple of them seemed to really like it. The server Jamee also become more attentive LOL! I never had to ask for a drink after that.

I was absolutely the only guy in a thong at the resort. A couple guys in square cuts and one in a speedo. Lots of the women in thongs, g-strings and cheeky bikinis of all ages. It was not too young of a crowd as I thought it would be. Late twenties to 50’s. Obviously there still appears to be a stigma about men wearing thongs that are made for men.

No one gave me any grief and people were pretty chill. Lots of security. And COVID protocols were enforced which made me feel good about that. Diane and I walked over to the other pool to float down the lazy river (all pools were adult only BTW). I think that was the only time I got a “look” that might have been negative from and older couple next to where we got in the lazy river. I was wearing one of my custom Skinz thongs in Thinskinz lime green. Not really too sheer when wet but very clingy that shows a lot of detail even when dry. When Diane and I walked to the lazy river, lots of stares but didn’t seem to be in a bad way. Both of us take care of our bodies and she is a total gym rat.

I don’t think I would go back though. Not my scene really. The room was nice! I got us a two bedroom suite. I thought Diane’s friends would be staying but they left around 4 pm.

Overall it was a good trip.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：09/22/2020 11:45:40Copy HTML

One time I had a sleep over at my friend's place. I took the living couch and I had all my stuff out. The next morning, me and my friends got around the living room couch. While we were having breakfast, one of my friends gasped all of a sudden. He picked up my thong from the floor and he was like 'ewww'. I just quickly took the thong from him and put it in my bag.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/19/2024 09:54:58Copy HTML

Once one or two people in your family know you thong the word will spread, and that is a good thing.  They have time to digest the idea long before they see you in a thonging. This is a good thing. 

Living on the other side of the Atlantic means I have only seen my family when I visit, which for family other than my parents has always been in the UK at Christmas time. Most have never visited me here and I have never thonged in the UK because it is freezing cold in December. However by word of mouth everyone knows. 

This last Christmas we all met up at my mother's house in Mallorca. (Island in the Med off the coast of Spain). Two of my brothers, one wife and all of my various nephews and niece. Everyone came to Mallorca for Christmas at my Mothers.

As usual I was openly wearing thongs. Nobody said a peep. 

Between the various beaches of Magaluf and PalmaNova there are some rocky outcrops one has to paddle past to get from one beach to the next. 
 One of my teenage nephews was out bicycle riding and saw me paddle boarding past the beachs, so he bicycled up to the point to get a picture of me paddling past. >> https://flic.kr/p/2pst7VA

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/25/2024 04:21:14Copy HTML

Coming from a couple that just started bridging the friends gap (at least), you have 2 approaches:

1) Just wear it in front of them. 
2) Tell them ahead of time. 

My wife did the 1st with one of her girl-friends. I bought her and her friend a sauna/spa day at this local posh spa. It was one of those more party-vibe places, coed, where they serve drinks, food, etc. My wife wore one of her thong bikinis, not a micro, but didn't tell her friend. Her friends initial reaction was "OMG where is the rest of your bikini" and "I could never be comfortable wearing something like that in front of other men." Eventually, she said they settled in and it was no big deal. Now my wife wears thongs and even micros when they go to the beach. 

With my friends, I opted for #2. One of my good male-friends I have spoken about with on here was in South Beach last year when my wife and I were there visiting family. My wife was topless in a g-string and I had a t-back thong with micro pouch from Skinzwear. I asked my wife if she was OK with him stopping by to tan with us and she said it was fine. I sent him a quick text "Hey just wanted to let you know, we're in thongs and  is topless. Just don't want you to be surprised." His response was actually asking if we were OK with him coming by and I said it's totally fine. It was slightly awkward at first, probably more so because this was the first time seeing my wife topless, but then things were pretty normal. It ended up being completely fine. Since then he's gone with us on our boat where we wore the same and even met us at Gunnison Beach last summer where we tanned nude but he elected to leave his shorts on. 

I'm a big proponent of #2. We haven't had a person object, yet, when we told them ahead of time what we are wearing.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/26/2024 12:00:11Copy HTML

I also wore a thong in front of my gay friend without telling him beforehand. Last summer, I invited my gay friend to join me on the beach. I was already in a thong and my friend joined me later. He was not surprised to see me in a skimpy swimsuit and he was very casual. Because of his sexual orientation, I knew that he would be open minded.

I have friends from church and I don’t think they are as open minded as my gay friend. One time, I got a whole lecture from a church friend who saw my Instagram post. I posted a photo of me in a thong, and he said that what I was doing was ungodly. I tried to defend myself by saying that it was just a photo of my underwear, but he was still quite adamant and wouldn’t back down.  So, I don’t tell my church friends about underwear/swimwear preference, and I don’t go to the beach with them.

My point is, you have to choose the right people talk to.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/27/2024 02:12:04Copy HTML

I have told some friends I'm a nudist and a thonger, some of whom think I'm nuts on that subject, but it hasn't changed the relationship. Six are church/Bible study friends, the rest are not. My reply to any possible Christian legalists is that Jesus never told anyone to change their clothing, but he did tell them to change their attitudes/ideas about God, himself, and others. Also, men and boys swam nude at the Young Men's Christian Association (YMCA) decades ago. Most of my friends don't swim/beach/pool. One friend joined me and went nude at Gunnison Beach and saw me thong there to and from the parking lot. No big deal.

I have not told my family directly, but have said things about how libertarian the Miami, Florida scene is. I said how much I liked wearing a small swimsuit there and that I enjoyed the nude beach. We don't swim/pool/beach together so it probably doesn't matter.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/27/2024 04:37:04Copy HTML

Telling my friends that I wear a thong is fairly easy. They already know I dress with my own sense of fashion, bright colors and some wild designs. They have mostly seen me wearing leggings either for gym or for fashion when going out. A few have outright asked if I am wearing a thong under my outfit. I casually answer “yes indeed.” Many of my friends either have joined me at the beach or have seen photos that I have shown them of my beach time. So, they know I wear thong swimwear. It’s no big deal. My friends are actually quite supportive of my thong choice and will ask which thong I am wearing when going to the beach. 

My family on the other had, is a different story. They are very religiously conservative with strict moral codes. I will not discuss my thong choice with them. They already have enough difficulty with what they see me wear. They have outright expressed their distaste for men wearing anything less than long board shorts for beach attire. Even a square cut suit is disgusting in their opinion. They express similar opinions about women wearing thong bikinis, saying they are immoral. It is a bit sad that they are so unaccepting. I respect their choices and as a result keep my thong habit hidden from them.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/27/2024 04:37:58Copy HTML

I would never tell family and friends.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/28/2024 09:18:54Copy HTML

I think RapidBlue has it spot on. Instead of blatantly telling your friends that you like to wear thongs, it might be better to give them hints. You can say you wear as little as possible when tanning on the beach. You can say you don’t like your underwear showing when you’re wearing tight pants. 

I am going to change my fashion for the 2024 S/S season. I am going to try to wear more white pants. This will give me a good reason to wear a thong under my white pants.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：01/28/2024 08:18:26Copy HTML

This is how I told my closest friends. I told them I wear as little as possible, that is legal at each venue, and then I let the questions fly.  Once they know I am comfortable in my own skin and they realize it's not a big deal, they let it go. In fact, they are usually very intrigued because they have never met anyone who feels so liberated. They may bring it up occasionally in future conversations, but I politely let them know I own it. It's not like I am trying to force them to follow my lead. However, if they ever wish to join me, I would gladly take them along. They also know I am a naturist and frequent resorts a few times a year. When they find this out, they know I am serious. This really gets them thinking whether or not they could do any of the above.

Re：How to tell friends or family

Date Posted：11/22/2024 09:59:54Copy HTML

Since being divorced for almost 11 years, I have still not found success in meeting any liberated women.  I live in a rather rural area, in north central PA and most people are very conservative.  A few friends know I enjoy wearing thongs, even in public, and some know I frequent nudist resorts.  No one is interested in going to a nudist resort, to Fantasy Fest in Key West, etc.  Yet when the subject comes up in conversation, the women are intrigued and curious and the men start to make non-favorable comments.  It is frustrating to not know anyone interested in going to a resort for a day trip or to weekend getaway to the beach, with no (g-)strings attached. :)

In any event, I may have an opportunity to meet someone a couple hours away, who is very successful in her career, has never been married (focused on her career instead), has no children, and is looking for companionship.  The person trying to connect us is the daughter-in-law of a friend of mine.  This person says the woman is looking to meet someone with children because she has never had children of her own.  She is only 3 or 4 years younger than me.  My friend's daughter-in-law even said he has no ties to where she lives now and can relocate to anywhere.  With what I know so far, I would definitely be interested in meeting her.

My question to the community here is, should I meet this woman (or any other woman for that matter), and we connect in any way, how soon and how should I mention my desire to wear minimal swimwear and thongs and go to nudist resorts?  I would not want to "scare" her off. 
 I am just curious for responses because sometimes I wonder if I will need to choose remaining single, with a lot of intrigued friends (who will not join me), or stop wearing thongs and going to nudists resorts.

I would welcome any advice from anyone's personal experiences. 
 Thank you.

thereal_matt	#101
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/19/2012 01:41:18Copy HTML I just think when we make a big deal others make a bigger deal and it becomes a thing when it doesn't need to be a thing. It seems almost exhibitionist-y and that turns it from a simple underwear selection to a sexualized thing.
nicksthong	#102
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/19/2012 06:23:40Copy HTML Would you consider telling your friends or family that you wore boxers or briefs, or that you would be wearing a pink shirt or a tight pair of pants? I know that thongs are 'weird', but may I suggest that you focus your attention on how you will react when and IF they naturally find out that you are wearing thongs. Would you rather have your friends become aware of your thongs by sitting them down and deliberately telling them what kind of underwear you wear, or would you rather have a perfectly natural response to their questions? It just seems like your asking for trouble. That's not to say that you cant tell your friends that you wear thongs, it should just come naturally, like you were talking about anything else.
thong_jock	#103
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/19/2012 07:48:57Copy HTML I have to agree that telling someone out of the blue seems like you feel like you need to 'come out' about it and you feel there's something wring with your choice in swimwear and underwear. I've never done this but have warned buddies who want to hit the beach with me or go on vacations that I wear thongs and I say it in a joking manner. When they see me peel off my shorts , revealing my thong they quickly realize I wasn't joking. :-) Other times, I just strip off the shorts and they're like "WOW!" Have only received positive feedback on my thongs and how I look in them, but then again, I've never thonged with my straight friends and doubt they would be as open to the idea of me in a string swimsuit. I pick and choose where and with whom I wear my favorite swimwear of choice.
JM_Runs	#104
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/20/2012 12:41:23Copy HTML As others have said, when we don't make a big deal about it, most others won't either. My family found out about my interest in thongs when I was still in high school. I had laundry in the dryer, which my mom needed to move to do her laundry. She found out about my thongs and string bikinis and even folded all of my laundry for me! Of course, there has been a little joking around over the years, but it has all been in good nature.
thongdk	#105
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/22/2012 10:07:10Copy HTML Well this dicussion just goes to show that we all handle our choice of underwear differently. Which I guess is fine. For me it felt right to tell my friend about my choice of underwear because I would rather that he knew before I stripped down on the beach. Of course I won't tell everybody about my underwear just out of the blue but in this situation it worked well - because let's face it, wearing a thong is a bit different albeit beeing otally ok. I was on the beach with my friend and my girl friend in a thong today and no comments were made and we just had a good time. Happy telling or not-telling out there. Do what suits you.
steampowered	#106
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/23/2012 12:59:44Copy HTML I naturally tell close friends most things. Especially after a couple of beers or just relaxing, I love trading information and experiences with people especially around slightly taboo subjects that in social settings, you just can't talk about. I'm very open with the way I talk, so yeah, I would spark up a conversation about underwear and, yes, I would (and have) tell people I wore boxer or briefs (of which I do, as well as thongs). discussing the pros and cons of stuff like that, to me is fun and interesting. I'm very comfortable with my rationale over stuff like this, so explaining to people why I wear them, to me, makes me feel better about it and makes them more open to talk to not only myself, but others about taboo stuff like this. I'm not a fan of conservatism, but I often suffer from it. damn you society!
thong_jock	#107
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/23/2012 03:41:33Copy HTML What an awesome attitude steampowered. You're obviously a guy who really has his *$%) together and is confident in who he is what's important in life. You're GF is lucky - you're smokin' hot to look at too! WOOF!
JM_Runs	#108
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/23/2012 05:12:45Copy HTML I don't normally bring up the underwear conversation, but in the past when it has come up I have not denied it either. I have also had incident where either my mother or mother in law has been visiting and has helped with the laundry and started folding clothes and asked who's G-strings are these and have said either mine or my wife's depending on who's they were. I have also been on vacation with my in-laws and wore a G-string on the beach tanning with my wife with her parents on the beach. The only comment was that you don't leave much to the imagination, which we said we usually don't wear this much when we tan.
JM_Runs	#109
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/06/2012 01:30:54Copy HTML Like I have said in other post's I have been wearing G-string since the late 80's and back-in-the-day my mother came to visit me, and as mother's do while I was at work she entertained herself and did my laundry, and in my laundry was my G-strings. So when I got home and saw my laundry washed and folded she asked about my "tiny" underwear, and I said those aren't underwear they are swimsuits! to which she said if you wear one of those you might as well be naked on the beach! I told her that if I could be naked on the beach I wouldn't need swimsuits but until I can be naked on the beach these will have to do!
IotaTheta	#110
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/11/2012 03:07:15Copy HTML I have been wearing thongs now for a little while and have for the most part kept it secret from my parents. I have been more up front with my inlaws. My MiL has become accustomed to it and if she does my wife's and my laundry, she just makes a best guess as to who each thong belongs to. I recently went on a cruise with my wife. I only wore speedos while tanning or in the water during excursions so many of the pictures showed me in a really small muscleskin bikini. So when my parents saw the bikini, they made a comment on how small my swimsuit was. Without thinking I told them I liked the tan and they are bigger than my thong underwear. They had a couple questions about me wearing thong underwear but didn't make any other comments. Now it's not an issue and it feels so much better not having to hide it.
Matt_Thongs	#111
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/16/2012 06:24:46Copy HTML Last night I just reveled I wear thongs to some of my friends girlfriends. They all were talking about their leggings. I love those but had never the chance to try some one. They were arguing about the type of underwear to use. I started saying that thongs were so comfortable and looked so nice. One of the girls was like what would you know about it? so I just let them know I was wearing a thong and told them that love to be out in public like that. I hope they keep it to their selfs, non of her boyfriends use thongs.
erik3000	#112
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/16/2012 10:37:25Copy HTML I come from a very conservative and religious home and both mom and dad know that I wear them even my sister. We were in florida on vacations all together and I just told them my grand mother was there and she said that was disgusting for a man to wear it but was fine. Other day we were driving to the mall and I was seating beside my sister and wife and my tee roll over and half of my butt got exposed and my sister was a little nervous and she said that im showing my butt and my wife pull down my tee. But I thing that the best thing is to come straight and tell them just choose the right time to do it and they are going to take it fine. This happens in my early 20 and now my mom jokes sometimes with her friends about my thongs
ministeve	#113
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/17/2012 02:40:09Copy HTML I keep wondering about this. I have very conservative parents. They recently mentioned that they would like to tag along with us on a sun trip because they don't feel comfortable travelling by themselves. They've never done a beach vacation trip. I'm not sure if I could relax and enjoy a trip in front of them in a thong, and I know my wife would not feel comfortable topless in front of the in laws. Might have to feel them out and make sure they can accept our swimwear choice before we go on it.
rjthongs	#114
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/17/2012 08:17:28Copy HTML I seem to be part of the common story here - My Mom was visiting with us for a few days and decided to help with the laundry while my wife and I were at work. Of course, my thong underwear was in the laundry with everything else. My Mom asked if that "string underwear" was mine. I told her that it was mine. Nothing else ever came up about it again.
Grabeach	#115
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：11/22/2013 12:21:11Copy HTML My sister, late fifties like me, lives about 50km away, so anytime we are in the vicinity of the other we usually meet somewhere for a meal. Recently she rang and said she would be in Sydney for a morning appointment and would I like to go somewhere for a swim after that. Although she knew I liked the beach and pools, this was the first time she had ever suggested we go for a swim somewhere. Not only that, but as my wife now has no interest in being in or near the water, yesterday was the first time in about a decade I have gone to the beach or pool as what I guess could loosely be called a ’couple’. The beach being out of the question due to recent heavy rain, I found a public outdoor aquatic centre (they’re not ‘pools’ anymore!) close to where her appointment was. First time there, so I didn’t know what the centre’s attitude to thongs would be. More importantly, although I would classify my sister as broad minded (20 years ago she walked in on me sunning nude at home and it didn’t faze her at all), she is fairly conservative in attire and not a beach person. In short I really didn’t have a clue what her attitude would be. Do I simply not sun in my g-string for that day? Do I worn / ask her before we go? Do I just do what I normally do and strip to my g-string after doing my laps and wait for her feedback? Eventually I concluded that if I chose to just forgo my g-string for the day, I would in affect not be trusting her to react in an intelligent manner, no matter what her opinion might be. I know I would far prefer someone to ask me if something was okay, rather than not do it at all because they thought I might not agree. As we lay out our towels on a small grass area by ourselves, I simply mentioned that I usually sun in a g-string and was she okay with that here. Almost straight away she replied, “Of course I don’t mind. Don't know what others may think, just don’t get arrested.” Although the arrested bit was not serious, I could tell that she was just a tad uneasy as to what others' opinion might be. After only a couple of minutes two women and a child set up next to us. After this my sister noticeably relaxed. From then on the subject was a non-issue. When we left, she told me what a nice time she had and that we should do this again soon.
Sharon73	#116
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：11/22/2013 01:02:22Copy HTML I can't remember really having to tell anyone I wore a thong - i think they just knew it - either from seeing a thong line under my pants or by me laying out in one or from my bf just telling all his friends that I wear a thong.
Tanned Bum	#117
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：11/28/2013 12:29:02Copy HTML Today is Thanksgiving and I am sitting here typing this as the turkey is in the oven. I will have 44-46 relatives (ages 5-91) over for lunch and dinner and about half of them know I wear thongs or bikini also know as my "tiny speedo" I have a bunch of drink holders with a male torso in tiny speedo and a couple thong Iphone covers. Not to mention a couple coffee cups with me in a bikini on them to say for warn. Because this year a cousin had a bright idea after dinner to have everyone give a year in photos on the big screen. I have Apple TV where everyone with an Iphone/Itouch/Ipad (90%) is going to airplay their photos on what they did over the last year. Since I am an avid boat/fisherman, my whole summer I was in a thong so a actually need to post a couple. Otherwise I don't have a picture of me doing any summer activities. The rest of the family will know after dinner. Happy Thanksgiving
stanpuppy	#118
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：11/28/2013 07:29:25Copy HTML Sharon.....its a bit different for a women. Being as probably 75% or women own thongs, and probably about half wear them regularly. Not quite the impact for women as for a guy where the percentages are probably in low single digits
JM_Runs	#119
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：12/01/2013 03:23:38Copy HTML Like I have said in other post's I have been wearing G-string since the late 80's and back-in-the-day my mother came to visit me, and as mother's do while I was at work she entertained herself and did my laundry, and in my laundry was my G-strings. So when I got home and saw my laundry washed and folded she asked about my "tiny" underwear, and I said those aren't underwear they are swimsuits! to which she said if you wear one of those you might as well be naked on the beach! I told her that if I could be naked on the beach I wouldn't need swimsuits but until I can be naked on the beach these will have to do! this was a copy of an old post from a previous account of mine, but the answer still stands, but to add to this now. My mother was visiting over the holiday and she was looking out into my backyard and asked if I still wore my "tiny" underwear to sunbath in, and if my wife approved of them? I I told her only when I can't go naked!! and she said aren't you embarrassed wearing them in your backyard where your neighbor's can seeing into it from their 2nd story balcony? I said no We don't wear them in my backyard, and that we go NUDE!! And she said you are kidding right? I told her we have gone nude since we bought our house and have caught by the neighbor's the first time we used our pool.
richard12181970	#120
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/05/2014 12:34:03Copy HTML If I remember it right the topic of wearing thongs and tanning in them just sort of came up many years ago with my brother's girlfriend (now wife). My now sister-in-law tanned in a thong and wore thong panties and was always open about things like that. Later she saw me tanning and really made no big deal about it. I only have a few other friends that know and these are people I can trust and be more open to. For me wearing thongs is more of a private thing, and I like it that way. Like others, my mother most likely knows about my thong underwear because a few pairs got in the laundry last summer when I was visiting. Oh well, nothing was said.
Thongmad	#121
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/15/2014 08:09:51Copy HTML I had a pretty good experience while being 'outed' as a thonger on my recent holidays to a group of friends! Our annual Christmas break is spent at Port Macquarie in the caravan park beside the main beach. Over the last few years, we have made some excellent friends who also return each year. A few of them have seen me on the beach tanning in my thongs, this I know for sure. Many have not, but know I love laying in the sun, and would guess by my absence of tan lines while wearing a brief that I go pretty skimpy. On New Years Eve (OK, maybe NY Day around 1am) somebody commented on how well one of the lady's legs were tanned. She kicked off her thongs (the foot variety) and you could clearly see how well her legs and feet had tanned but under the thong strap had not. Somebody made the comment that she had a great thong tan! She came straight back with "It's not as good as his!" pointing me out. I kicked of my thongs (from my feet) and said "No it isn't!" knowing what she really meant. She then said "Not that, show us the other one!" Well, the roar went up from six (slightly?) intoxicated women, and there was no hiding it! They were chanting "Pants off, pants off!" So in front of twelve or so friends, I sat on her lap and pulled the back of my board shorts down a little (showed her half of my butt) and said "There, is it better than yours?" Because all of the women were sitting together, they all had a good look! Funny as! It actually went down really well, because I took it pretty well I thought! I took a bit of a ribbing about it for a while, and we all had a bit of a loud conversation about why/where/when I wear them, and who else does/has. No other guys of course! Later in the night, as we all got louder and partied more, one of the girls decided she needed to dance in one of my thongs! I gave her a red DeeJay micro bather, and a pair of socks to put down the front! Hilarity ensued, and photos got taken and posted! She pole-danced for us with the thong over the tights she was wearing. Very funny times had by all!!! It was all good fun, and she said to me the next day 'Thanks for being a good sport about it'. No harm done, and I don't have to be nervous in the slightest around these guys now!
easytoremember	#122
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：02/26/2014 04:46:58Copy HTML I've noticed a lot of wearers here are proud advertisers of their thong wearing. There's a time and a place for everything I guess. I guess deep down we all wear them for different reasons but for me it's a personal thing; it makes me feel sexy, free and sensual. I'm only part-time though. 5 days a week I work construction, and act as manly as anyone else, but I don't mind the odd day where I can just sit back and relax in a pair of delicate thongs or womens panties. I guess the secrecy kind of adds to the pleasure as well. I could never imagine telling anyone in real life. I don't want to tell them, just like I don't want them to tell me what they did with their girlfriend or what they fantasize about. Personal! But anyway, am I the only one on here? Does anyone else wear them in secrecy for the thrill? BTW I'm referring to womens thongs/g-strings. Not into men thongs one bit (they kinda creep me out lol :P )
Skidoo	#123
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：03/05/2014 03:53:39Copy HTML These are all great stories! As an admitted lurker in these forums, I hope one day I too can be brave enough to go public. For now I stick to private wearing because I like the way they make me feel and look. Props to you all!
Krizay	#124
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：03/28/2014 03:49:00Copy HTML This is along the same lines, but instead of friends and family, it's my neighbor. I don't want to tell them to incite a sexual response, but rather to inform them that I want to lay out in the backyard to catch some rays. I want to tell them because they have kids, and I don't want trouble from the parents. Legally, there is nothing wrong with it, but morally, I don't want to cause any neighborhood drama. I was thinking either one of three approaches. First, strike up a conversation, bring up casual questions of how often they go in the back yard, and then just come out with it. Second approach, I would let us get to know each other better, and then bring it up at some point. Third approach, well, it's not an approach, but rather just getting caught. What would you do, or what have you done? Honestly, the exhibitionist in me wants to get caught by the wife; however, I don't know them at all and I don't know how she or they would react. God forbid I get caught by their kids and they say that their is a naked man in the backyard. That will not end well for me, legally, and not well for my wife career wise. I only mention the legal part for me because I wear g-strings, and I may look naked from their house; furthermore, kids, boy and a girl, their age, probably 8 and 10, don't know the difference between a thong or g-string and the thin strings will make me look nude. I am open to all suggestions, experiences, or opinions.
JM_Runs	#125
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：03/28/2014 05:28:20Copy HTML Get to know them as people first. Create an event. You and your wife can invite them over for a BBQ or just for appetizers and drinks. I find that people who know me as an individual feel less insecure when seeing me in a thong. Get to know the kids too, so they know you by first name. That's why a full family event like BBQ is good. You never know, it is quite possible they are worried about their kids running around screaming upsetting you. You have posted elsewhere on this board that your wife has "many thong/g-string bikinis" and likes to wear them. If the kids from next door see your wife in a thong bikini they are unlikely to pull the fire alarm. After a few times seeing your wife then seeing you with her, both in thongs will seem like a natural extention. I suggest you set your wife out a nice sun bed in full few of the neibours and get her to lay out in a thong bikini any time the sun comes out and it is warm enough. Get the neighbors to see her more than once. Let that sink in. Then when you join her in a thong it will seem perfectly natural. It is not like the husband or boy can complain much after they have been enjoying the view of your wife. - - - - - - - A good suggestion for anyone is to become a personal friend of your neighbors. This is social inoculation. Own a set of tools and be helpful. You might take to fixing all the bikes for kids in the neighborhood. If you are not a bicyclist become one. You might be seen as a little eccentric, but a friendly and harmless eccentric they personally know.
jprob50	#126
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：03/28/2014 07:53:36Copy HTML I would get to know them, tell them that you and your wife like to get sun when you can and like to wear less than most people. That should stand as fair warning. Then, on the next sunny day you can, just let them discovery the pair of you in your back yard. Act casual and be sure to say hello. They will quickly get the idea that this is perfectly normal and that their presence is not going affect your activities.
argiethonger	#127
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：03/31/2014 12:46:24Copy HTML Hi Krizay! I can't agree more with JM_Runs! That way of doing seems the more friendly and reasonable to proceed. Getting to know them first and perhaps if they see your wife wearing skimpy suits will surely pave the way to see you too. And as jprob50 suggested, if you have the chance to comment you both like to wear skimpy suits, that will surely ease things even more! Hope it all goes well, and share with us how it turns out!
Krizay	#128
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：04/01/2014 03:47:39Copy HTML I will definitely let you all know. I have found it difficult to make friends with them because I have seen them about 4 times since we moved here about a month ago. I'm still working on an angle to go and meet them!
showoffmark	#129
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：04/04/2014 02:25:31Copy HTML Krizay, I don't think you need too much of an "angle" to meet your neighbors. Bake some cookies or make some rice crispy treats to drop off and say hello. Ask if it's a bad time and come back of ot is. Offer your name and phone numbers so they can call if there is an emergency of some sort. Then follow JM's suggestions. Do not plan to get "caught" by the wife. You are courting trouble.
mrhb2008	#130
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：05/16/2014 04:34:16Copy HTML Walking in to work with a friend that I have known for about 10 years & we were planning a day on the beach. He was telling a story about he bought his ex wife a thong to wear to the beach, but she wasn't too keen on the idea. I resopnded with, "I wear 'em all the time! Not that big a deal" He said, "Not with me, yr not!" Made me laugh! I'll eventually have to over ride his wishes as boardies are just too much material just to sit on the sand! He'll have to get used to it!
Thongmad	#131
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：06/12/2014 10:36:08Copy HTML To add to my post above, we've just had four days away camping with the same group of people mentioned in that story, plus a further five more couples who are friends of theirs. They all now know I wear thongs!!! To cut a long story short, on a lively night around the campfire, the pole-dancer (not really, just in the last story) told all the others about the events on New Year's Eve. So naturally the girls in the group doubted I wore them 100% of the time and asked if I had one on at the time and for me to show them. Same again, I just showed them the back of my thong, then my tan line. A lively discussion obviously followed...and the pole-dancer ended up with one of my thongs on over her tights again, giving out lap-dances. Very funny, especially to the guy asleep in his chair. Later in the night when only she and her husband, my wife and I, and two of the other ladies were left, the conversation again turned to my thong wearing. At this stage, let's just say all of our inhibitions were much freer ;) For whatever reason, he ended up shirtless and only in his trunks. The girls all left for a ladies room visit, so for a laugh I dashed into my van, stripped to my thong, and joined him around the fire. He thought that was just great! Then he asked me for a thong to put on, and said we should just stand there waiting for the girls to return. Their reaction was hilarious. All taken in good fun! I actually got compliments from them about how I looked in mine. My companion and I stood around like that for the next half hour, talking thongs with the girls. Yes, the stories and the pictures came out around breakfast the next day! Everyone treated it as the good fun it was. Got some genuine questions about thongs, and some genuine compliments from the girls once more. I was pretty happy with that! As an aside, the campsite has a tree that people have taken to nailing their thongs to (the flip-flop variety) for whatever reason. There are dozens. Now it also has one of my thongs, right at the top!
pkthong	#132
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：06/12/2014 03:20:33Copy HTML It's stories like this which keep me interested in this board! Good on you Thongmad, party on!!
JM_Runs	#133
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：07/14/2014 08:47:07Copy HTML Although most of us don't give a rat's ass what others think about our thonging ways, I always ask people what do there family and friends think about them wearing a thong. Just curiosity because most of the responds I get are usually positive or non-minding. In my experience my mom knows because she directly discovered them drying in one of my bedroom windows and ask my in a joking matter what are those thongs about, I told them that I like them, there the most comfortable underwear I've had and they look cool. She was ok with it. Once I even showed her me wearing a thong and she said that they look good on me and humorously said that I was probably a stripper or gold digging a rich old lady.
DOnygaurnath	#134
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：02/26/2019 06:08:11Copy HTML So I had a really good few experiences recently telling my friends . To note, I am an Indian guy who has been following this forum for 8-10 years now . I started thongs as a gag gift for my 16th birthday whereby a bunch of my friends knew about it. I continued and it was quite fun but then I stopped in my UG. About 4 years back I shifted to Singapore and began wearing thongs again especially around the pool and in changing rooms without much negative comments . Being that India is a conservative country , it was difficult for me to try them there . Most recently, I went to the beach in Singapore and thonged in a public place for the first time (placed a separate post on my experience there in the Singapore section - it was awesome) . The reason I decided to bite the bullet was because I was really stressed out due to lot of personal and professional issues and I badly needed a break. This context is really important because all of my other friends here look out for each other since we have no other family members, especially in times of stress . So when I ended up telling them they absolutely encouraged me for it. The first friend I told was ecstatic since I used to be way more conservatively dressed around them in the beach . She asked for a pic and told me that she wants to push me to wear a thong with the rest of my group for a beach party we will have when she visits us in July. She couldn't stop expressing her happiness seeing how open I was to this now. The second friend was equally impressed and especially cos we blow a lot of steam together by gymming , he considered it awesome. Though I don't think he will try it. I also told my best friend about it and she told me she was speechless . But we then had a good conversation about how liberating it is . Plus again she was super happy that I thonged and destressed so much .I thought she had the most potential to poke fun of me but she was just taken aback. She even told me about how people did wear thongs for tanning etc and how she dint find it weird that it men wore them . One other friends even told me that she wished she could do the same but it was difficult to even wear bikinis cos she was in Qatar and it was super conservative. I guess as long as I didn't pose it as sexual fantasy or anything creepy it was well accepted and spawned interesting discussions on norms and roles. Also note that all these friends of mine were either Indians or Pakistanis with very liberal mindsets and up for trying out lots of different things . I must really thank this group for providing so much confidence. Would never have told them otherwise . Cheers !
JM_Runs	#135
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/11/2020 05:10:54Copy HTML 12 wheels, if the two of you had worn thongs your family might have been surprised at first, but I suspect they would have quickly got over it. -> Then you would be able to wear thongs on Family trips from then on. Family adjustments seem to take a day or two: If one of them feels a little uncomfortable their may be indirect comments or jokes, (not trying to start a war), but then once they have discussed it with their significant other, and among themselves as a group, that's normally the end of the issue. I have seen this dynamic play out with my own family, my extended family and more distant relatives, and when I worked as a yacht charter skipper with groups of couples or families. If the person or couple is asking for approval, then comments tend to be on modifying behavior back to the "normal" or status quo. However if the individual or couple is strong and confident, and is not asking for approval, then the thought process turns to, do I really care? And if I don't feel fully comfortable will I even make an issue out of it? As I mentioned, sometimes, after a few comments to test the reaction of others in the group, it is often a non-issue from day one. With more conservative or reserved groups it may take a couple of days: First day surprise, second day normalizing, third day not an issue any more. When a women leads the way, the transition is much shorter, because if a conservative man says something about the guy thonging, the women will jump all over him for a double standard, and in defense of that position argue they like the guy's thong, even if that was not their first reaction.
gog5150	#136
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/11/2020 09:44:27Copy HTML JM, well said. This weekend, I am taking a trip to a resort in San Diego county with my friend Diane and her 5 girlfriends. Her and I thong together frequently at my backyard pool. We rented a cabana for the day. I know she has told her friends about us. I also booked us a two bedroom suite for the night. I must say I am nervous about how her friends will react too my thong preference. She has assured me that they are cool with it. However I have never met them before. My friend Diane is very non-judgmental and I have bought her many Wicked Weasels which she loves. I hope it is a great two days. What is your advice?
JM_Runs	#137
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/12/2020 02:22:29Copy HTML Tell Diane before hand that you are a little anxious about wearing a thong in front of her friends. (This is true) Once you meet the women, tell them early on that you will be thonging. Suggest you would like their opinion on which ones to wear. I would try to broach the subject when you first meet, during the excitement of first meeting up with friends, or in the group van going to resort. Before people have made mental pictures of the level of conservationism that might be appropriate for the venue, or selected their swimsuits for the day. Or better yet have your friend Diane introduce the subject. Have her say something like: "I am looking forward to wearing my new thong swimsuits and I have convinced (your name) to wear a thong too, but he is a bit anxious about wearing a thong swimsuit in front of you all." They are going to turn to you for conformation, to ask if you actually own a thong, and are willing to wear one. Maybe say "She thinks I should be more daring? You ladies don't mind?" I am sure it will go well. I have never had a group of women complain about my thong. In all my years, not once that I can think off. Groups of women tend to like men in thongs just about as much as much as groups of men like the self-confident women at a strip club. Being with a group provides a boldness that they probably would not express individually. The only times I have had women say something is if she is with her husband and is just voicing his homophobia, or unless she is some red-neck Karen on the beach with a bunch of rowdy kids. In forty years of thonging I don't think I have ever had a women, who is part of a group of women (without their men), voice anything other than approval. I have also had lots of times when groups of women have intervened when someone said something rude, or was otherwise disagreeable.
gog5150	#138
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/12/2020 06:04:54Copy HTML Thank you JM. I was thinking of letting them pick the one I will wear once we get up to our room. Diane says they are cool with it when I voiced my reservations. She says we will get along great. We shall see. They are all single (a few going through rough divorces and relationship breakup). The weekend is basically to let them blow off some steam and relax and forget about the BS happening. If anything, I get to thong with a bunch a single women, I'm loving that!
RapidBlue	#139
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/13/2020 12:43:08Copy HTML Letting the women choose your thong is a great idea. I’ve done that very thing multiple times with much success. The woman or women I’ve been with find it great fun. A few time they want me to start with one thing then change to another half way through the day. I’m quite sure you will have a great time with the women. They will love the fact your confident enough to wear a thong.
gog5150	#140
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/20/2020 01:39:25Copy HTML So the weekend went good. Diane and I arrived early because we had early check-in however, the room was not ready yet. So we went out to the pool and got our cabana reservation. We had our own server Jamee who was very nice. Diane was wondering if thongs were okay so I asked Jamee. She said no problem and many of the women would be wearing them during the day. Of course she had no idea I meant me also. Diane’s friends arrived. All nice people pretty chill. When I stripped down to my thong there was a lot of hollering and smiles. They were cool with it and a couple of them seemed to really like it. The server Jamee also become more attentive LOL! I never had to ask for a drink after that. I was absolutely the only guy in a thong at the resort. A couple guys in square cuts and one in a speedo. Lots of the women in thongs, g-strings and cheeky bikinis of all ages. It was not too young of a crowd as I thought it would be. Late twenties to 50’s. Obviously there still appears to be a stigma about men wearing thongs that are made for men. No one gave me any grief and people were pretty chill. Lots of security. And COVID protocols were enforced which made me feel good about that. Diane and I walked over to the other pool to float down the lazy river (all pools were adult only BTW). I think that was the only time I got a “look” that might have been negative from and older couple next to where we got in the lazy river. I was wearing one of my custom Skinz thongs in Thinskinz lime green. Not really too sheer when wet but very clingy that shows a lot of detail even when dry. When Diane and I walked to the lazy river, lots of stares but didn’t seem to be in a bad way. Both of us take care of our bodies and she is a total gym rat. I don’t think I would go back though. Not my scene really. The room was nice! I got us a two bedroom suite. I thought Diane’s friends would be staying but they left around 4 pm. Overall it was a good trip.
kiyoothong	#141
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：09/22/2020 11:45:40Copy HTML One time I had a sleep over at my friend's place. I took the living couch and I had all my stuff out. The next morning, me and my friends got around the living room couch. While we were having breakfast, one of my friends gasped all of a sudden. He picked up my thong from the floor and he was like 'ewww'. I just quickly took the thong from him and put it in my bag.
JM_Runs	#142
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/19/2024 09:54:58Copy HTML Once one or two people in your family know you thong the word will spread, and that is a good thing. They have time to digest the idea long before they see you in a thonging. This is a good thing. Living on the other side of the Atlantic means I have only seen my family when I visit, which for family other than my parents has always been in the UK at Christmas time. Most have never visited me here and I have never thonged in the UK because it is freezing cold in December. However by word of mouth everyone knows. This last Christmas we all met up at my mother's house in Mallorca. (Island in the Med off the coast of Spain). Two of my brothers, one wife and all of my various nephews and niece. Everyone came to Mallorca for Christmas at my Mothers. As usual I was openly wearing thongs. Nobody said a peep. Between the various beaches of Magaluf and PalmaNova there are some rocky outcrops one has to paddle past to get from one beach to the next. One of my teenage nephews was out bicycle riding and saw me paddle boarding past the beachs, so he bicycled up to the point to get a picture of me paddling past. >> https://flic.kr/p/2pst7VA
visa0061	#143
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/25/2024 04:21:14Copy HTML Coming from a couple that just started bridging the friends gap (at least), you have 2 approaches: 1) Just wear it in front of them. 2) Tell them ahead of time. My wife did the 1st with one of her girl-friends. I bought her and her friend a sauna/spa day at this local posh spa. It was one of those more party-vibe places, coed, where they serve drinks, food, etc. My wife wore one of her thong bikinis, not a micro, but didn't tell her friend. Her friends initial reaction was "OMG where is the rest of your bikini" and "I could never be comfortable wearing something like that in front of other men." Eventually, she said they settled in and it was no big deal. Now my wife wears thongs and even micros when they go to the beach. With my friends, I opted for #2. One of my good male-friends I have spoken about with on here was in South Beach last year when my wife and I were there visiting family. My wife was topless in a g-string and I had a t-back thong with micro pouch from Skinzwear. I asked my wife if she was OK with him stopping by to tan with us and she said it was fine. I sent him a quick text "Hey just wanted to let you know, we're in thongs and is topless. Just don't want you to be surprised." His response was actually asking if we were OK with him coming by and I said it's totally fine. It was slightly awkward at first, probably more so because this was the first time seeing my wife topless, but then things were pretty normal. It ended up being completely fine. Since then he's gone with us on our boat where we wore the same and even met us at Gunnison Beach last summer where we tanned nude but he elected to leave his shorts on. I'm a big proponent of #2. We haven't had a person object, yet, when we told them ahead of time what we are wearing.
kiyoothong	#144
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/26/2024 12:00:11Copy HTML I also wore a thong in front of my gay friend without telling him beforehand. Last summer, I invited my gay friend to join me on the beach. I was already in a thong and my friend joined me later. He was not surprised to see me in a skimpy swimsuit and he was very casual. Because of his sexual orientation, I knew that he would be open minded. I have friends from church and I don’t think they are as open minded as my gay friend. One time, I got a whole lecture from a church friend who saw my Instagram post. I posted a photo of me in a thong, and he said that what I was doing was ungodly. I tried to defend myself by saying that it was just a photo of my underwear, but he was still quite adamant and wouldn’t back down. So, I don’t tell my church friends about underwear/swimwear preference, and I don’t go to the beach with them. My point is, you have to choose the right people talk to.
mbannon	#145
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/27/2024 02:12:04Copy HTML I have told some friends I'm a nudist and a thonger, some of whom think I'm nuts on that subject, but it hasn't changed the relationship. Six are church/Bible study friends, the rest are not. My reply to any possible Christian legalists is that Jesus never told anyone to change their clothing, but he did tell them to change their attitudes/ideas about God, himself, and others. Also, men and boys swam nude at the Young Men's Christian Association (YMCA) decades ago. Most of my friends don't swim/beach/pool. One friend joined me and went nude at Gunnison Beach and saw me thong there to and from the parking lot. No big deal. I have not told my family directly, but have said things about how libertarian the Miami, Florida scene is. I said how much I liked wearing a small swimsuit there and that I enjoyed the nude beach. We don't swim/pool/beach together so it probably doesn't matter.
RapidBlue	#146
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/27/2024 04:37:04Copy HTML Telling my friends that I wear a thong is fairly easy. They already know I dress with my own sense of fashion, bright colors and some wild designs. They have mostly seen me wearing leggings either for gym or for fashion when going out. A few have outright asked if I am wearing a thong under my outfit. I casually answer “yes indeed.” Many of my friends either have joined me at the beach or have seen photos that I have shown them of my beach time. So, they know I wear thong swimwear. It’s no big deal. My friends are actually quite supportive of my thong choice and will ask which thong I am wearing when going to the beach. My family on the other had, is a different story. They are very religiously conservative with strict moral codes. I will not discuss my thong choice with them. They already have enough difficulty with what they see me wear. They have outright expressed their distaste for men wearing anything less than long board shorts for beach attire. Even a square cut suit is disgusting in their opinion. They express similar opinions about women wearing thong bikinis, saying they are immoral. It is a bit sad that they are so unaccepting. I respect their choices and as a result keep my thong habit hidden from them.
Pantyhoseboi	#147
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/27/2024 04:37:58Copy HTML I would never tell family and friends.
kiyoothong	#148
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/28/2024 09:18:54Copy HTML I think RapidBlue has it spot on. Instead of blatantly telling your friends that you like to wear thongs, it might be better to give them hints. You can say you wear as little as possible when tanning on the beach. You can say you don’t like your underwear showing when you’re wearing tight pants. I am going to change my fashion for the 2024 S/S season. I am going to try to wear more white pants. This will give me a good reason to wear a thong under my white pants.
bonzo68	#149
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：01/28/2024 08:18:26Copy HTML This is how I told my closest friends. I told them I wear as little as possible, that is legal at each venue, and then I let the questions fly. Once they know I am comfortable in my own skin and they realize it's not a big deal, they let it go. In fact, they are usually very intrigued because they have never met anyone who feels so liberated. They may bring it up occasionally in future conversations, but I politely let them know I own it. It's not like I am trying to force them to follow my lead. However, if they ever wish to join me, I would gladly take them along. They also know I am a naturist and frequent resorts a few times a year. When they find this out, they know I am serious. This really gets them thinking whether or not they could do any of the above.
bonzo68	#150
	Re：How to tell friends or family Date Posted：11/22/2024 09:59:54Copy HTML Since being divorced for almost 11 years, I have still not found success in meeting any liberated women. I live in a rather rural area, in north central PA and most people are very conservative. A few friends know I enjoy wearing thongs, even in public, and some know I frequent nudist resorts. No one is interested in going to a nudist resort, to Fantasy Fest in Key West, etc. Yet when the subject comes up in conversation, the women are intrigued and curious and the men start to make non-favorable comments. It is frustrating to not know anyone interested in going to a resort for a day trip or to weekend getaway to the beach, with no (g-)strings attached. :) In any event, I may have an opportunity to meet someone a couple hours away, who is very successful in her career, has never been married (focused on her career instead), has no children, and is looking for companionship. The person trying to connect us is the daughter-in-law of a friend of mine. This person says the woman is looking to meet someone with children because she has never had children of her own. She is only 3 or 4 years younger than me. My friend's daughter-in-law even said he has no ties to where she lives now and can relocate to anywhere. With what I know so far, I would definitely be interested in meeting her. My question to the community here is, should I meet this woman (or any other woman for that matter), and we connect in any way, how soon and how should I mention my desire to wear minimal swimwear and thongs and go to nudist resorts? I would not want to "scare" her off. I am just curious for responses because sometimes I wonder if I will need to choose remaining single, with a lot of intrigued friends (who will not join me), or stop wearing thongs and going to nudists resorts. I would welcome any advice from anyone's personal experiences. Thank you.