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Date Posted：03/02/2021 03:06:17Copy HTML .
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| stringueur | #1 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/02/2021 01:36:09Copy HTML There are 3 main categories of reactions :
- POSITIVE
- NEUTRAL
- NEGATIVE
- NEUTRAL reactions.
This the main reaction. About 90% are neutral and don't react.
Neutral includes :
- people who take a second look (it is just curiosity to see something new or something different, it is not negative or positive) ;
- people who don't look at you ;
- people who interact with you like you wear a swim trunk
- POSITIVE reactions.
About 10% are postive reactions.
Positive reaction includes :
- a kind smile
- a positive comment about your swimsuit (most of the time, they don't say the word "thong")
- people whot put their towel close to you in order to be closer
- people who watch at you with pleasure
- willingness to chat with you ;
- getting cruised or hit on,
Sometimes you don't want this attention. But an unwanted attention is not a negative reaction. It may be a positive reaction.
Don't forget that women are used to receive unwanted attention and are used to deal with it. We have to do the same.
Don't forget that what is exposed to view, may and can be watched. As soon as I wear a thong swimsuit, I consider that every people is authorized to watch my buns if they want, no matter gender, age or physical fit.
A friend of mine told about thongers : if you don't want we look yours buns, don't show them...
- NEGATIVE reactions.
About 1% are negative reactions.
Negative reaction includes :
- people who move their towels farther. It is not a problem, it is their problem and it is always a good thing that assholes go farther.
- people who watch you with a nasty look. Most of the time, it does not last. People come back quickly to their own activities and it turns into neutral.
- people who make bad comments, loud enough for you to hear them. Most of the time, I don't react to theses comments because I don't want to open a dispute. I don't react, and people quickly stop to comment and they come back to others activities. They turns quickly into neutral. Sometimes, I tell them : " DON'T LOOK WHAT YOU DON'T LIKE". But these comments are less frequent since several years.
- people who make bad comments directly to you. This reaction is very uncommon. People prefers to make bad comments without speaking directly to you. I have not seen such behavior for several years.
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| JM_Runs | #2 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/02/2021 02:26:41Copy HTML These days most of my interaction with others is either on the street around my house, or out on the waterways.
On the street 89% is positive, people stop to talk, wave when they drive by or greet me by name. That includes the postman and UPS drivers.
Once in a while tourists cruising our streets will give an enthusiastic greeting.
Maybe 10% are neutral, people just drive by or bicycle past but don't do anything but take a look. Mostly the food delivery drivers or service workers like pool cleaners.
1% will act like they are ignoring me as they drive or walk past. The sort that won't return a smile or friendly wave because they are concentrating on a loud conversation with their phone as they stride past. Maybe the falling price of pork-bellies in Hong-Kong really is a crisis for them.
Out on the water 98% are positive. Friendly waves and smiles being most common, but there are also shouts of glee and cheers. If close enough there will be comments like "I like your suit", or simply "Yeah Man".
I guess if some in a passing boat wave and smile, but others don't show enthusiasm I still count that as positive, not neutral.
Sometimes I am paddle boarding past a road. Las Olas Blvd has a lot of traffic, cars, bikes and pedestrians coming and going to the beach. Most of the time people see me but most just carry on like normal, with only a few giving a cheer, mostly from cyclists and not pedestrians.
Passing tripper boats and water taxies generally have a few people waving smiling. Some times they can get keen enough that on smaller boats, if enough people rush to my side I hear the operator asking people to take their seats.
There is a cohort who consider themselves the hunters of the sea, the men who take fishing very seriously and fish without women in the boat. If anyone is going to pretend they did not see me it will be one of them, putting on the bro show in front of other guys. The other small group who may not wave and smile when passing are groups in rental boats. There is a fast growing business in renting small boats to tourists. The tourists on these are often not dressed for a day on the water, but like they were on a bus, and act the same way. However when it is not a self drive boat the professional operators are friendly and set the tone.
Once in a while I will get what I perceive as a rude comment shouted from a boat load of guys. This is RARE. I am going to say 0.1% of the time.
Generally this is never a straight up homophobic remark, but something like "Show us your willy". It is a challenge, rather like a shout of "Show us your tits" might be directed at women, except I don't think they really want me too. It is just a way of clowning around in front of other men, to say something funny or to put me on the spot. I don't normally have in instantly ready witty retort, so just smile, give an acknowledging wave and continue on my way.
Paddle boarders and kayakers, and people in their back yards are almost always friendly and often chatty. Only once in all my years have I heard a women in a group of rental kayaks say "There is a man in a thong, lets go the other way", only to get outvoted by her children and husband. He smiled and rolled his eyes, obviously a bit exasperated and embarrassed by his wife.
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| stringueur | #3 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/03/2021 10:08:51Copy HTML @JM_Runs
I think that thong acceptance depends on where you are.
It is interesting to understand why people have positive, negative or neutral reactions.
For POSITIVE reactions, I noticed different typologies of POSTIVE reactions.
- Liberty : people who want to live in a place where there is less social pressure, more liberties, etc. They don't wear thong but they are happy to see this freedom of bodies. So, they encourage pioneers and ambassadors of this freedom like men with a thong.
- Equality : people who want a total gender equality. So they encourage thong men because it promotes "gender equality".
- Fraternity : people you give confidence to themselves. Some people are not confident to wear a bikini or a speedo. To see a man with a thong give them confidence to wear their bikini, speedo.
- people who like to watch beautiful bodies.
- people who want an affair with you
For NEUTRAL reactions, I noticed 3 typologies of NEUTRAL reactions.
- Liberty. People who think that everyone does what they want as long as it doesn't bother others. So a thong man don't bother them, so they don't bother you. May be they don't like your thong swimsuit or may be they think you don' have the body to wear it, but they think your freedom to wear a thong swimsuit is much more important than their own sartorial taste.
- Equality. People who think that if women can do it, a man can do it too. They don't see where is the problem.
- Reserved people. People who have a positive reaction in their mind but are too reserved, too shy to show it. They didn't know how to give you a thumb up without being weird. So they prefer to don't react rather than having a misinterpreted reaction
For NEGATIVE reactions, I noticed 2 typologies of NEGATIVE reactions.
- those who are against thongs swimwear, no matter if you are a man or a woman. They feel empowered to make apply their own dress police. These people fell strong enough to make bad comments for a man because they think that others beachers will support them, but won't do it a for for a woman because they are afraid that others beachers won't support them.
In this category, we can find :
* people who are not comfortable with their body and the bodies of others.
* people who are convinced to have right all the time and don't accept other way of life :
- people who are narrow minded. They are against thong for men (and are Ok with women in thong swimwear) just because they are not used to see men in thong and and they have a double standard, a gender discrimination. In this category, we can find all kind of people from homophobic to people who react just by social conditionning without thinking by themselves.
Negative reactions may be also motivated by jealousy (you have nicer buns, or you have the courage to do it, etc.).
However, I am happy to note that there is less and less negative reaction since several years.
Yes, I still note a few negative comments but negative are fewer and fewer and thong women also face negative reactions from time to time.
Moreover whatever you do, you will never please everyone.
And I note that have much more negative comments from car drivers when I ride my bicycle, than from others swimmers whan I wear my thong swimsuit at my local swimming pool. I get as many bad comments in 1 day of cycling as in 1 year of thonging.
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| JM_Runs | #4 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/03/2021 02:24:54Copy HTML Funny, I had not correlated the negative comments from car drivers with negative comments about thonging, but you are very right: there is far more car drivers annoyed at cyclists. When on a bicycle the bad feedback ranges from nasty looks to physically threatening actions like passing too close or getting cut off.
I also pay taxes and just chose to use the road in a different way than you, or the majority out today, but I have just as much right to use the road in a perfectly legal way.
While the nasty looks and overhead comments are similar, when on a bike the physical aggression is far more common. People directly threaten our lives by deliberately squeezing's us against the curb, passing too fast or just not giving enough space while passing. There is far more direct aggression and selfishness from car drivers, ALL THE TIME. My head is on a swivel and my mind continuously calculating the risk from every car I see and even the ones I can't. Aggressive loud horn blasts and shouts of "Get off the road" are all to common, and these are the less threatening of the aggressions. Unless you go off-road mountain biking or to remote places we expect aggression from car drivers. I don't think we ever have a ride where EVERY car driver teats us with the respect we deserve.
I get more respect when paddle boarding in a thong. Most boats wave, smile, and slow when passing. There are still a few who ignorantly plow by throwing large wakes, but the majority are friendly and respectful.
I get more respect and love when wearing a thong than when cycling, or even standing in line at the checkout. Your mileage may vary. I think you identify a major source of negative reactions, people's own insecurities and delusions. Be these from their own physical or sexual inadequacies, lack of comfort with novelty, or just stupid religious or social prejudices. I find it easier to ignore and discount negative reactions when I realize these are comments from insecure, delusional and stupid people. |
| armand_galleon | #5 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/03/2021 06:24:58Copy HTML Never had a negative reaction, not even a catcall that I can remember. ~96% have been neutral (not even a giggle but some long/curious/surprised looks.
~4-5% have been VERY friendly. Accosted, spoken to, often moms with young kids--especially when I'm out with my two kids; lots of coy smiles, thumbs up, ....and of course "cruisers" walking back and forth, back and forth...
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| Thongmad | #6 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/04/2021 08:57:37Copy HTML Call me negative, but I think a lot of people here perceive a reaction as positive, where someone is actually making fun of them.
Most times that comment, cat-call or wolf-whistle is actually meant in an ironic way. Maybe that's just me, as we Australians have a very strong sense of irony entrenched in our culture which is learned from a very young age. You must be perceptive of the tone in which it is delivered to understand it's true meaning. This is something we become adept at very quickly.
The best way to explain it may be similar to the difference between an American and an English sit-com.
Most reactions we will never know. We can't tell unless we observe or hear from someone what their reaction is. We can only tell percentages from an extremely small sample size in a 'survey' or 'experiment' such as this. A smile from an observer may be a friendly or approving one, but could equally as likely be a wry or sarcastic type of expression. We cannot tell.
What we can measure is the effect it has on us, and how we react to what we see as feedback. Every sideways look or smile we see, we can perceive as positive if we choose.
Equally, we could perceive every smile as sarcastic, eroding our self-confidence.
Every time I go out in public wearing a thong, I get a whole array of reactions. Some are clear, others are not. Other peoples' opinions of me is none of my business.
I am not doing anything illegal, immoral, or offensive, so I shall continue to do as I always have and wear a thong wherever I am comfortable to do so.
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| JM_Runs | #7 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/04/2021 01:31:02Copy HTML As a kid who was bulled in school, both by teachers and kids, I am more than aware of when peoples comments are, or are not, positive. I can normally tell the difference between a genuine or sarcastic comment.
Statements like "Most reactions we will never know" and "A smile from an observer may be a friendly or approving one, but could equally as likely be a wry or sarcastic type of expression, we cannot tell" are just wrong.
Most of the time I can tell exactly what the intention is. Maybe it is many years of living, and living in different cultures, may have helped, but really it is not difficult. Almost all the kids in middle school can instantly tell who is being nice and who is being mean. This ain't rocket science.
I know that a few people with specific learning disabilities have a problem understanding intent, but for the rest of us, most of the time, this ain't an issue at all.
However I do have some insecure friends: They fear people don't really like them or are trying to manipulate them. For them the world is always gathering storm clouds, even on a sunny day. For them nothing good can be real, unless it has a hidden dark side. I think it is a form of depression, boarding on paranoia. Sometimes they are sure people are conspiring against them.
I have a good friend who tells me she spends a lot of time thinking about everything that could possibly go wrong from any action or decision, leading to paralysis and fear. She knows she has a problem and is seeking help. For people like this it is often difficult to see the bright side of life.
For the rest of us understanding the comments of others is less of an issue. Generally people mean what they say, and we are not so daft that we can't tell the occasional sarcastic or mean comment from the supportive ones.
Yes life can be terrible, but the Python crew were right, "Always look on the bright side of life". So if there is any comment or reaction which is ambiguous, assume it was positive and supportive. Assuming it is positive is not only good for your mental health, it is more than likely to be correct. People don't normally spend time making statements with which they disagree.
You might ask how I can be so sure. The answer simple: Communication is about transmitting information to another human. To the extent that any of it is in code, the decoding is done by the receiver.
If someone says something that was meant to be mean, but was translated by the receiver to be positive, the meanness has been stripped from the message. You, the receiver, control the final meaning.
Someone says "Nice Swimsuit" it does not matter what they intended to mean, if you smile and say "Thanks" they have given you a complement, whether they meant too or not.
Always remember half the people voted for Nazis, so they are not reliable arbiters of morals or taste. What they are thinking today is not your problem. You only control what is in your head, and the way you take complements.
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| tiggerix | #8 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/04/2021 02:42:35Copy HTML I dont think I have ever had any totally bad reactions, no matter I am naked, in a speedo, something smaller or a thong/string.
Family members from overseas have commented 'what is that?' when wearing a standard swimming Speedo, and 'that is so 1970s'. My OH told them 'it's the biggest swimwear he has'. Probably should have worn a smaller suit - but on that English beach the Speedo was far and away the smallest swimwear, plus the sea is rough and the Speedo stays on no matter what.
I have been laughed at whilst chasing a sun umbrella, caught by the wind, down the beach naked in Spain; but I guess that was really funny. No one else was naked and the one laughing was a very attractive topless girl with a bored shorts partner - I smiled back at her and shrugged. Later I walked to the showers still naked (not a nude beach) and got a bemused look from English/Irish male at the beach bar a few yards from the showers.
In Sardinia there have been chuckles as people walked past me and my OH both in thongs - so 2 sets of butt on display. On other Sardinia beaches I have had half conversations with older (Italian) females whilst in a white Kleim string with no issues, but a US girl said Yuk on seeing me strip off to that same white string (not see through btw)
A few men have given me what I think are bad looks - but they seemed the grumpy types anyway.
Last year on Greek island I came out of the apartment to the pool in a grey Kleim swim string and got some open mouthed looks from a Swedish family with two young boys who were all in the pool - they looked surprised more than anything - and that was before they had seen my butt.
Same holiday I was in the sea at a beach in an Asian very thin tanga style bikini that showed the outline of everything when wet and is a bit see through - had a smile and a hello nod with a 30 something y/o mother of small kids (not sure what nationality) but she seemed quite happy.
I don't think I have been anywhere that has many intolerant people around - most of the time people are disinterested, take a quick look and carry on with what they are doing.
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| delabole | #9 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/04/2021 02:58:33Copy HTML Life is too short for caring about grumpy, bring, farts. JFDI!
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| stringueur | #10 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/04/2021 03:25:39Copy HTML Like JM_Runs, I have enough experience to tell the difference between a real positive comment and an ironic or sarcastic comment.
Moreover, those who tend to react badly have little finesse of mind, or sense of humor. So it is not difficult to make the difference.
Non-verbal communication let you know the real meaning of a word or a smile.
Whatever I do, I will never please everyone.
So, I wear my thong, no matter what a few people may think. Most of the people don't care.
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| JM_Runs | #11 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/04/2021 05:12:42Copy HTML I agree, "Most people don't care."
It seems many male thongers are way to worried about what other people think, and for the most part most just people don't care.
There are some fabulous quotes along this line: "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind."
"If you don't like me, remember it's mind over matter. I don't mind and you don't matter."
"Don't let people that don't matter too much, matter too much."
"If it wont matter in 5 years don't spend more than 5 minutes getting angary about it."
"If you know yourself, you'll not be harmed by what is said about you."
"Intentions don't matter. Perception is reality. If people perceive you the wrong way it doesn't matter what your intentions are."
So don't be furtive or act creepy, BUT along the same lines, as I said above,
If you perceive a comment as a complement, and act accordingly by returning a happy smile, it does not matter if the person meant it ironically or sarcastically, it is now a complement, even if the intension was otherwise.
Which reminds me, irony and sarcasm are skills most Americans don't understand. Unless the recipient clearly understands the comment to be ironic or sarcastic, it is taken at face value. So take all complements as complements - problem solved.
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| Sybok | #12 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/06/2021 05:46:58Copy HTML Of the times I've been to the beach, I've had very few reactions. In fact it happened twice. Both were perceived as negative. There were these two European dudes in the water and close to me. When they saw me they started making kissing sounds loud enough I could hear it. I didn't get into the water again before I covered up.
The other one was even more ironic: 2 very young girls (teenagers probably), BOTH in thong swimsuits walk past me whilst I'm laying down on my beach towel, when one of them yells "damn!" and kept walking surprised as if a man wearing a thong was even possible in this Universe. I have to say I was a bit astounded they couldn't fathom that this was even possible.
Since then, I don't go into the water wearing just that. I do get some sun with them, but seeing as the beach is so crowded and full of children, I choose to not gather that much attention.
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| armand_galleon | #13 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：03/06/2021 10:01:20Copy HTML That's unfortunate. You should feel empowered to enjoy your time at the beach any way you want and not to feel forced (by your own perception) of what others expect of you (to wear). But, until you're comfortable doing as you please continue to enjoy yourself the best way you can and never leave frustrated for not having thonged in a different way. Of course I wouldn't want you to leave feeling regretful neither. Just get a feel for what the vibe is and go with it. ....and don't make more of a plausible negative comment than it's normal (everyone has an opinion but it's not our responsibility to cater to them) |
| LoveMyThongs | #14 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：04/03/2021 08:54:15Copy HTML I just got some new thongs for the beach. I went back to a skimpy thin strap y back style with these really cool prints. So when I stood up to walk to the water this woman caught me off guard but was topless and in a red and black thong. She looked at me and said she loved the print and the style on me. It made my day. We chatted for a couple of minutes but that comment was totally organic and genuine. Was so stoked after
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| JM_Runs | #15 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：04/12/2025 09:47:36Copy HTML In Mallorca, Spain. Our beach is a mix, mostly locals and English and German retires from Northern Europe, and a few tourists. The difference from Florida is a lot of the women go topless, young kids run around naked and most people mind their own business. I have noticed a lot less people come up to me and just start conversations, but this is true on the beach or just around town. People mostly keep to themselves and their group, be it family or group of friends. For the most part my thong wearing has been completely without any comments. People I know are friendly, locals say "Hola" or "buenos días". Everyone just takes that I wear a thong in stride. Now and again a kid or teen will look with curiosity, but that's about it. However, on two occasions I have had two men with very working class English accents tell me I look ridiculous. Both then pull the old "there are children" trope. One was last summer and one last week, so not that common. The husband in the recent incident was really miffed. When I told him to pound sand he said he would report me to the police. Since I know that for most of Spain you can go nude so long as you are not lude or deliberately causing offence I was quite prepared to call his bluff, especially since I was dressed very similar to his topless wife lying out beside him. What I found amusing about the recent incident was his wife was laying out topless and he had hiked up the legs of his shorts to speedo length, to get more sun. Just not brave enough to wear a speedo or less. I told him that if he thinks I look ridiculous that is a problem in his head, not mine. I am not surprised, but a little perplexed by the way these male Karens take a loud and angry strident tone of voice like they were telling-off a dog that ripped up the couch when they were out. They are like a barking dog instead of a person attempting to engage another in discussion. I wonder if they bully their wife and kids with the same tone-of-voice. Do they somehow think it enders me to their point of view? |
| RandyFL | #16 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：04/15/2025 04:54:19Copy HTML I was on a crowded beach this past Sunday for over two hours. Only one person looked at me the whole time, and that’s because she walked right in front of me. She smiled and said hello then set up about 20 yards from me. My wife is so concerned about people’s reactions to my thong but if she would go sit with me I think she would be surprised at the lack of attention that is paid to me or what I’m wearing. |
| stringueur | #17 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：04/16/2025 01:27:43Copy HTML As littleone55555 wrote it in an other topic, I haven't had someone compliment me on my swimwear, except once.
It was 10 years ago, I was with my wife and my kids on a family and crowded lake beach. This man, about 60 y.o. didn't believe his eyes there was a man with a thong on the crowded beach. He cruised us a few minutes and said "nice thong" and left immediately. Sure I made his day. My wife was a little jealous that I received a compliment.
It was the only time I received a compliment, a direct verbal compliment.
However, as I heard bad comments, sometimes I heard positive comments.
People who talk to each others and comments about my thong and my body.
Or sometimes, someone teased the woman who was oggling my buns. I remember this woman who move her towels because she was in the shadow. She came closer to me to be on the sun. Her friends (or family) chaffed her saying she was taking a better place. I made her day too.
As JM_runs noticed it, in Europe people make few verbal direct comments.
However, verbal communication is not the only way to communicate.
Nonverbal communication is often more revealing of what people are really thinking.
And I considered some behaviours or reactions like a compliment : a smile, a second look... are very revealing !
I remember this woman who sat on the bench, close to me. We were on lake beach. She was having her picnic, fully clothed. Clearly, she was not watching the lake or the mountains. And she was enjoying the view.
Indeed, we are very few men with thongs on the beach.
So, for some women, when there is 1 man with a thong in a relative good shape, they don't want to lose this opportunity because they won't have an other one before several years. In the same time, mens can oggle a lot of thong gals, each day, on each beach. |
| JM_Runs | #18 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：04/16/2025 03:24:19Copy HTML I was walking along the surf line,picking up any plastic I came across. Two teenage girls were all smiles and thumbs up. They smiled, waved and talked to me in Spanish. When I looked a little confused repeated the complements English, for collecting trash.
A local and his wife were dressed up to go to the fancy restaurants. The short way is to come down to the beach and cut across to the marina wall. He called me over, to thank me for helping keep the beach clean.
Picking up trash a is not only a good way to walk around getting a good tan, without looking like you are lurking or parading, but it ups peoples opinion of the thong man. |
| Tonymilw | #19 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：05/01/2025 02:43:04Copy HTML Given popularity with women wearing thong swimsuits the last few years what would you describe as the most frequent reaction? For me its neutral or none with the occasional sneaking of a photo |
| Dave88 | #20 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：05/01/2025 03:45:08Copy HTML In my experience, I've had many more positive reactions than negative, while a neutral reaction is probably happening a majority of the time. Completely agree with JM Runs on picking up trash, and have received several unsolicited positive comments while doing so. Since I'm not the type to sit or lay still much it works out well when there is trash to pick up. I find that reactions of any type are rather unpredictable, and probably depend more on the people around you at the time assuming you are not being creepy in your actions. A few months ago, a lifeguard came up to me and said a women expressed concern about my thong with regard to children in the area, and wanted me to relocate away from the area. It was clear his heart wasn't in it, but he needed to do something. He noted that I was set up just a few yards inside the "guarded area" sign, and all would be fine if I moved to the other side where he had no "authority". Seems silly, but I felt sorry for the kid and moved a few yards to keep everyone happy. Last week, on the same beach, a group of 15-20 young women were enjoying the sun when I arrived. I set up a very respectful distance from them, but still inside the "guarded area". On returning from my second trip to the water to cool off, one of the young women walked over to me and asked if I would pose for a picture with the bride! I was happy to oblige. The experience seemed to generate positive vibes everywhere, and the smiles on the young women's faces were wonderful. One of my best thong experiences. |
| CKWonderer | #21 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：05/02/2025 12:02:59Copy HTML Whether it’s at the beach pools or SUP on the local lake, I don’t usually get reactions one way or another. I’m always happy to wave or say hello to people as I pass them either walking or paddling around. Normally get a wave back or hello, but that’s about it.
This year have been out on the SUP three times this year so far and each time out I’m doing at least 5 to 7 miles and therefore passing a lot of boats, jet skis, or other kayaks and SUPs. Each time I’ve gotten positive hoots and hollers from people as they pass by.. That’s really not been the norm over the past couple years, but willing to take the positives anyway. |
| RandyFL | #22 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：06/15/2025 02:04:10Copy HTML I went to a local beach Friday afternoon and it was pretty crowded. I set up my chair in an open space and sat for two hours in my thong and again, no stares or comments. Maybe it’s not that big of a deal anymore because 70% of the women on the beach were wearing thongs. |
| RapidBlue | #23 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：07/16/2025 06:24:53Copy HTML New day, new experience.
I was set up on the beach this morning when I notice a woman pulling a picnic table out of the water. This, unfortunately, is a common occurrence at the park. The teens will pull the tables into the water to jump off and never take them out. Seeing her struggle with the table I jump up and offer to assist. I’m wearing a black and purple bulge enhanced thong. She accepts my help and we pull the table back to dry land. We then have a conversation about the disrespect and danger of having the tables in the water. She doesn’t have any reaction to what I’m wearing. Rather she was more interested in talking about packing it in/packing it out and how many people don’t do that. I head back to my chair and start reading. Not too long after the sky opens with a downpour. I’m running around in my thong collecting my things and running them up to the car. The woman I helped with the table comes by and makes comment about the surprise thunderstorm. We are both soaked. It’s just a day at the beach and wearing a thong is no big deal. |
| GregTomo | #24 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：07/16/2025 06:50:10Copy HTML It's so great to wear our thongs and be normal. I love these stories. So far when I talk to people at the beach, the thong is never brought up. One regular I talk to complimented my tan and I returned the favor. So in a way they do admire your thong, but they see the rest of you and/or just happy to have a good conversation. It's almost like thongs belong around water. |
| JM_Runs | #25 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：07/16/2025 08:26:11Copy HTML In over a year in Spain only one person made a negative comment about my wearing a thong, the rather loud and obnoxious Englishman who comes down in the summer. There may have been comments in Spanish that I did not understand.
There were a few men who said I was brave but Everyone else, including old friends of my mother and the old ladies who swim each day, said nothing. Other than an occasional comment on my choice of color for the day. |
| GregTomo | #26 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：07/22/2025 02:00:10Copy HTML Had a great positive reaction this past weekend. Niece joined me at the beach and I wore my thong for the first time in front of her and she was cool with it. It's not her thing but she thought I looked great in one. It was also my first time having company wearing a thong, other time I'm solo or I was covered up. The bonus was tossing the frisbee around in a thong, a first again, and had a blast. |
| RapidBlue | #27 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：07/23/2025 08:45:01Copy HTML It was a beautiful day, one that I could not pass up. I got out to the beach set up and started reading a book. A little while later I see to young women approaching my location. They stop in front of me on the sidewalk. I can hear them talking about where to set up. One says she wants to go down the beach further. The other says she wants to set up here. I notice her nod her head at me. I see both smile and step onto the sand near by. They both lay out their towels and strip down to thong micro bikinis. They give me a smile and lay out buns up. They obviously felt more comfortable laying out near someone wearing a thong knowing it wouldn’t be an issue for them as well. |
| bonzo68 | #28 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/04/2025 06:00:09Copy HTML I have worn everything from the-bikini.com g-strings, Cocksox swim thongs, Cocksox swim briefs, and Cocksox swim trunks. I have received negative comments at times, regardless of what I was wearing. Twice this year I was asked to wear something more appropriate. Just last week I heard giggles when I was walking by to leave a pool. I was wearing black Cocksox swim trunks. The Cocksox swim trunks are the most conservative suits I have. If I can’t wear these with no judgment from anyone, I don’t know what to do anymore.
I am sick and tired of being judged when I see women wearing minimal (yet legal) swimsuits everywhere I go. There is a fine line between what is legal vs. what is appropriate, especially for men. I literally live right next door to a community pool, and I have already been told by a lifeguard the Cocksox swim brief is inappropriate. I don’t know if I should attempt to wear Cocksox swim trunks at this pool or just not go to the pool anymore. What’s nice about this pool is its 200 yards from my house and it’s great to go on days where I don’t want to drive to a nearby state park with swimming facilities. As much as I hate to say this, I may have to break down and buy a pair of swim trunks that society considers normal. This is to end the anxiety when I go to ultraconservative venues with strict rules. I am not taking about board shorts that go to the knees. I am referring to something like Tucann swim trunks with a 3” inseam. However, I already know it’s going to feel like wearing a tent, compared to all other suits I currently own.
Has anyone else considered purchasing “regular” swim trunks that everyone feels is appropriate? If so, what brand would you recommend? If I would break down and buy something, I will still wear the minimal suits wear it is appropriate and legal. The problem is I need to drive long distances or fly to Florida in order to wear these suits. |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/04/2025 07:28:13Copy HTML @ Bonzo
1- get into top peak physical condition. Add a few tattoos. Get some pit viper shades. Get a nice quality cap.
2- wear a conservative thong, not pushing your package out, lined, in a basic color. Black is the best to start with. It's strong and subdued.
3- behave appropriately. Watch out where you bend over and keep it business as usual. Eliminate all exhibitionist behavior... matter of fact, I can't stand guys cruising or acting pervy...
4- women thongers at the pool are your indirect support system. Make the pool acknowledge the double standard.
Don't wear stupid cocksox.... the name in and of itself does not help your case.
Thonging appropriately isn't rocket science. |
| JM_Runs | #30 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/04/2025 08:01:49Copy HTML I agree with some of Guestguest's suggestions:
1) You don't need to be in top peak condition, but you don't want to be significantly overweight, or wear thongs that are too tight and make you look overweight by cutting into your blubber.
2) I agree that pushing your package out is probably the wrong way to go, especially in conservative locations.
3) Behave Appropriately. Good adivce.
4) "Women are your indirect support system." Too true. But don't go around bleating about a double standard. Just make friends with everyone, especially the women, even if they don't wear thongs or cheeky suits. Women, will often spring to your defense.
Cocksox is a manufacturing brand, not a baggie. Cocksox make products ranging from thongs to conservative square cut swim trunks. I am not sure why wearing one of their more conservative swimsuits would be a problem.
Don't be a wallflower, make friends. |
| RapidBlue | #31 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/04/2025 11:11:37Copy HTML Adding to the thread…
1. Wear a thong. Wear a thong that fits your body, not one that you feel you need to adjust or fix or move to keep it in place.
2 Be friendly, kind and respectful. Don’t be afraid to say Hi.
3. Act like you belong on the beach or at the pool.
4. Don’t be afraid of color or patterns. From my experience the brighter or more fun pattern my thong is the more positive reactions I get.
5. Don’t let those who have a negative perception ruin your day. It’s just their opinion or issue.
6. Make beach friends. They will support your swimwear choice.
7. Women are most definitely your indirect support group. When they do show support, show your appreciation.
8. Relax and have fun. Fun is contagious. When others see you having fun they are more likely to see you as just another happy beach/pool person. Or, they will want to join in the fun. A great way to make new friends.
9. Be confident.
10. Wear a thong, even if you are the only man on the beach or at the pool doing so. |
| sailor250 | #32 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/05/2025 01:34:58Copy HTML For superstrict places I will wear a mesh tan thru but not see thru square cut boxer design to maintain an all over tan. Yes some see this as a "bikini" but they're larger. They're about the same coverage as a "mom tankini"! |
| AnonUser30 | #33 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/05/2025 01:50:15Copy HTML @Bonzo68 - I think it's normal to have to read the room and adjust your outfit accordingly. I have a square cut bathing suit that seems to work in more conservative situations. I wouldn't try wearing a thong at my neighborhood pool. In general, I think beaches are more open than pool. |
| bonzo68 | #34 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/05/2025 01:59:35Copy HTML At the local community pool, all women and girls are always wearing full back bikinis or full one-piece suits. I have never seen tangas or thongs on any females at this community pool. Let it be known, I was not wearing a thong at this pool, nor would I ever attempt to wear a thong at this pool. I know better.
Please keep in mind, this pool is in a VERY conservative, predominately Catholic, relatively small community. I was wearing a Cocksox swim brief when someone complained and asked a lifeguard to talk to me. I was not walking around, and I was not going in and out of the pool. I was just working on my tan. Coincidently, I was only approached after I had been lying on my stomach for 30 minutes and turned over to tan the front.
The sign at the pool says no inappropriate swimwear. This leaves it open for interpretation. However, because of the general mindset of the community, I feel anything less than board shorts is deemed inappropriate. This is just my opinion based on conversations I have had with many people.
In hindsight, I think I would have been fine wearing the Cocksox swim trunks, but now I am very nervous to go back to this pool wearing anything less than board shorts. |
| mack_back | #35 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/07/2025 08:50:01Copy HTML Going to right beach is half the battle. Wearing different micro g-string or skinny side thongs to get them tan lines. Noticed regulars on the clothing optional beach are conditioned to my fashion style.
None compliments me unless gal is drunk only pointing giving a thumbs up.
Other regular thong wearing gals do subtly notice my different color thongs and prints. Only feedback i see visiting the c/o beach gal wearing exact same print i wore previous visit.
Since gal began wearing print thong only after i noticed she changed to another color similar to me. All this can be coincidence or means just to acknowledge my thonging is noticed and liked. Silent compliment of sorts often gal will observe my wide eyed reaction. Hey i wore that same print thong previously on the beach. Huh guess that’s just coincidence since gal has her backside facing me.
Not oblivious to dissonance and fun fashion war some ladies enjoy engaging. I wear this next time i wear that only to show off nearby so i don’t miss outfits and color thongs gal is wearing..
Some gals don’t know i carry many thongs. After i pack up and dry off i change to appropriate thong. So to show off to those intrigue. Usually it’s silent fashion message for next beach visit. Which gal plays along matching the thong color.. |
| RapidBlue | #36 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/22/2025 08:12:01Copy HTML I’m out at the beach today wearing a Tropical Thong yellow with fringe on the back thong. It was a very nice day. There was a couple (man and woman) set up near by. As they left the stopped me and said “you look great. You already know that don’t you.” That was an unexpected compliment. |
| MNluvthongs | #37 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/23/2025 12:10:57Copy HTML In Europe in the past they went nude. In Germany it used to be every public park was clothing optional! Women laid out topless at least and the nudies practiced discretion and stayed away from the main crowds. Anyone know if that is true? Frankfurt used to have the sand pits by the airport and they were all nude. I went there once and got nude and the most amazing good looking German woman showed up and got nude. I would say she had a perfect body. |
| kiyoothong | #38 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/24/2025 11:11:01Copy HTML I've been going to the same pool for nearly two months. It's an outdoor pool with about 50 sunbeds and a bar. So far, I haven't had any negative remarks from other people. Only once did the manager come by and ask me to be a bit more discreet because there were children around. I was walking around in a thong, and the manager told me to cover up.
I even had a conversation with a Korean lady. She was in a thong bikini and was tanning by the pool, so I did my best to set up next to her. I asked her if my swimsuit bothered her, and she said no. Then, I offered her my sunscreen, and we pretty much hit it off right away. She wasn't weirded out by my thong, and we talked for about two hours. |
| shs92645 | #39 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：08/26/2025 12:19:41Copy HTML I’ll bet the manager didn’t ask the Korean lady to put more on! |
| thonglife | #40 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：09/03/2025 01:53:48Copy HTML I had a weird experience recently. My wife and I were at a neighborhood pool that I go to regularly. It's a big, resort-style pool with lots of space. I always wear either a bikini or a thong bikini to layout. I know a handful of people there, but I mostly keep to myself. Everyone sees me and what I am wearing, and I have never had any comments. But the other weekend, we were there, and it wasn't crowded yet. A man, a bit older than me, probably late 50's who had been laying out, probably 30 feet from us - just got up and walked over to me with his phone out pointed at my butt and said 'I want to take a photo for my roommate'. I sat up and turned around to him and said 'No dude, no pictures'. Then I was like 'what's up, why are you trying to take my photo'. He said something again about his roommate and 'I hear thongs are getting popular'. My wife just looked at him with a serious WTF scowl. He walked back to his chair and packed up and left. I still wasn't sure of his motivation, but it was certainly odd. I mean just sneak the photo from your chair, lol. My wife said he probably did that too. |
| JM_Runs | #41 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：09/03/2025 03:05:36Copy HTML I would rather have people be upfront about photos than sneaking them.
Instead of saying "I want to take a photo" he should have said "Would you mind ..."
Better yet would have been to pay you a compliment first.
One has to make a little allowance for the current poor standard of education and civility. Most people don't intend to be deliberately blunt or rude. |
| RapidBlue | #42 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：09/03/2025 09:40:20Copy HTML I showed up at the beach today wearing a blue tie side thong, with the strings hanging about knee length. Over the top of my thong I wore a wide fishnet pair of blue short shorts. Almost immediately I heard; “That’s so cute!” With a huge smile she was admiring my choice for the day. After I took off the shorts I heard; “you’re so lucky. Your butt is so dark, as dark as your back. I’m so envious.” |
| kiyoothong | #43 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：10/06/2025 10:41:54Copy HTML Yesterday, I was sunbathing at the gym pool in a pink thong. Next to me was a man who looked to be in his 70s. He kept staring at me without saying a single word. When I looked at him, he smiled and said hi. I said hi to him but I didn’t start a conversation.
I guess he was enjoying the view but was shy to talk to me. |
| navythong | #44 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：06/21/2026 07:20:58Copy HTML I was hitting the beach yesterday. I’m on vacation in France. After a while sunbathing I took a walk along the water line in an iSwim thong. On my way back, there was a guy standing near the water line, more or less looking in my direction. As I came closer and I said ‘bonjour’ (good day in French) he immidiately said that my ‘string est tres jolie’ (your thong looks nice/lovely). As I was holding still and do some small talk, he checked out my front and back side and repeated ‘tres jolie’! Unfortunately he only spoke French and my French is ‘rather basic’, so a real conversation about thongs and thonging was not possible. Despite that, he made my day with his (very) positive comment! |
| Stacks | #45 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：06/21/2026 08:03:47Copy HTML My hierarchy of reactions:
-Positive: Genuine, warm remarks about how the person loves my swimsuit, how flattering it looks, or something else in the spirit of warm acceptance.
-Neutral, good: Someone engaging in warm conversation with me while I wear my swimsuit, without remarking either way on what I'm wearing.
-Neutral: Being left alone or unnoticed. Probably the most common interaction (or lack thereof).
-Neutral, bad: Being made any sort of spectacle, whether in a good-natured spirit or not. That's not the kind of attention I'm looking to draw.
-Negative: Well, negative reactions. |
| mack_back | #46 |
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Re：Positive v. Neutral or Negative Reactions Date Posted：07/01/2026 05:13:41Copy HTML Chatting with elderly female bodybuilder for second time. She can be often absent minded not aware repeating same topics from previous conversation.
Topic of my physique and tan was mentioned from lady bodybuilder. Asking if i tan naturally, or ever get darker tan. Explaining her spray tan when competing.
Decided to answer her question display screen shot of myself in G string rear side thong full body shot from the beach.
She sat while i held my phone out for observation. Reason i did so she mentioning wanting to show her past bodybuilding stage ready photos.
Lady bodybuilder looked at my photo then looked upon my body taking double take for any similarities.
Placed my phone down shrugging, saying don’t tan as much as in the past as photo showed being early summer.
She kept silent processing what was observed then scanning me over focusing on my glutes. Bodybuilder lady gave me repeated compliment as earlier about having good body. Curious questioning my ethnic background. Reporting her husbands skin tone being pale in comparison, Germanic white. Appeared she didn’t flinch or mention the g-string. Assume it was her years of competition bodybuilding wearing tiny bikinis seeing men wear similar swimwear string suits.
Overall i assumed she was later scanning aware of my glute shape. Since i was wearing brief spandex boxer cut one inch inseam red gym shorts, and tight waist length razorback tank top. Neutral to polite criticism response adding ii should have bigger legs. Despite her critique about my body. That goes with territory of bodybuilders mindset, Never satisfied with physical features, always room to improve. She labeled herself vain, responding we all are in this physical training being aesthetic pleasing. Had feeling of satisfaction and delight introducing the photo for elderly female bodybuilder to witness. Confident of my beach pose of side rear glute being visible. Found it exciting, euphoric being able to share semi nude g-string pictures to the absent minded elderly women. After a time of chit chat elderly women came to push the belief i should find a girlfriend. Then mentioned types of ethnic females i should search for, asian filipino being submissive, to dark black. Told her some gals on her list aren’t very beach friendly. She smiling, chuckling agreeing.. Doubt lady will remember me on our future conversations. Begin same topic over again about herself. Boasting about her bodybuilding career and sudden decline. Although nice to know women i infrequently for few years recognized in the gym. Has witnessed me in a sling g-string on sunny beach. Even though it was picture on my phone. Don’t know what effect it had on her faculties.witness my tan smooth buttocks and overall lean oiled shiny body. Doesn’t leave me ashamed or embarrassed to show but confident in my own skin. Not perfect but content how i appear with genetics i have. Maybe it’s easier because women was elderly and married. No evidence from her current physique she ever was competitive bodybuilder. Making any comparison to physical features and judgements about me condemning or emasculating. Although did witness couple pretty lean females squat heavy 225-275lbs. Feeling slight shame and embarrassment training similar weight. Doubt any of those gals would take to kindly towards complimenting me in a thong. Or very least respect my runners lean body type. |
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